Gay Engagement/Weddings

  • bj87nyc

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    Dec 28, 2014 6:25 PM GMT
    Hi all - quick question. How common is it to propose with an engagement ring in the gay world? How does that process normally work? Should the person doing the proposing buy two matching rings?
  • bakerbrand

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    Dec 28, 2014 10:03 PM GMT
    I believe it is fully up to you and your partner.

    My boyfriend and I are working our way down that path. He knows that I would like to be the one to propose when I'm ready and he is very understanding of that. We have looked at rings and I know what he would like when the times ready.

    As for matching rings, if you want matching there is nothing wrong with that but there is no reason for them to be matching if tastes are different.
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    Dec 28, 2014 10:33 PM GMT
    in place of a ring, get a ring finger tat. It will last longer. Human nature being what it is; dont seriously not think that bad times will not come to pass. A physical symbol, when all else seem to fail really really works. so yes get a ring something. Your relationship should be no less, even more than what your parents have or had.

    Serious:
    blueNile.com works but not thrifty or likely not original. They have excellent customer support There are some affordable NYC jewelry stores on line. Either way have him and you pick and choose online.

    rings are not big issue but getting the correct size is odd. Every boy, every finger seems to have a different size. Best to both of you get your size done at a couple of stores and try on rings you dont like but just to verify the size# works.

    Dont get anything too thin, gaybros are hard on jewelry. Conisder a heavy yellow gold channel ring with yellow diamonds.

    good luck in the new year.
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    Dec 28, 2014 10:37 PM GMT
    I felt that I couldn't propose, as I was to benefit from the marriage (my greencard). I begged my boyfriend not to go down on one knee when he was about to propose. We didn't have rings ready at the engagement, because it happened immediately after the SCOTUS ruling in June 13 and we picked them later before we got married. They are family pieces, so are traditional gold wedding bands.
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    Dec 28, 2014 10:43 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI felt that I couldn't propose ... I begged my boyfriend not to go down on one knee...
    any man should be extremely nervous, otherwise a fool getting into such a contract. In the case of two husbands even more.
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    Dec 28, 2014 10:45 PM GMT
    we didn't have engagement rings. just matching wedding bands. from Kay Jewelers.
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    Dec 29, 2014 1:46 AM GMT
    pellaz said
    bhp91126 saidI felt that I couldn't propose ... I begged my boyfriend not to go down on one knee...
    any man should be extremely nervous, otherwise a fool getting into such a contract. In the case of two husbands even more.

    Not sure I understand what you're trying to get at. The marriage didn't change anything between us.
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    Dec 29, 2014 2:30 AM GMT
    I asked my man to marry me last spring. I had not even looked at rings yet. We enjoyed a nice engagement then picked out rings about a month before the wedding. We married 10/23/14 in Santa Fe. It was truly the BEST day of my life.
    Funny thing is, I had not planned on us having matching rings, but we both fell in love with the same wedding band, so they ended up matching after all. I've enjoyed being married and many ask if it feels any different and I have to say yes.
    Very different. Much closer and completely different than just living together or saying he's my BF or other half.
    They bond has changed for both of us and it's felt everyday.
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    Dec 29, 2014 2:37 AM GMT
    pellaz said
    bhp91126 saidI felt that I couldn't propose ... I begged my boyfriend not to go down on one knee...
    any man should be extremely nervous, otherwise a fool getting into such a contract. In the case of two husbands even more.

    I don't think I follow that line of thinking either.
    I was not nervous at all asking Jack to marry me. We we're more nervous trying to keeps our vows straight in front of family and friends than getting engaged.