Friend till the end

  • Chris1094

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    Dec 31, 2014 1:09 AM GMT
    I'll keep this kinda short my best friend who's straight stopped talking to me a few weeks ago he totally stopped all contact! I have no idea why this happen. A few days ago a friend of his was telling me that that my friend was acting strange and that people kept thinking that not only was he gay but that I was his boyfriend, afterwards this guy half joking said maybe he has feelings for you and ran off. I don't know what to think I wish I had answers I miss our friendship a lot but I don't know how to bring him back or if I even should! Some friends have told me he's an ass and forget him. Any advice?
  • Orland23

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    Dec 31, 2014 1:26 AM GMT
    It should like that your friend is afraid what society thinks of him. Unfortunatly, some people are not "secure" in who they are, you friend is straight but just because some people think he is gay for being with a gay friend, he left you. We can interpret why he left you, but only he know what is going on in his mind

    If you can, talk to you friend's friend and see if he can talk to you man to man. If he won't talk to you even then, then he was not really a true friend. True friends won't desert you for what other people think of them. There are other people out there you would make a better friend.

    You friend became a bit of a fiend.icon_sad.gif It might not be worth being friends with him.
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    Dec 31, 2014 5:34 PM GMT
    You really have to find out what the truth is , and the only way you can do that , is to directly talk to your mate !
    I wish you my best .
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    Dec 31, 2014 7:32 PM GMT
    neffa saidYou really have to find out what the truth is , and the only way you can do that , is to directly talk to your mate !
    I wish you my best .


    And if the mate continues to avoid you, then unfortunately OP, you have to move on.
  • bobbobbob

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    Jan 03, 2015 6:47 AM GMT
    Based on just half the story makes sure any advice you get is half assed.

    You're 20 years old and still have lots to learn about finding, making and maintaining friendships. Most don't last as long as one or the other person wishes. You have to learn to accept that and keep moving on.
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    Jan 03, 2015 7:34 AM GMT
    Unfortunately there will be a lot of friends who will treat you like crap out of nowhere. It sucks, but the best thing to do is move on. If he wants to come back and be your friend, you can decide whether or not you actually want him in your life.
  • drypin

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    Jan 03, 2015 9:49 AM GMT
    I believe people's needs and interests fluctuate and change. Sometimes we seek closeness and can't get enough 'friend time'. Sometimes we seek distance so we can deal with something on our own. Unfortunately, these moods don't easily match the people around us, whether they are friends, lovers or partners.

    In your case, I would probably send my friend a message that let him know I'm thinking of him and that there's a new restaurant I'd like to try out if he's got time in the near future. (You can substitute restaurant with any other interest you share.) The message would be positive but without pressure.

    And then I would occupy my own time and see what happens. If he comes back into my life, great. If not, I've got more time to dedicate to other friends and interests.