My first time in a gay black club

  • Inque

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    Dec 30, 2014 3:23 AM GMT
    A few days ago my bisexual friend called me up asking me to go with him to a gay club in Ybor. He needed a wingman because he was looking for ass because his boyfriend was out of town. So we went and he remarked upon my outfit saying that not too many guys will gravitate towards me. We drove up there and I noticed all these fucking black and Latino guys. I told him we were at the wrong place. He said no, I said I thought we were going to a gay bar. He said it was gay and I said I didn't see any gay men there. All I saw was a bunch of downlow dudes. Sorry but if a black guy is dressed urban and says he likes men he's downlow. Anyway there were barely any guys there despite the place being jam packed. No one I wanted to talk to except for one white dude I was way too afraid to approach. He was so pretty and normal looking and I knew he wouldn't be into black guys.

    It was fun overall. I had never been in a place like that. There was a dance off and everyone had a good time and afterwards I assume they all went back to their baby mamas
  • callumity

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    Dec 30, 2014 2:40 PM GMT
    Reading this, I was appauled at how much of a negative impression you have of gay blacks/latinos. It's not only offensive but plain judgmental simply because it wasn't your type of place because of the large quantity of coloured men didn't come across as gay to you. It's clear to me that you feel some kind of way about blacks and latinos and how they represent as homosexuals but making slick comments about them being 'downlow' without even so much as giving someone the benefit of the doubt? That's not right. You're generalising which is something I expect you wouldn't want to be subjected to.

    With all due respect but being gay doesn't define your taste in music, clothes or anything. It just means you like to have sex with men. It's as simple as that.

    Even so, I'm glad you had a good time but I've been to many 'urban' gay/straight clubs in the last few months and I've had fun just experiencing the different kind of gay guys there were. Black, White or anything.

    If I took something wrong from your post, it's because the impression you gave me.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 30, 2014 3:01 PM GMT
    Callumity saidReading this, I was appauled at how much of a negative impression you have of gay blacks/latinos. It's not only offensive but plain judgmental simply because it wasn't your type of place because of the large quantity of coloured men didn't come across as gay to you. It's clear to me that you feel some kind of way about blacks and latinos and how they represent as homosexuals but making slick comments about them being 'downlow' without even so much as giving someone the benefit of the doubt? That's not right. You're generalising which is something I expect you wouldn't to be subjected to.

    With all due respect but being gay doesn't define your taste in music, clothes or anything. It just means you like to have sex with men. It's as simple as that.

    Even so, I'm glad you had a good time but I've been to many 'urban' gay/straight clubs in the last few months and I've had fun just experiencing the different kind of gay guys there were. Black, White or anything.

    If I took something wrong from your post, it's because the impression you gave me.


    I agree, inque you sound like a very judgmental person. If you would have expressed what you felt inside the club you would have had your ass beat up.✴
  • Inque

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    Dec 30, 2014 10:04 PM GMT
    Callumity saidReading this, I was appauled at how much of a negative impression you have of gay blacks/latinos. It's not only offensive but plain judgmental simply because it wasn't your type of place because of the large quantity of coloured men didn't come across as gay to you. It's clear to me that you feel some kind of way about blacks and latinos and how they represent as homosexuals but making slick comments about them being 'downlow' without even so much as giving someone the benefit of the doubt? That's not right. You're generalising which is something I expect you wouldn't want to be subjected to.

    With all due respect but being gay doesn't define your taste in music, clothes or anything. It just means you like to have sex with men. It's as simple as that.

    Even so, I'm glad you had a good time but I've been to many 'urban' gay/straight clubs in the last few months and I've had fun just experiencing the different kind of gay guys there were. Black, White or anything.

    If I took something wrong from your post, it's because the impression you gave me.


    I'm very good at judging people. No one who dresses urban like that is usually someone of higher caliber. They all spoke ghetto too. So they were all probably downlow.
  • callumity

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    Dec 31, 2014 12:28 AM GMT
    Inque said
    Callumity saidReading this, I was appauled at how much of a negative impression you have of gay blacks/latinos. It's not only offensive but plain judgmental simply because it wasn't your type of place because of the large quantity of coloured men didn't come across as gay to you. It's clear to me that you feel some kind of way about blacks and latinos and how they represent as homosexuals but making slick comments about them being 'downlow' without even so much as giving someone the benefit of the doubt? That's not right. You're generalising which is something I expect you wouldn't want to be subjected to.

