Can some give me some tips, how to find a bf?

  • Sodajoy

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    Dec 29, 2014 3:16 PM GMT
    i've been single for 2 years right now................
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Dec 29, 2014 5:47 PM GMT
    How do I boil an egg?
  • devonterus

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    Dec 29, 2014 6:12 PM GMT
    It will happen just give it time I'm single but talking to someone just until then wait on it don't rush things if it's mention time be then its ment to be icon_lol.gificon_smile.gificon_biggrin.gificon_exclaim.gif
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    Dec 29, 2014 6:15 PM GMT
    REALLY??? Ive been single for the past 32 yrs... LOL..

    BTW.. You are cute though... but to far away.
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    Dec 29, 2014 8:13 PM GMT
    Don't be so guarded. Your profile is empty. I can only assume your the same way when meeting guys. You have to be open.
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    Dec 29, 2014 9:06 PM GMT
    Stop believing you need to be attached to be satisfied with your life. Place yourself in situations where you must engage with new people. Figure out who you are so you can understand what you're looking for.
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    Dec 29, 2014 9:33 PM GMT
    Sodajoy saidi've been single for 2 years right now................


    Go to Palm Springs, there are lots of old white men - some who are in decent shape who are looking for young things like you. Better yet, try sending an email David Geffen - he likes them very young.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 29, 2014 10:11 PM GMT
    TO22 saidStop believing you need to be attached to be satisfied with your life. Place yourself in situations where you must engage with new people. Figure out who you are so you can understand what you're looking for.

    The irony is that as soon as you get to that place where you're happy as you are, suddenly it seems like finding a relationship becomes easy.
  • txcrew22

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    Dec 30, 2014 1:58 AM GMT
    Agreed... somehow when you stop looking so hard, they come chasing you icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 30, 2014 2:36 AM GMT
    Take a risk, take a chance, maybe then you'll find romance.

    I know the reason I'm single is because I don't put myself out there enough. It can't be helped here though, since smoking in bars is legal and I don't know of many other ways to meet guys in this crapshoot of a town. Sure there's volunteer work but I don't do well dealing with people all day. I learned that waiting tables when I almost dumped a tray over someone...intentionally.
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    Dec 30, 2014 4:03 AM GMT
    . Just be happy with yourself and don't try too hard, enjoy the things you do and focus on yourself. Arg, he'll come when he'll come. I'm not even sweating it anymore.
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    Dec 30, 2014 6:06 AM GMT
    you just have to let it come to you, the time will come when the right guy will be there for you.
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    Dec 30, 2014 9:05 AM GMT
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    Dec 30, 2014 10:29 AM GMT
    Yup and when your done can you help me to find my balls please ? Cheers icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 30, 2014 2:56 PM GMT
    TO22 saidStop believing you need to be attached to be satisfied with your life. Place yourself in situations where you must engage with new people. Figure out who you are so you can understand what you're looking for.


    This, plus also try relying more on your smile and face than your body. That which you highlight is very much what people see.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 30, 2014 4:24 PM GMT
    I've always felt you need to be comfortable in your own skin, do social things that allow interaction with other people or get involved in positive projects that help others. I would never make "finding a bf" a priority.
    Put yourself out there, enjoy life and productivity and when you least expect it, you might meet someone and hopefully the right kind of guy you adore.
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    Dec 30, 2014 8:26 PM GMT
    Be yourself. If men have problems with who you are, then that's their loss, though ask yourself, how you can improve yourself, become a better person. Don't be afraid to talk to others and try to be open. You can't just expect someone to come up to you and offer you the world. However, don't make it a priority to find a boyfriend. You'll come off as needy. It's true what they say, that sometimes a great person comes into your life when you least expect it.

    Also, sometimes it doesn't hurt to just ask. icon_cool.gif
  • secondstartot...

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    Dec 30, 2014 8:47 PM GMT
    ask your self this question
    " Would I date me ? "
    work on yourself outside and in ....this is a jock site ...not one jock was born like that - they spent most of their life sweating to be what they are
    get a hobby
    join some groups where you can hang out with people gay and straight old and young
    volunteer is a soup kitchen for the homeless
    become someone amazing ...
    to love yourself is the beginning of a life long romance....then if you meet someone it will be a bonus ...not the be all and end all

  • fijiguy23

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    Dec 30, 2014 10:12 PM GMT
    I've been waiting for the right guy to come along but I'm tired of waiting. I've been talking to a few guys on Scruff and even met up with some of them but it's clear to see that they just want sex, and I can't give them that. I really hold myself back when it comes to sex. I'd rather be in a relationship with someone first before I get into that. Sometimes I feel like I should just give in and do it.
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    Dec 30, 2014 10:39 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    TO22 saidStop believing you need to be attached to be satisfied with your life. Place yourself in situations where you must engage with new people. Figure out who you are so you can understand what you're looking for.

    The irony is that as soon as you get to that place where you're happy as you are, suddenly it seems like finding a relationship becomes easy.


    Exactly ;) (it's a trick) but you also have to fully believe you're happy for the trick to work, or else God gets angry that you're trying to up him.
  • Noeton

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    Dec 30, 2014 11:41 PM GMT
    It just comes down to putting yourself out there and meeting guys and seeing what works and what doesn't. Find out what attracts you and aim for mutual attraction. I think you should avoid over-thinking it and listening to pop-psychology, which probably is self-defeating.
  • Apparition

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    Dec 31, 2014 12:03 AM GMT
    Ask. 99% of fags are too chickenshit to do so. All waiting for mr right to come along and sweep them off their feet. Take your pick. Do the work and they will say yes.
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    Dec 31, 2014 3:35 AM GMT
    I hate when people say 'be yourself'
    Yeah - thats what the problem is.
    I dont know, try being someone likeable...
    Dont pretend, just, be that person.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 31, 2014 3:54 AM GMT
    Go in the closet and deny you are gay ... for some reason it turns guys on and they start talking to you and asking you outicon_mad.gif
  • christastic

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    Dec 31, 2014 3:57 AM GMT
    Blondizgd said
    Sodajoy saidi've been single for 2 years right now................


    Go to Palm Springs, there are lots of old white men - some who are in decent shape who are looking for young things like you. Better yet, try sending an email David Geffen - he likes them very young.


    lol eww icon_smile.gif