How important is to your date to have a car?


  • Jan 05, 2015 1:34 AM GMT
    I hate driving, i really hate and most of the things related to driving. Would you date a carless guy? In my town people seem to only date if the other person has a car...
  • Orland23

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    Jan 05, 2015 1:38 AM GMT
    Invetedlotus123 saidI hate driving, i really hate and most of the things related to driving. Would you date a carless guy? In my town people seem to only date if the other person has a car...


    Depends where I live, if I lived in NYC, Chicago, LA, Portland or any decent sized city, I wouldn't mind a carless guy. A small city if he doesn't have a car, it is still OK especially is he has a license, he could rent a car.

    If a guy doesn't have a car, to me it is not a deal breaker. Since I am in college, it doesn't matter to me so much.
  • Danskerb

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    Jan 05, 2015 1:40 AM GMT
    Living in Copenhagen, it's more essential to have a bicycle. I don't ever want to move back to car culture.
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    Jan 05, 2015 1:46 AM GMT
    Well, I have, since half the gays in Portland don't seem to drive. It gets really old really fast. I always have to go to them ( like 3 hours, round trip), so right off the bat, I'm putting most of the energy into the date.

    The city is full of Zip-cars and the like that you can rent by the hour - so it's not like you have to own and maintain a car in order to reciprocate once in a while.
  • venue35

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    Jan 05, 2015 1:55 AM GMT
    2bnaked ridiculed me on these forms recently for not owning a car. What a bitch! Not owning a car in arizona means you are subhuman apparently...icon_rolleyes.gif maybe it is lame not owning a car. Atleast im not uglyicon_biggrin.gif that would be a lethal combination.
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    Jan 05, 2015 4:07 PM GMT
    Most guys around my age living in NYC don't have a car.
    That's really just a suburban thing. That or a sunbelt city thing where the cities are basically just big sprawling suburbs.
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    Jan 05, 2015 4:58 PM GMT
    I suppose that's highly variable, depending on many factors.

    1) Location is a big one. If you live in a really desolate area of vast open spaces without public transport, like North Dakota, you must have your own car or truck.
    2) Weather. If you live where it can reach -25° F/-32° C (North Dakota again comes to mind) with sudden blizzards possible, it's dangerous to even go outside. In fact, you may want your date to have a snowmobile.
    4) Cars are a liability in some places. New York City is one. And I almost never drive my car in Key West, just park it and forget it. Walking, biking and inexpensive taxis are all you need.
    3) Status symbol. Some guys display their bank account on 4 wheels. Yet I know some wealthy guys who drive old beaters, to fool the gold-diggers who would prey on them.
  • hotrodrodd

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    Jan 05, 2015 4:59 PM GMT
    Cars are essential for me. Saab convertible, 2 Jaguars and a 1960 restored Chevy pick up..A true love story is a man and his machine..Come take a ride.All the best.icon_lol.gif
  • daveindenver

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    Jan 05, 2015 5:01 PM GMT
    If you dont have a car then the other guy always have to pick you up when you go to the movies or when you go out to eat or when you go to the mountains or when you go to the ocean or when you go Anywhere! So unless you step up and get a zip car or something occasionally, sure it is a problem.
    Unless ...of course you never go anywhere.
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    Jan 05, 2015 5:07 PM GMT
    I live in Montreal which has decent public transport. So no need for a car.
    If you're dating a man with a car it IS easier to go out of town...
  • davfit

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    Jan 05, 2015 5:10 PM GMT
    A Deal breaker but if I liked him then it wouldn't bug me some cities (downtown Chicago) you don't want one either
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 05, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
    How superficial! Everyone knows (or at least they should know) that cars come and go, but cock size is forever.
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    Jan 05, 2015 5:46 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidHow superficial! Everyone knows (or at least they should know) that cars come and go, but cock size is forever.


    ^ +1 to HottJoe

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    Jan 05, 2015 6:21 PM GMT
    The carless guy should compensate by covering the food or whatever if the car guy is going way out of the way.
    And be sensitive to the location of the prospective guy. Its not hard to date in a give and take situation when one guy does not have a car.
  • Olympus1991

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    Jan 05, 2015 7:54 PM GMT
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    Jan 05, 2015 8:13 PM GMT
    You need a car in LA area. I dated a guy with no car in the past. Pain in the ass, I'm not your chauffer. Guys do judge the car you drive too. It's a dealbreaker for me.
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    Jan 05, 2015 8:35 PM GMT
    i would not date anyone that cant drive.
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    Jan 05, 2015 10:14 PM GMT
    No importance whatsoever. In fact it could be a negative, if he likes Top Gear.
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    Jan 05, 2015 10:49 PM GMT
    pellaz saidi would not date anyone that cant drive.

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    Jan 05, 2015 11:29 PM GMT
    It depends, but I'd like for my guy to drive/have a car. Unless you live in the city where you have no need for one, I just find it strange for an adult man to not drive or own his own vehicle.
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    Jan 06, 2015 12:44 AM GMT
    ant811 saidIt depends, but I'd like for my guy to drive/have a car. Unless you live in the city where you have no need for one, I just find it strange for an adult man to not drive or own his own vehicle.

    Because there exists a concept of public transportation which doesn't require you driving your own car. It can be used by any adult.
  • daveindenver

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    Jan 06, 2015 12:50 AM GMT
    Not having a car is ok... if you never want to go anywhere !
    Big time deal breaker.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jan 06, 2015 4:30 AM GMT
    I often worry about this myself since I'm terrified to drive after hearing about all the accidents that happen in my area, especially during holiday weeks.

    But I'm trying to get over the fear. I recently got a driver permit and am going to practice driving behind the wheel for the first time. I'm still terrified lol

    But what do I think? It's not that big a deal really. I will say that if I meet a guy who lived in another city who didn't drive, then that would be a deal breaker since it'd be too far for the both of us. So for now, until I get my license and later a car (hopefully), I usually stay within my city. I usually take the transit everywhere I go (it's not the best but it's not the worst either). I also walk.

    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI've owned cars in the past. But currently, not at the moment. They're a pain in the ass and I've always had bad luck. The worst was when I came down from my apartment to find my car totalled by some drunk illegal alien who had no auto insurance. He made a left turn while speeding and hit my car which was the first car parked on the right-hand side of the road. I couldn't do anything legally to get compensation for the totalling of my car.

    Luckily I had full coverage but the money I got for the blue book value was less than half of what I paid for my car just a year ago.


    That sucks. That's yet one reason why having a car can be a challenge.

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    Jan 06, 2015 7:28 AM GMT
    Depends on the city. In LA, yes. Met up with a couple of different guys. One guy, we just met up for coffee/chat. Afterward.. "oh by the way, do you mind if we stop off at.." Yeah, basically I was his chauffeur for the evening to help run his errands.

    The other guy wasn't too bad. But sometimes he was late for meetups because his bus was delayed. Or sometimes, he just felt like walking to our our meetup.. 5 miles from his place. So he'd show up all sweaty and winded.

    So yeah, car isn't a requirement per se. But it would make me hesitant to pursue anyone that doesn't have one.

    In more denser cities like SF or NYC, it doesn't matter since the public transposition is pretty decent.
  • wesv

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    Jan 06, 2015 8:35 AM GMT
    Just as long he gets to places it's fine. But in LA, you'll need to drive.