Meeting New People in 2015, what's your plans?

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    Jan 01, 2015 2:44 AM GMT
    My goal is to improve on my current relationships and make a new friend or two.

    In 2015 I want to meet some new people to hike/explore with.

    How do you plan to expand your circle of familiars?

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    Jan 02, 2015 12:24 AM GMT
    Been trying through out 2014. No luck. Every gay man is looking for a fuck bud, so it seems.

    For 2015, I'm just going to focus on reconnecting with old friends I've lost contact with.
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    Jan 02, 2015 12:29 AM GMT
    I travel for my job and the cities I go to, I'm there for an extended period of time. At least 3 months. I meet other travelers and we end up becoming friends. I plan in continuing meeting other travelers and increasing my social contacts. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 02, 2015 12:47 AM GMT
    xrichx saidBeen trying through out 2014. No luck. Every gay man is looking for a fuck bud, so it seems.

    For 2015, I'm just going to focus on reconnecting with old friends I've lost contact with.


    Every gay man? Fortunately it's only 90%.

    There are at least a few guys who have something other than a bj to offer. But it can seem like work to find them.

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    Jan 02, 2015 1:01 AM GMT
    I am hoping the same way making new friends now that graduate school is over, immerse myself in some current weekend activities using meetup.com. Also, do weekend trips.
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    Jan 02, 2015 1:18 AM GMT
    Determinate said
    xrichx saidBeen trying through out 2014. No luck. Every gay man is looking for a fuck bud, so it seems.

    For 2015, I'm just going to focus on reconnecting with old friends I've lost contact with.


    Every gay man? Fortunately it's only 90%.

    There are at least a few guys who have something other than a bj to offer. But it can seem like work to find them.



    I agree. Tried joining a few Meetup groups, but people can be a little flakey or the Meetups get too big (30+ people) and it becomes hard to connect. Also tried the Grindr, Scruff, Hornet thing but people either want to sleep with you or ignore messages after the first meeting.
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    Jan 02, 2015 1:23 AM GMT
    MikkyB saidI agree. Tried joining a few Meetup groups, but people can be a little flakey or the Meetups get too big (30+ people) and it becomes hard to connect. Also tried the Grindr, Scruff, Hornet thing but people either want to sleep with you or ignore messages after the first meeting.

    I've met a few guys through Scruff. They were nice and were looking for friends also. Or so I thought. They pulled the old switcharoo, and turned up the "charm" after meeting up with them. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • buddycat

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    Jan 02, 2015 3:17 AM GMT
    I would suggest getting off the the computer and get out to a club or other social event. I am sure you can meet people online, when going out isn't an option but surely you'll need other outlets.
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    Jan 02, 2015 5:31 AM GMT
    This is one of my goals for 2015 too. I'd love to meet more genuine gay friends and maybe find a husband in the process. But being in OC/LA area, most gay guys have the attitude of **waiting the next best man coming along. No wonder so many gay men here are single.
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    Jan 02, 2015 5:35 AM GMT
    Hiking naked works well!
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    Jan 02, 2015 5:55 AM GMT
    LAXWill10 saidThis is one of my goals for 2015 too. I'd love to meet more genuine gay friends and maybe find a husband in the process. But being in OC/LA area, most gay guys have the attitude of **waiting the next best man coming along. No wonder so many gay men here are single.

    I don't think it's just an OC/LA thing. Happens everywhere. Just another example of technology changing social norms. I think these gay apps are instilling the (false) belief that the "perfect" guy is one click away. If not, then that just means he hasn't created a profile yet! icon_rolleyes.gif

    I saw this in someone's profile once and I thought it was funny/true..
    "Let's face it, we're all a bunch of 5's chasing after 10's."

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  • Unnamed6

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    Jan 02, 2015 6:58 AM GMT
    Determinate saidMy goal is to improve on my current relationships and make a new friend or two.

    In 2015 I want to meet some new people to hike/explore with.

    How do you plan to expand your circle of familiars?



