Tops: What do you find attractive in a bottom?

  • Kazachok

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    Dec 30, 2014 1:17 AM GMT
    So tops, what do you find attractive in a bottom?
    Not just sexwise, but in general.
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    Dec 30, 2014 5:01 AM GMT
    His butt.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 30, 2014 5:33 AM GMT
    I cannot think of any attribute that would make a bottom attractive in my eyes beyond the attributes that make every man attractive in my books.

    Being a total top, once we start messing around, I first and foremost find a good, positive sexual attitude to be very attractive. A dude who understands sex as play, and does not have problems in letting himself go and enjoy it for what is it worth.

    A bottom dude who thinks that topping a guy is all about pleasing him alone, while he is lies like a board is not my idea of a good bottom. A dude who shows how much he enjoys the play, on the other hand is a bottom worth topping well.

    Every bottom is a story to himself. Bottom dudes who are good communicators make the experience worth repeating for both guys involved.

    Like so many things in life, good sex is about giving and taking. A good top will go to quite some length to adjust the play to suit his bottom. And a good bottom dude will do exactly the same.

    Last but not least, some experience on both sides is required. You need to know what comes with the territory before you go there. If in any doubt, talk about it. I like giving a dude a good facial. But I also understand that facials are not everybody's favorite. Talk first...

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    Feb 28, 2015 2:18 AM GMT
    Flexibility, in bed and out of bed.
  • Apparition

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    Feb 28, 2015 3:03 PM GMT
    My cum
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    Feb 28, 2015 4:29 PM GMT
    HikerSkier saidHis butt.


    Mystery solved!
  • vhotti26

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    Feb 28, 2015 8:09 PM GMT
    Activity. Hate bottoms that just lay there and let the top do all the work, I want a pig power bottom in my bedroom when I top.
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    Feb 28, 2015 10:11 PM GMT
    I'm mainly a bottom ,, but when I do do tho a guy I like him to be a squirmer ,, some one who knows how to match movement with every thrust.
  • Svnw688

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    Feb 28, 2015 10:36 PM GMT
    I'm 100% bottom, but I know how to please and keep a man. A hot bottom:

    (1). MUTUALITY. Is not too demanding, and realizes sex is a SHARED activity and it isn't ALL about the bottom.

    (2). SPACE. Isn't too clingy, smothering or otherwise a wet-blanket. Give a man his space. Don't mother him, unless he's got a cold.

    (3). F HIS BRAINS OUT. Finds the one "kinky" thing he loves, that he's afraid to admit, and do it. Even if you don't like it. Ass to mouth? Guys wearing jocks? Dirty talking? I don't like any of those things, but my guy does, so I do them with enthusiasm. If I won't, he can find thousands of guys who will.

    (4). GIVE. Be willing to apologize and let him win sometimes. Generally, if you feel like you're doing 60% of the sacrifice and work in a relationships, things are actually balanced--because humans naturally think they do more work than they do. I'll be damned if I let a guy dictate to me, or run me. But relationships ARE work, and you can't win every argument. Yes we can watch your (stupid) movie. Yes we can order in Chinese tonight (even though I want pizza). I'm very demanding, but I constantly remind myself it's NOT all about me.

    I'm not perfect--I'm far from it, but guys--even adamantly "I don't do relationship guys"--always fall for me and happily stay with me. The only time my relationships have ended is when I move (college, to law school, to work, etc).
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    Mar 01, 2015 3:46 AM GMT
    Of course, a nice ass is tops. A bottom who likes to fuck and gives as good as he gets.
  • mybud

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    Mar 01, 2015 3:49 AM GMT
    Unbridled PASSION...
  • Buddha

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    Mar 01, 2015 8:12 AM GMT
    Ass

    A slutty bottom that still quivers a bit when you go deep, but someone who can still take it all.

    I know a lot of guys like it, but I personally don't like when a bottom pushes against my dick if I'm fucking him doggy. I want to decide when he gets it or not, usually thrusting hard and deep when they do that let's me control again. It's fine of course if they're riding.

    A bottom who you can mouth-fuck.

    I usually prefer a shorter bottom, but it's also a bit sexy of the reversed with a taller/bigger bottom.
  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 01, 2015 10:15 AM GMT
    Shorter/smaller, though a tall bottom can be hot.

    Submissive, but still manly, if that makes sense. I guess that would be a power bottom?

    Vocal/verbal. Nothing worse than a quiet bottom.
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    Mar 01, 2015 11:24 AM GMT
    vhotti26 saidActivity. Hate bottoms that just lay there and let the top do all the work, I want a pig power bottom in my bedroom when I top.

