How can I accept that the guy I fancy is straight?

  • infinitefrien...

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    Jan 02, 2015 10:43 PM GMT
    We are friends but I fancy him a lot. I don't know how to cheerfully accept that he is probably a straight guy and we would not kiss and snuggle together?
  • BloodFlame

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    Jan 02, 2015 11:33 PM GMT
    You just have to understand that he's straight. He likes girls, not guys.
  • Bunjamon

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    Jan 02, 2015 11:58 PM GMT
    You remember that he will never, ever, ever, ever think about you the way you think about him. And then you leave him alone. Period.
  • Suetonius

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    Jan 03, 2015 2:01 AM GMT
    Most cats are straight. I don't know of any tom cats kissing and cuddling together - they are usually hissing and pissing at the sight of each other. Same with Trolls like you.
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    Jan 03, 2015 4:10 PM GMT
    You accept it because, if you can't, you'll lose him as a friend.

    If you really love him, you should be able to accept him as is. It's a bit selfish to also require that he sleep with you to be a recipient of your love for him, don't you think?
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    Jan 03, 2015 5:15 PM GMT
    Watch him have sex with a girl.
  • chadwick1985

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    Jan 03, 2015 6:45 PM GMT
    You have to admit to yourself that he isn't gay and will not be with you. I've been there a couple times. It sucks but you can do it.
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    Jan 03, 2015 7:09 PM GMT
    You don't. You accept the fact that the guy isn't into you in that way. Gay, bi, curious or straight, that is really what is at the heart of this. You get over it by meeting other guys who are into you to get your mind off of him. Options will set you free.
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    Jan 03, 2015 7:55 PM GMT
    infinitefriend9 saidWe are friends but I fancy him a lot. I don't know how to cheerfully accept that he is probably a straight guy and we would not kiss and snuggle together?


    if you honestly don't know how to accept that he's straight, perhaps a consultation with a therapist is in order.
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    Jan 03, 2015 8:51 PM GMT
    canadian_stud saidWatch him have sex with a girl.


    That just made him hotter
  • FRE0

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    Jan 03, 2015 9:21 PM GMT
    Animus saidYou accept it because, if you can't, you'll lose him as a friend.

    If you really love him, you should be able to accept him as is. It's a bit selfish to also require that he sleep with you to be a recipient of your love for him, don't you think?


    ^^^ This is the best advice here! ^^^
  • Defiant

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    Jan 03, 2015 9:36 PM GMT
    Animus saidYou accept it because, if you can't, you'll lose him as a friend.

    If you really love him, you should be able to accept him as is. It's a bit selfish to also require that he sleep with you to be a recipient of your love for him, don't you think?


    I agree with this. Be glad that you are friends with this person - it isn't his fault you have those feelings icon_razz.gif

    To spin it the other way, it's like a close female friend of yours getting a crush on you. What would you do? icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 03, 2015 9:39 PM GMT
    Contrary to what everyone else seems to think, you could jokingly ask him if he'd ever accept a bj from a guy. Quote Gertrude Stein, "A mouth is a mouth is a mouth." Before doing that, however, make SURE HE knows that you're gay. You don't want to wig him out and lose a friend.
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    Jan 04, 2015 1:43 AM GMT
    Why accept it?! Go have a sex change and follow your dream of you and him together! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 04, 2015 11:01 AM GMT
    Play that Taylor Swift song and change the lyrics to....

    **We're never ever ever getting it on together....

    Bro, you crush on a lost cause. Lol
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    Jan 04, 2015 11:09 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidWhy accept it?! Go have a sex change and follow your dream of you and him together! icon_rolleyes.gif


    Even then, he will be a man with a broken unsuable penis. It's like how do you make a penis into a vagina? Cut it open?. Lol, i saw that episode in southpark with mr, Garrison. Lol
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    Jan 04, 2015 12:52 PM GMT
    LAXWill10 said
    UndercoverMan saidWhy accept it?! Go have a sex change and follow your dream of you and him together! icon_rolleyes.gif


    Even then, he will be a man with a broken unsuable penis. It's like how do you make a penis into a vagina? Cut it open?. Lol, i saw that episode in southpark with mr, Garrison. Lol


    Medical science can make a penis into a vagina far easier than it can construct a penis. It's been done for many decades now.

    I'm astounded by the number of people on this site that do not understand sarcasm!
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    Jan 04, 2015 1:13 PM GMT
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    canadian_stud saidWatch him have sex with a girl.


    That just made him hotter



    You must have a warped sense of what masculinity is. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 04, 2015 1:15 PM GMT
    infinitefriend9 saidWe are friends but I fancy him a lot. I don't know how to cheerfully accept that he is probably a straight guy and we would not kiss and snuggle together?



    Grab his crotch. It's amazing how much a black eye can help with acceptance.
  • santopaulo

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    Jan 04, 2015 7:52 PM GMT
    I have been also through that..have fallen in love with a colleague of mine to an extent that looking at him chilled me to the bone..I knew he was straight and he was married..nonetheless I told him and I asked him to do it with me even just for once, he refused and then I had my facebook account blocked from him as well..but at least I told him and that felt good for me
  • wellwell

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    Jan 04, 2015 8:16 PM GMT
    You used the word "probably." It makes your whole situation -iffy-


    What is wrong w/ asking him if he's ever been w/ guy, or "do you find me attractive"?
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    Jan 04, 2015 8:35 PM GMT
    wellwell saidWhat is wrong w/ asking him if he's ever been w/ guy, or "do you find me attractive"?


    I guess nothing is wrong with the first question, but asking if he's attracted to him could creep the guy out if he is straight.

    Dude, I'm in the same situation. It sucks. Especially because we flirt with each other. But he might only be doing that with me because he doesn't know I'm actually into other guys (especially him lol). I'm trying really hard to accept it for what is and realize that I'd rather keep him as a friend than not have him in my life at all.

    So you need to just try your hardest to let it go and find a guy you're attracted to who actually likes other guys.
  • wesv

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    Jan 04, 2015 9:07 PM GMT
    Know that there are plenty of fine gay guys.

    And also, do you want to touch a dick that was just in someone's pussy? Exactly.
  • stratavos

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    Jan 05, 2015 12:16 AM GMT
    if you have any level of respect for him, ANY, you are going to leave him alone about these issues. He is STRAIGHT. which means he is at least, sexually, Attracted to women.

    Save yourself from ruining the friendship, and find someone who actually wants you the way you want them. He will likely never have those feelings as long as he is STRAIGHT as he says.
  • Trevor_B

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    Jan 05, 2015 12:42 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidWhy accept it?! Go have a sex change and follow your dream of you and him together! icon_rolleyes.gif


    Or find a way to drug him, and then take him in and give him a sex change. It's pretty much foolproof! oh wait...no, don't do that. ;-) There isn't really a good answer to the question, it's just a matter of giving it time and finding other things to think about.