How did you find out you're gay?

  • wesv

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    Jan 01, 2015 7:36 AM GMT
    I always knew I liked other boys since, well, forever. Never liked girls despite seeing heterosexuality was the "norm" in everything from movies to television. As a child, homosexuality was almost never discussed. I thought I was the only person attracted to the same sex. It was to a point I thought I was supposed to be born as a girl so I could have a chance with boys. But when I was 11, I learned that there were others alike and that we're called homosexuals or gays. That's when I realized who I was.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 01, 2015 7:57 AM GMT
    Tooth fairy woke me up in the middle of the night and held out my tooth to me and said, 'BITCH ... that's a gay tooth ... you're magic huny .... now go back to sleep!'

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    Jan 01, 2015 8:03 AM GMT
    Seeing Dave Draper on an old re-run of Beverly Hillbillies when I was eight or nine...

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    There were no words to describe the sensations I was feeling in my lexicon at the time.
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    Jan 01, 2015 12:54 PM GMT
    When I was really young I was attracted to guys. I dated girls through high school but when I went to college I met a really hot asain guy and wore him out and have never looked back
  • NoFLFitGuy

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    Jan 01, 2015 1:09 PM GMT
    First time I ever felt that electric punch to the gut of being turned on - feeling a built classmates bicep in the 6th grade lunch line.
  • MikeW

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    Jan 01, 2015 2:30 PM GMT
    If you really want to know, I created a long thread about it here: https://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=33392. It's an interesting story having to do with a LIFE magazine article published in June of 1964 when I was 16 years old. It shows the prevailing attitudes of that time AND how I (and a lot of other people) came to know a "gay world" existed.
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    Jan 01, 2015 2:35 PM GMT
    Great article...from what I could read, Mike..
    "only registered members can read" about 75% of it after the you go to Florida. icon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 01, 2015 3:03 PM GMT
    MikeW saidIf you really want to know, I created a long thread about it here: https://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=33392. It's an interesting story having to do with a LIFE magazine article published in June of 1964 when I was 16 years old. It shows the prevailing attitudes of that time AND how I (and a lot of other people) came to know a "gay world" existed.

    That's a beautiful article! Your writing is excellent, and very moving.

    I just joined that site, will explore it later.
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    Jan 01, 2015 3:08 PM GMT
    NoFLFitGuy saidFirst time I ever felt that electric punch to the gut of being turned on - feeling a built classmates bicep in the 6th grade lunch line.


    Please tell!
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    Jan 01, 2015 3:09 PM GMT
    3 years old. Having a convo in my head just knowing that I don't like girls.

    Messed around with my cousins.
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    Jan 01, 2015 3:27 PM GMT
    MikeW saidIf you really want to know, I created a long thread about it here: https://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=33392. It's an interesting story having to do with a LIFE magazine article published in June of 1964 when I was 16 years old. It shows the prevailing attitudes of that time AND how I (and a lot of other people) came to know a "gay world" existed.


    I read the same article in grade school. That's when I was able to put a name to my feelings.
  • rnch

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    Jan 01, 2015 6:30 PM GMT
    A wild, erotic, drunken Thanksgiving night 3 way with my best friend (at the time) and his wife. After she passed out on us he started in on me.

    As Elizabeth Taylor said in "Butterfield 8": "And I likkkkeeeed it!"

    I woke up a few hours later, naked and hard, wrapped up in his arms and legs, with his boner against mine.

    I thought "Ohhhhh, ok, this DOES explain a lot of things."




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    Jan 01, 2015 6:45 PM GMT
    I don't really know if there was any one defining moment -- I always liked the way a man's figure appeared versus a woman's. But I do remember watching MTV's "spring break" and seeing a bunch of shirtless guys dancing around and partying and was really, really attracted to them.

  • HottJoe

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    Jan 01, 2015 8:36 PM GMT
    I cut myself and bled glitter.icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 01, 2015 9:19 PM GMT
    I didn't realize I was gay at this point, but looking back in hindsight, I remember being very curious and fascinated by slightly older, more mature guys in 7th grade - when we would all be in the locker room before and after p.e. classes. I noticed guys with underarm hair, and hair on their cocks (something I had little or none of at that point). So at the time, I thought I was just observing and wanting what those guys had. I really didn't realize I also wanted to be with them intimately. The feeling of wanting to actually be with a guy came later.
  • MikeW

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    Jan 02, 2015 12:20 AM GMT
    rkyjockdn said
    MikeW saidIf you really want to know, I created a long thread about it here: https://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=33392. It's an interesting story having to do with a LIFE magazine article published in June of 1964 when I was 16 years old. It shows the prevailing attitudes of that time AND how I (and a lot of other people) came to know a "gay world" existed.


    I read the same article in grade school. That's when I was able to put a name to my feelings.

    That's one of the things that is different now from when we were kids, @rkyjockdn , EVERYONE KNOWS GAY PEOPLE EXIST. I had NO idea. True, if I'd been born and raised in a city rather than the rural Midwest, I might have known. But reading that LIFE magazine article was a real eye opener. And, of course, the down-side is that was the ONLY information I had about being gay -- and since it was all about how we're all psychotic degenerates that at best need to be "understood" and "tolerated"… didn't exactly give me a good sense of my sexual identity. Took years to overcome that bull shit.
  • NoFLFitGuy

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    Jan 02, 2015 12:39 AM GMT
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    NoFLFitGuy saidFirst time I ever felt that electric punch to the gut of being turned on - feeling a built classmates bicep in the 6th grade lunch line.