    I agree with this.
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    Mar 05, 2015 11:48 PM GMT
    Bubble but with as little hair on it as possible and most importantly being tight enough so his hole doesn't require a tree trunk to avoid saying is it in yet. Not being a selfish btm be willing to try different positions as well
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    Mar 06, 2015 8:59 AM GMT
    Ditto to all who said they don't like thrusting into a corpse. haha And also to those who want the action to be like a dance, each partner guiding the other to ensure maximum mutual enjoyment. I WANT the guy I'm boning to have as good a time as I am when I'm inside him. Later for all this bad-ass tough guy shit some of the dudes here are talking, "If he resists I'm gonna shove deeper & harder to show who's boss." Most of the guys (OK, so it was only 5) I've opened up my back door for played that. And the sex was terrible! Instead of feeling all stretched & relaxed afterwards I had to walk around & sit down with a sore butt. Good times. Yeah right. For one of us.

    Smooth is ideal but some hair back there is definitely hot - not so much during the munching phase of foreplay though. I'm studying health care so get weirded out over what germs could be lurking in the fur.
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    Mar 07, 2015 8:14 AM GMT
    Bullet Point 7 for sure!!! Then just lying there, full penetration achieved, and listening to two delighted sighs. Even fucking a one-and-done hookup has its romantic moments. haha
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    Jun 11, 2015 1:00 PM GMT
    Big, round, bubble, apple, peach, etc. butt. icon_smile.gif
    And a flexible tongue.
  • Elian

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    Jun 11, 2015 3:52 PM GMT
    Psychically... I cannot really say what my type is, I'll judge on individual basis.

    Attitude wise cheeky and playful guys.

    I consider myself a "pleaser", knowing the guy is enjoying it turns me on a lot.I think a guy who moans or says when he is liking is really hot, in fact if I realize its hurting or he is bottoming without really wanting it... its a big turn off. Foreplay is a big thing so guys that are comfortable with their body in general get lots of points... Also "asking for it" as in asking me to go all the way instead of me deciding to do so, its loooads of points.


  • mar0302

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    Jun 19, 2015 5:12 AM GMT
    Really depends.. I can be super dominant or not depending upon my mood. so someone that can be flexible and will take control at some times, but also be really submissive and do what they're told as well.. I agree with what SVN said earlier.. reading his points on what he does made me think he'd be a good bottom... someone that kind of knows what I want, when and will just do it.. and who can give me space when I want it, but also knows when I don't want space (even if I think I do)..
  • tajsreve

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    Jun 19, 2015 11:41 AM GMT
    vhotti26 saidActivity. Hate bottoms that just lay there and let the top do all the work, I want a pig power bottom in my bedroom when I top.



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  • uncut7in

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    Jun 19, 2015 12:22 PM GMT
    He must be slim, smooth, boyish, cute little ass, and know how to take a large cock.
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    Aug 05, 2015 8:38 AM GMT
    The title of this mentioned looking further than the sexual side of a bottoming guy so I'll add that bottoms who talk about the following things to the guy who is about to top them, have earned the poor or non-performance from the top they will get as their reward [sic] (applies to one 1 on 1 sex partners/lovers)

    Top 5 Bottom guy No no's to speak of to their top guy

    1. Talking about their wild fantasy of half the local football team go through them especially if first time with that guy
    2. Talk about how many guys they have had fuck them, he will pick up on your level of experience on his own, you make it sound like your both a piece of meat
    3. Describe how a guy who has a bigger cock than your about to be inside you, was so great coz nothing says performance anxiety than giving the impression that mr 2nite is inadequate no matter what coz he doesn't measure up
    4. Don't ask if his asshole feels tight to the top at any point during, before sex. Many tops wisely avoid answering this or lie so that you don't get annoyed and close your legs. The honest answer if you are given it can be very deflating
    5. Poor hygiene and poor Attitude eg. Selfish and demanding, distracting on Grindr or phone call during sex

    I have always wondered what would happen if tops were as honest about the tight feeling or lack of it around their cocks as bottoms are about cock size. I have a very adequate endowment yet I dismiss guys who move an initial conversation towards cock size too early even if it is meant to bro interpreted as a compliment.

    Also your slutty hole wrecking story doesn't even allow the top to pretend he is inserting his penis into an anus that has good elasticity.
  • AttisXVI

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    Aug 05, 2015 12:06 PM GMT
    A well-shorn hole.
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    Aug 05, 2015 1:02 PM GMT
    Clean and tight. It's always amazing how few of these can be found.