What's wrong with me? (In general)

  • Trontastic

    Posts: 135

    Jan 05, 2015 12:49 PM GMT
    I'm thinking through a lot of shit right now, and outside opinions would be nice. I figure it's better than wallowing in self misery.

    It's about the usual. Body image, loneliness, unable to find anyone interested in me who isn't twice my age and obese.

    Just... post what you think is wrong with me, or what I'm doing wrong. And what I can do to fix those things. Or what I could do to help find someone. Guess I'd like to know if other guys think of me the way I do.

    Sorry for this, by the way. It's late at night, I'm sweltering and sure as hell not sleeping. If anyone has questions, feel free to ask. I'm sure not going anywhere!
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 05, 2015 6:26 PM GMT
    Well, if you're an able-bodied person with body issues then you have to resolve them with dedication to fitness, which is good for you anyway, as long as you're healthy about it. I'd suggest weight lifting. There's no time like the present to get started. Time is on your side -- for now. But that time will go by fast. The obese guys twice your age that you won't date now started out just like you. Tick tock tick tock.

    Other intellectual/personality issues are more complex, but having a sense of humor helps!! That's even better than looking good, imho.
  • OJ89

    Posts: 106

    Jan 05, 2015 6:32 PM GMT
    Don't be down in the dumps bro!

    There's nothing wrong with 44 YO or Obese people finding you attractive.

    You're a healthy, young guy. Living in an awesome country. Being able to write this post on the Internet via a computer/ table/ phone.

    If you don't like your body image - change it.
    If you feel lonely - go out and socialise.

    I don't know you, or anything about you BUT you need to start living and loving yourself!
  • Trontastic

    Posts: 135

    Jan 05, 2015 7:12 PM GMT
    Thanks guys!

    Yeah, sorry about the thread. Just up late at night tossing and turning, and I thought the best way of easing my mind was doing a word vomit on a notoriously "friendly" forum.

    I think I'm just isolated. I mean, I live just outside Sydney, so it shouldn't be too hard finding guys my age. I just don't know where to start.

    Oh, by the way, have any of you guys looked at a book called 'Convict Conditioning'? I picked it up on Amazon with a Christmas card, and wanted to know what other people thought of it.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 05, 2015 7:18 PM GMT
    One more tip: you need to put your photos through a photo editor before you upload onto RJ, in order to avoid being sideways.icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 05, 2015 7:21 PM GMT
    You lack selfesteem and confidence, nobody likes insecure depressed people, thats the harsh truth.
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    Jan 05, 2015 8:12 PM GMT
    With due respect to folks who post things like this... you are feeing unhappy and seeking validation from folks on the internet. You put your picture out there and fish for people to tell you how awesome you are.

    On the other hand, a lot of this validation could come from you if you stepped up. None of this would matter if you would just take the mantle of your own confidence and walk with it.

    What people here think don't matter a hundredth of what you do. It is called self worth because the only thing that matters is what you think.

    The rest... is fishing blindly on the internet for validation. And that's fine if that is what you are looking for... but it isn't half as fulfilling as you realising your own awesomeness.
  • Trontastic

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    Jan 06, 2015 8:36 AM GMT
    nimbledrifter saidWith due respect to folks who post things like this... you are feeing unhappy and seeking validation from folks on the internet. You put your picture out there and fish for people to tell you how awesome you are.

    On the other hand, a lot of this validation could come from you if you stepped up. None of this would matter if you would just take the mantle of your own confidence and walk with it.

    What people here think don't matter a hundredth of what you do. It is called self worth because the only thing that matters is what you think.

    The rest... is fishing blindly on the internet for validation. And that's fine if that is what you are looking for... but it isn't half as fulfilling as you realising your own awesomeness.



    Yeah, thats an area I've struggled with. I honestly can't see anything notable or worthwhile about myself. Nothing to differentiate me from the other 100,000 gay guys in this country.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 06, 2015 4:16 PM GMT
    Trontastic said
    nimbledrifter saidWith due respect to folks who post things like this... you are feeing unhappy and seeking validation from folks on the internet. You put your picture out there and fish for people to tell you how awesome you are.

    On the other hand, a lot of this validation could come from you if you stepped up. None of this would matter if you would just take the mantle of your own confidence and walk with it.

    What people here think don't matter a hundredth of what you do. It is called self worth because the only thing that matters is what you think.

    The rest... is fishing blindly on the internet for validation. And that's fine if that is what you are looking for... but it isn't half as fulfilling as you realising your own awesomeness.



    Yeah, thats an area I've struggled with. I honestly can't see anything notable or worthwhile about myself. Nothing to differentiate me from the other 100,000 gay guys in this country.

    Why you insulting 100,000 gays? What, we're not good enough for you?icon_mad.gif
  • conservativej...

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    Jan 06, 2015 7:37 PM GMT
    Hit the gym and consider compliments by guys twice your age a good thing. After all old guys have seen lots of bodies from which to compare.

    :-)
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    Jan 06, 2015 7:40 PM GMT
    DON'T WORRY!
    BE HAPPY!


    Far to much over ANALYZING
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 06, 2015 8:12 PM GMT
    2bnaked saidDON'T WORRY!
    BE HAPPY!


    Far to much over ANALYZING

    He said "in general." It's not like we're getting down to the bacne.
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    Jan 06, 2015 10:35 PM GMT
    JESUS CHRIST

    Is the OP a man at all?

    Was he born with a vagina?

    I can't. this thread.
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    Jan 07, 2015 2:42 AM GMT
    Trontastic saidI'm thinking through a lot of shit right now, and outside opinions would be nice. I figure it's better than wallowing in self misery.

    It's about the usual. Body image, loneliness, unable to find anyone interested in me who isn't twice my age and obese.

    Just... post what you think is wrong with me, or what I'm doing wrong. And what I can do to fix those things. Or what I could do to help find someone. Guess I'd like to know if other guys think of me the way I do.

    Sorry for this, by the way. It's late at night, I'm sweltering and sure as hell not sleeping. If anyone has questions, feel free to ask. I'm sure not going anywhere!

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  • HottJoe

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    Jan 07, 2015 2:59 AM GMT
    ^I hate to break to you, but gay marriage vows are to love, honor and stay in shape.icon_evil.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 07, 2015 2:59 AM GMT
    You are like a towel that needs to be shook out and refreshed for the new year.

    While I don't know anything about you, your education, job or what you do, we all need to be refreshed.

    Develop some new goals on what you want to achieve in the near term with your life and self improvement. Make them realistic and attainable. Nothing beats self achievement. I'll bet you will have a very different attitude... be positive and make it happen in 2015!
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    Jan 08, 2015 5:55 PM GMT
    You are a good looking bloke , you seem quite intelligent , you need to build your confidence .
    Don't dish old and obese people out , they envy your youth and your figure , take what they are telling you as a compliment ,and be happy to be the recipient of them .
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 08, 2015 6:26 PM GMT
    I would have no clue as to what is "wrong" with you, I am neither a doctor or a psychologist. The real question should be is what do you feel is wrong with you and why? The why part is the important part. Why do you feel there is something wrong with the way you are. We are all humans, and humans are a bit like snowflakes, no two are alike. So if you are comparing yourself to others, you are using the wrong measuring stick. Unless you are a cannibal, murderer, rapist or something to that effect, then there is nothing wrong with you. You are only human.