    Please tell!


    Not much to tell.

    The kid lived a few houses down from me and was a year older than me, but was held back in kindergarten. Anyway, when we were in 4th grade, he was hit by a car while riding his bike. He started working out as part of his rehab. So, even for a 6th grader, he was more muscled than the rest of us (and kept going through high school).

    I was next to him in the line. We were talking an he just looks at me and says, "Watch this." I had never seen what I would now call a baseball biceps (though 12 year old size) pop up, but he had an awesome one. It felt like I imagine a cattle prod going off through my whole body literally electric. I could not help but reach up and feel it. He smiled, and flexed a couple of times I marveled how hard and big it was. He thanked me and had every reason to be proud.

    That feeling was so "odd" and I was so taken back by it, and his arms, like 2 minutes later, we were still waiting, and I asked him if I could see his arm again. He flexed and we went through the same thing as before, and I felt as before.

    I did not know what that feeling meant - as I did not know that there was such a thing as a gay person, much less there were names for it, until 18 months later - like Mike W above me spoke about in those times and places where I never knew gays existed. (I was raised a strict Mormon and any kind of sex talk was out of the question. I heard the "f" word for the first time and asked my mother what it meant. She raged, asked if anyone had called me that, and when I said no, she just said it was a bad word and to never even think about it.) And, I had several more instances over the middle and high school years of seeing and feeling him flex. But, that first feeling I will always remember - both that muscle and in me.
  • BmwKid92

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    Jan 02, 2015 3:20 AM GMT
    when i jumped on my friend and kissed him as a joke. couldnt stop thinking about it. i was 15
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    Jan 02, 2015 3:34 AM GMT
    I was incredibly attracted to my Greek/Italian best friend growing up.We used to jack together.I was head over heels for him.When he blew me I was done lol.That is how I first knew.
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    Jan 02, 2015 3:51 AM GMT
    My family is originally from the middle east and when we were younger we would play sports in religious school. Most of us played basketball and soccer, but most others did the traditional Turkish Oil wrestling, or "Kirkpinar"


    I used to do oil wrestling when I was younger. After you watch this video, you will know how I find out..




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    Jan 02, 2015 4:04 AM GMT
    Western Union.
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    Jan 02, 2015 4:09 AM GMT
    MikeW said
    That's one of the things that is different now from when we were kids, @rkyjockdn , EVERYONE KNOWS GAY PEOPLE EXIST. I had NO idea. True, if I'd been born and raised in a city rather than the rural Midwest, I might have known. But reading that LIFE magazine article was a real eye opener. And, of course, the down-side is that was the ONLY information I had about being gay -- and since it was all about how we're all psychotic degenerates that at best need to be "understood" and "tolerated"… didn't exactly give me a good sense of my sexual identity. Took years to overcome that bull shit.

    I was somewhat the same. I didn't have a clue about homosexuality. I lived a very sheltered & privileged life. The most I guessed was that some men were "sissies" and not masculine. I didn't even suspect until my early 20s that sex acts between men were possible. REALLY! icon_eek.gif

    Yeah, innocent & naive in the extreme. And what contributed to my being in denial for so long.

    I knew I liked guys, loved to see their naked bodies, and had no interest in women. But I couldn't imagine any sexual potential with a man.

    As I began to learn about this homo thing, I associated it with weak sissy behavior, and wanting to wear women's clothes & makeup. Well, I didn't do anything remotely like that.

    So therefore I must be "normal" and straight, a new word I had recently learned. And by then I had joined the Army, rode a motorcycle, lived half the time outdoors and loved it, didn't even remotely fit the faggy stereotype.

    Well, maybe once, when I was a young pianist of some distinction, a singer, architectural student, writer. But then I had a nearly fatal & disfiguring accident, and all that was gone, including what marginal physical looks I had. That's when I chose the military path, the proper place for ugly moronic "Deltas" (if you know your Aldous Huxley).
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    Jan 02, 2015 5:37 AM GMT
    First, it was watching movies, tvs. I had crushes on most Baywatch actors on TV back in the 90s. (ex. David Chokachi). Then, in HS and college swimming classes. I find myself keep checking out cute hot naked guys in the locker room. At my dorm in college, this cute gorgeous older 27 yo guy was my roommate. He was like naked, in the tower all the times. LOL, The more I think about him and about other hot guys, the more turn on I get. Lol, I denied it dating girls for a while. And after sleeping with a chick after hooking up with numerous guys, I was a confirmed homo. I love Dicks way too much. I kinda always have a thing for cute Blond surfers guys, i still like them but my taste extended and evolved a bit.
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    Jan 02, 2015 6:05 AM GMT
    oh boy wen i was like 5 or 6 i remember being socially awkward around boys and wanting to be around them lol i didnt kno i was "gay" but it was definitely some sort of attraction that wasnt sexual or anything.. that made me wanna be around guys more..
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Jan 02, 2015 6:41 AM GMT
    The tooth fairy told me.