    Be of a certain nature and you might not need to have friends, like me. And because of my nature I likewise have people offering me their friendship in times when I'm out of my reclusion... In 2015, I'll very much try to extend my nature to everyone else here. Didn't as much attempt such in the past but I'll make that attempt now.
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    Jan 02, 2015 8:13 AM GMT
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    Determinate saidMy goal is to improve on my current relationships and make a new friend or two.

    In 2015 I want to meet some new people to hike/explore with.

    How do you plan to expand your circle of familiars?



    Be of a certain nature and you might not need to have friends, like me. And because of my nature I likewise have people offering me their friendship in times when I'm out of my reclusion... In 2015, I'll very much try to extend my nature to everyone else here. Didn't as much attempt such in the past but I'll make that attempt now.

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  • Unnamed6

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    Jan 02, 2015 11:59 PM GMT
    Sharkspeare said
    Unnamed6 said
    Determinate saidMy goal is to improve on my current relationships and make a new friend or two.

    In 2015 I want to meet some new people to hike/explore with.

    How do you plan to expand your circle of familiars?



    Be of a certain nature and you might not need to have friends, like me. And because of my nature I likewise have people offering me their friendship in times when I'm out of my reclusion... In 2015, I'll very much try to extend my nature to everyone else here. Didn't as much attempt such in the past but I'll make that attempt now.

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    I get relatively nothing (material and psychological) whenever I do things these days. I include my time on Realjock in that. People spend lifetimes trying to attain x, y, and z (including friends) or even attempt substance abuse to have what amounts to my overall neurochemical state. I am now willing to extend that state on a silver platter to everyone here, including yourself.
  • Unnamed6

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    Jan 03, 2015 12:00 AM GMT
    Of course it will actually take some actual effort on my part and an effort to be timely this time around.
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    Jan 03, 2015 3:08 AM GMT
    I am considering some sort of hostage/ ransom scenario.

    That always seems to work!!!
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    Jan 03, 2015 3:36 AM GMT
    " hostage/ ransom scenario."

    Most enduring relationships have an element of this.


    Where do you envision meeting your next victim?

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    Jan 03, 2015 3:50 AM GMT
    Determinate said" hostage/ ransom scenario."

    Most enduring relationships have an element of this.


    Where do you envision meeting your next victim?



    A.A.meetings in VERY wealthy neighborhoods, Nursing Homes, Supermarkets and Retro 80's Dance Clubs.

    All the usual places.
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    Jan 03, 2015 3:56 AM GMT
    A.A.ers are ripe for psychological exploitation.

    And no one will more richly examine the words, when you deliver "I love You." on the third date.
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    Jan 03, 2015 4:01 AM GMT
    Determinate saidA.A.ers are ripe for psychological exploitation.

    And no one will more richly examine the words, when you deliver "I love You." on the third date.


    Third date?

    You mean when You move in and get power of attorney right before firing all the domestic help and isolating Your new Boyfriend from the outside world?
  • roadbikeRob

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    Jan 03, 2015 6:49 PM GMT
    Cash saidI am considering some sort of hostage/ ransom scenario.

    That always seems to work!!!
    I will willingly let you take me hostage. But it will require you to drive up to Buffalo in order to "capture me"icon_biggrin.gificon_lol.gif
  • OJ89

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    Jan 03, 2015 7:40 PM GMT
    I'm moving to Tokyo and I hope to make some cool friends there.

    I also intend to keep great contact with my friends here in Paris and England too!
  • Trevor_B

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    Jan 05, 2015 12:33 AM GMT
    Cash said
    Determinate said" hostage/ ransom scenario."

    Most enduring relationships have an element of this.


    Where do you envision meeting your next victim?



    A.A.meetings in VERY wealthy neighborhoods, Nursing Homes, Supermarkets and Retro 80's Dance Clubs.

    All the usual places.


    Dang, that's such a good idea... and maybe hit up the yacht and golfing clubs as well...
  • Orland23

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    Jan 05, 2015 2:50 AM GMT
    I would be attending a new university so I would make a ton of new friends. I am planning to join some student organizations and meet people during lunch or join in on people playing frisbee.icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 05, 2015 3:18 AM GMT
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