    With all due respect but being gay doesn't define your taste in music, clothes or anything. It just means you like to have sex with men. It's as simple as that.

    Even so, I'm glad you had a good time but I've been to many 'urban' gay/straight clubs in the last few months and I've had fun just experiencing the different kind of gay guys there were. Black, White or anything.

    If I took something wrong from your post, it's because the impression you gave me.


    I'm very good at judging people. No one who dresses urban like that is usually someone of higher caliber. They all spoke ghetto too. So they were all probably downlow.



    And your point is? I still say that you were wrong for prejudging anyone by how they dress or talk. You wouldn't appreciate someone behaving the same towards you. One of my exes dressed and acted differently to people in the gay scene and he was always misidentified as straight but that never meant he was on the 'downlow' and he was white. It just meant he had his own way of dressing.


    You really need to take a step back and understand that your perception of people could be damaging to a person's character. Even if they were 'downlow', maybe they needed a little help coming out of the closet. Surely you could've been more respectful and understand how hard coming out is for anyone. A little compassion goes along way, my friend.
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    Dec 31, 2014 12:37 AM GMT
    Apparently you're not very hot, otherwise your bisexual friend woulda tapped your ass instead of looking for some strange while his bf was out of town.
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    Dec 31, 2014 12:43 AM GMT
    Not sure which is more fucked up about the OP

    helps a friend cheat whenever the bf is out of town?
    repulsed by fellow blacks?
    attracted to the one white guy available?
    poses like a chick in his profile pics?
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    Dec 31, 2014 12:44 AM GMT
    hentailover saidNot sure which is more fucked up about the OP

    helps a friend cheat whenever the bf is out of town?
    repulsed by fellow blacks?
    attracted to the one white guy available?
    poses like a chick in his profile pics?
    goes to a club in Ybor...can't get any more fucked up than that.
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    Dec 31, 2014 1:09 AM GMT
    Somewhat beside the point but I remember a co-worker (black) walking into a nightclub in Baltimore for the first time and being freaked out..."all I saw was a bunch of white eyeballs in the dark"...."and I was scared..."

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  • callumity

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    Dec 31, 2014 2:05 AM GMT
    hentailover saidNot sure which is more fucked up about the OP

    helps a friend cheat whenever the bf is out of town?
    repulsed by fellow blacks?
    attracted to the one white guy available?
    poses like a chick in his profile pics?


    It's the collective and the ignorance.
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    Dec 31, 2014 2:13 AM GMT
    Inque saidA few days ago my bisexual friend called me up asking me to go with him to a gay club in Ybor. He needed a wingman because he was looking for ass because his boyfriend was out of town.


    Such a good friend. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 31, 2014 3:29 AM GMT
    hentailover saidNot sure which is more fucked up about the OP

    helps a friend cheat whenever the bf is out of town?
    repulsed by fellow blacks?
    attracted to the one white guy available?
    poses like a chick in his profile pics?


    All of the above? He's also very ugly. Looks like a gorilla.
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    Dec 31, 2014 11:47 AM GMT
    lol
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    Dec 31, 2014 1:52 PM GMT
    Inque saidA few days ago my bisexual friend called me up asking me to go with him to a gay club in Ybor. He needed a wingman because he was looking for ass because his boyfriend was out of town. So we went and he remarked upon my outfit saying that not too many guys will gravitate towards me. We drove up there and I noticed all these fucking black and Latino guys. I told him we were at the wrong place. He said no, I said I thought we were going to a gay bar. He said it was gay and I said I didn't see any gay men there. All I saw was a bunch of downlow dudes. Sorry but if a black guy is dressed urban and says he likes men he's downlow. Anyway there were barely any guys there despite the place being jam packed. No one I wanted to talk to except for one white dude I was way too afraid to approach. He was so pretty and normal looking and I knew he wouldn't be into black guys.

    It was fun overall. I had never been in a place like that. There was a dance off and everyone had a good time and afterwards I assume they all went back to their baby mamas



    How do you know the white boy wouldn't be into black dudes????
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    Dec 31, 2014 2:48 PM GMT
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    hentailover saidNot sure which is more fucked up about the OP

    helps a friend cheat whenever the bf is out of town?
    repulsed by fellow blacks?
    attracted to the one white guy available?
    poses like a chick in his profile pics?

