Camming = Intimacy/Social Issues?

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    Dec 26, 2014 4:27 PM GMT
    I can't get over how many guys are interested in camming. I always assumed they would be ugly, out of shape guys who can't attract someone in real life, but that's not really true. Some of these guys are pretty hot and some guys absolutely refuse to meet in person but will harass you relentlessly to jack off with them on cam. I just don't get it. There is one guy who lives less that two miles from me who is always requesting permission to view my cam but the minute I suggest meeting in person, he disappears only to appear on my screen a few days later. My guess is that (at least some of the time) a lot of these guys have deep intimacy issues or are very socially awkward. Just thought this would be a good topic for conversation. What are your thoughts on this?
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    Dec 26, 2014 5:10 PM GMT
    I don't get it either. Tried it once or twice when my laptop was new (hey, gotta use the cam for something. At least once.) No big thrill - there are hotter guys, or at least guys with better lighting - on free porn sites.

    Gotta admit though, it is the ultimate in safe sex. Unless, depending on who you are and where you live, you get caught transmitting or viewing a forbidden image.

    I seem to have caught a cold from my last IRL date...
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    Dec 26, 2014 5:46 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidI don't get it either. Tried it once or twice when my laptop was new (hey, gotta use the cam for something. At least once.) No big thrill - there are hotter guys, or at least guys with better lighting - on free porn sites.

    Gotta admit though, it is the ultimate in safe sex. Unless, depending on who you are and where you live, you get caught transmitting or viewing a forbidden image.

    I seem to have caught a cold from my last IRL date...

    Reminds me of the sex scene in the movie Demolition Man.
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    Dec 26, 2014 6:28 PM GMT
    It's a lot easier to break things off if for whatever reason the other guy doesn't get you hot. "Oops, sorry, I've got a phone call." Click.
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    Dec 26, 2014 7:23 PM GMT
    There are pros and cons to the camming stuff. I think the biggest thing with camming is that 1) if you're an exhibitionist, the idea of having someone watch you is a turnon or 2) if you're a voyeur, the idea of watching someone else (Without them seeing you) is a turnon.

    truth be told, it's "safe" enough in the fact that you don't have to worry about not only STIs, but 1) bad stinks/breath; 2) bad kissing; 3) bad touching (someone pressing too hard, or not hard enough).

    human interaction can sometimes be gross, even if it's with someone who physically looks great...so being able to do it on a cam could resolve some of those issues.

    some folks get off on the control aspect of it. making someone do a specific act via a webcam has a different affect on their brain than making someone do it "in real life".

    there's no "worrying" about top vs bottom. and someone can totally act like one or other on cam without having to really do it in person (which could make them more uncomfortable).

    these are just a few speculations. :shrug:

    shame the guy who lives so close to you doesn't even want to meet in real just for a coffee, or dinner, or drink, or whatever.

    I don't really know if it's an intimacy or social problem. :/
  • FuerteC

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    Dec 28, 2014 10:42 PM GMT
    Just meet them isn't it? But I assume they are so very far apart they then cam.
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    Dec 28, 2014 11:00 PM GMT
    I thought about this too. I suspect they have some type of social anxiety. Or they're not totally comfortable with being gay yet. Or they're on the downlow.

    Or they're actually recording you and uploading your video to various amateur porn sites. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 29, 2014 12:47 AM GMT
    I like what willular wrote above. There's still a bit of a fantasy aspect that exists with camming that can easily dissipate when you meet someone in person. On cam, there's much less chance of being disappointed.

    If a guy lived only 2 miles away, though, I'd give it at least one opportunity to meet in person. But if someone had some degree of social anxiety, I could see why they wouldn't.
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    Dec 29, 2014 2:31 AM GMT
    Just give it time. In the future, the technology will mature enough where we can have virtual sex through the internet. It will all be sterile and not so icky. Our senses are just electrical impulses anyways.
    http://youtu.be/ZFrkcCufwK4?t=1m30s
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    Dec 29, 2014 11:53 PM GMT
    xrichx saidOur senses are just electrical impulses anyways.

    We're all slaves to our electrical impulses. icon_lol.gif