    All of the above? He's also very ugly. Looks like a gorilla.

    Foul! Flag on the field! Stop the game!

    First of all, the OP doesn't "look like a gorilla". He looks pretty good to my eyes, in fact. And his thread is interesting, an insight into how one Black guy experienced going to a gay Black club. Although I do suspect "they all went back to their baby mamas" may be a bit prejudiced.

    Just like yourself. Because you only joined this site 6 days ago, with no photo of your own, and you're calling a Black member here a "gorilla"? You've made 17 posts as of this counting, and most of them racist.

    What was the problem with not having a profile pic? Your white sheet glared in the camera flash too much to make a good photo? And the flash so blinded you that you couldn't complete the rest of your RJ profile?
  • callumity

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    Dec 31, 2014 3:02 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    terminator88 said
    hentailover saidNot sure which is more fucked up about the OP

    helps a friend cheat whenever the bf is out of town?
    repulsed by fellow blacks?
    attracted to the one white guy available?
    poses like a chick in his profile pics?

    All of the above? He's also very ugly. Looks like a gorilla.

    Foul! Flag on the field! Stop the game!

    First of all, the OP doesn't "look like a gorilla". He looks pretty good to my eyes, in fact. And his thread is interesting, an insight into how one Black guy experienced going to a gay Black club. Although I do suspect "they all went back to their baby mamas" may be a bit prejudiced.

    Just like yourself. Because you only joined this site 6 days ago, with no photo of your own, and you're calling a Black member here a "gorilla"? You've made 17 posts as of this counting, and most of them racist.

    What was the problem with not having a profile pic? Your white sheet glared in the camera flash too much to make a good photo? And the flash so blinded you that you couldn't complete the rest of your RJ profile?


    I do agree that attacking the OP isn't ideal in a conversation like this but I suppose it reflect his own ignorance onto himself?

    My main issue was how he addressed and spoke about these people. The assumption by how they dressed, they must've been downlow, which can only be a comment on the skin colour. It was made worse that he seemed to have no trouble complimenting the 'only white dude' who was 'pretty' and 'normal looking'. There's a lot to this post that can be considered very offensive.

    As a man of colour, I find it degrading that the stereotypes are being put forth by someone of the same colour. There wasn't any suggestion that he'd ever been to a place like this since the title mentioned it was his first time, there was also no mention of him trying to interact with anyone. If he had put his prejudice to one side, maybe he would've had a better time there. Also, the snide comments about them going how to their 'baby mamas' was just out of line and probably intended to shock people.

    I don't know whether it's a difference in elements since I'm from the UK and the OP is from the states but it just came across as someone who had a generalised view of black people before he had even given it a real go.

    All in all, it was just offensive, rude and disrespectful.

    EDIT: I made a point to ignore the racism. It wasn't called for.
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    Dec 31, 2014 3:29 PM GMT
    Callumity said
    Art_Deco said
    terminator88 said
    hentailover saidNot sure which is more fucked up about the OP

    helps a friend cheat whenever the bf is out of town?
    repulsed by fellow blacks?
    attracted to the one white guy available?
    poses like a chick in his profile pics?

    All of the above? He's also very ugly. Looks like a gorilla.

    Foul! Flag on the field! Stop the game!

    First of all, the OP doesn't "look like a gorilla". He looks pretty good to my eyes, in fact. And his thread is interesting, an insight into how one Black guy experienced going to a gay Black club. Although I do suspect "they all went back to their baby mamas" may be a bit prejudiced.

    Just like yourself. Because you only joined this site 6 days ago, with no photo of your own, and you're calling a Black member here a "gorilla"? You've made 17 posts as of this counting, and most of them racist.

    What was the problem with not having a profile pic? Your white sheet glared in the camera flash too much to make a good photo? And the flash so blinded you that you couldn't complete the rest of your RJ profile?


    I do agree that attacking the OP isn't ideal in a conversation like this but I suppose it reflect his own ignorance onto himself?

    My main issue was how he addressed and spoke about these people. The assumption by how they dressed, they must've been downlow, which can only be a comment on the skin colour. It was made worse that he seemed to have no trouble complimenting the 'only white dude' who was 'pretty' and 'normal looking'. There's a lot to this post that can be considered very offensive.

    As a man of colour, I find it degrading that the stereotypes are being put forth by someone of the same colour. There wasn't any suggestion that he'd ever been to a place like this since the title mentioned it was his first time, there was also no mention of him trying to interact with anyone. If he had put his prejudice to one side, maybe he would've had a better time there. Also, the snide comments about them going how to their 'baby mamas' was just out of line and probably intended to shock people.

    I don't know whether it's a difference in elements since I'm from the UK and the OP is from the states but it just came across as someone who had a generalised view of black people before he had even given it a real go.

    All in all, it was just offensive, rude and disrespectful.

    EDIT: I made a point to ignore the racism. It wasn't called for.


    Don't worry about the op. He made it clear long ago he has a generally negative attitude of black men for whatever reason. I don't think his attitude has been helpful with him getting what he wants but it's his life so that's none of our concern.
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    Dec 31, 2014 3:31 PM GMT
    Callumity said
    EDIT: I made a point to ignore the racism. It wasn't called for.

    Agreed.

    BTW, I'm impressed with your beautifully written posts. You are new here, but a welcome addition to RJ, in my opinion.

    One little suggestion: swap your profile pic for one of your others. An image taken up too close creates unflattering optical distortions. You look much more handsome (and rather hot), in your other pics. Crop one of them to a face shot, to make it your profile pic.

    Just a helpful suggestion, if I'm not being out of line.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 31, 2014 3:35 PM GMT
    The OP is trolling.
  • Buddha

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    Dec 31, 2014 3:40 PM GMT
    Sorry but if a black guy is dressed urban and says he likes men he's downlow

    You are correct, it's right out-right offensive that gay men that are out don't carry the mandatory gay accessory.

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    I mean if gay people can't follow a dress-code that marks them to your definition of gay, what then? Then the only thing we have left is to wait for the LGBTQ-world to spiral into anarchy.

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  • HottJoe

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    Dec 31, 2014 3:47 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    HottJoe saidThe OP is trolling.


    Way overused comment, used by people who:

    a) Disagree with something that was said by the target

    b) Want to bolster their "forum cred" by appearing to be a rare few that are able to discern "trolling" and then "announce" it to all the other, less intelligent members



    The OP has been here in one form or another for years. He has to know that his hundreds of threads proclaiming his racial biases are trollish and bigoted.

    Oh, and southbeach, don't think I've forgotten that you're a troll too.icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 31, 2014 3:55 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    Art_Deco said

    One little suggestion: swap your profile pic for one of your others. An image taken up too close creates unflattering optical distortions. You look much more handsome (and rather hot), in your other pics. Crop one of them to a face shot, to make it your profile pic.

    Just a helpful suggestion, if I'm not being out of line.

    I wouldn't take "photo suggestions" from Mr. Deco, especially given the fact that he willingly posted this picture of himself!

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    Sure I posted it. Because I thought it was silly. I love to make fun of myself. Looking stupid, having fun, especially anything gay related, something you evidently can't contemplate. Neither about yourself nor about anyone else.

    Which is what helps to make you Rj's leading troll, as guys here besides me are saying.

    When I get back from our errands I think I'll repost a pic of my bare ass floating in a gay resort swimming pool. Just as a special present for you. icon_biggrin.gif
  • rnch

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    Dec 31, 2014 4:06 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidApparently you're not very hot, otherwise your bisexual friend woulda tapped your ass instead of looking for some strange while his bf was out of town.






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  • callumity

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    Dec 31, 2014 4:28 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Callumity said
    EDIT: I made a point to ignore the racism. It wasn't called for.

    Agreed.

    BTW, I'm impressed with your beautifully written posts. You are new here, but a welcome addition to RJ, in my opinion.

    One little suggestion: swap your profile pic for one of your others. An image taken up too close creates unflattering optical distortions. You look much more handsome (and rather hot), in your other pics. Crop one of them to a face shot, to make it your profile pic.

    Just a helpful suggestion, if I'm not being out of line.



    Thanks mate! I'll definitely take your suggestion into consideration icon_smile.gif

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    Dec 31, 2014 5:02 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidThe OP is trolling.



    You need to understand the meaning of trolling. He is not trolling. Like it or not, this is who the OP is. Just because you dislike what someone says doesn't make them a troll. He has made it crystal clear since day one that he doesn't like Black people (including himself.)