Seeing a closeted Mormon?

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    Jan 07, 2015 12:43 AM GMT
    Do you (or would you) let the positives (great personality, connection, understanding)
    outweigh the negatives (... Religion. Unsure of how family will take a coming out [some Mormons take it better than others], school doesnt allow homosexual acts, maybe internal conflict about the whole ordeal).
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    Jan 07, 2015 5:24 AM GMT
    Isn't that what being in a relationship means?
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    Jan 07, 2015 6:03 AM GMT
    True story: after I left my last BF, because he remained closeted and wouldn't make a commitment to me after TWO YEARS, he started dating a closeted Mormon.

    But that particular guy was not well adjusted to the idea he was gay, with "internal conflicts". So he began to feel serious guilt after a few months of dating. Make sure your own closeted Mormon does not exhibit any signs of that inclination.

    The results were disastrous for my ex. First, the Mormon publicly confessed the sin of his homosexuality in Temple, NAMING my still-closeted ex before the entire assembly as the temptation that led to his being corrupted.

    Second, he filed a formal complaint with the YMCA, to which they both belonged. Claiming that my ex, and 6 other guys, had all made homosexual advances on him in the men's hot tub at various times. My ex swore that was not true.

    But he and the 6 other guys had their Y memberships suspended while an investigation was conducted. Which involved interviews, causing the allegation to soon become common knowledge throughout town.

    After several months of investigation the charges were determined to be false, and the Mormon himself lost his Y membership permanently. But in the meantime lots of damage had been done to these innocent guys.

    I'm certainly not saying this will happen with every closeted Mormon, or with every closeted guy of any background. But do watch yourself. I think your better bet, if you're not closeted yourself, is to not date closeted guys, period. Their "internal conflict" may result in erratic & unpredictable behavior that can do you some harm, if only socially.
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    Jan 07, 2015 6:54 AM GMT
    Thanks that's definitely something to consider. To the first reply, I haven't been in a steady relationship, but I suppose that's true.
  • Iota

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    Jan 07, 2015 6:57 AM GMT
    I would have my fun with him, and if things don't work for me, its probably time to let him go......
  • Inque

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    Jan 08, 2015 12:55 AM GMT
    I've always wanted to fuck a Mormon but I could never date one because even an out one carries way too much baggage.
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    Jan 08, 2015 1:18 AM GMT
    normally i would say no way but
    the OP lives in Utah so slim pickings


    why dosnt he just move.
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    Jan 08, 2015 1:35 AM GMT
    Inque saidI've always wanted to fuck a Mormon but I could never date one because even an out one carries way too much baggage.

    Well, to be fair, my gay mentor when I came out in Seattle 20 years ago was raised a Mormon. From Oregon, which seems to be a haven for them. And which, to my subjective observation, provided many of the gays who came to Seattle when rejected by their families, as my mentor was. I ran into quite a few ex-Mormons from Oregon who relocated in Seattle when shockingly young.

    But he appeared quite well adjusted to gay life, and happy. If he carried baggage it wasn't on the outside, and I didn't detect it. Perhaps he was an exception to the rule.

    As I wrote here, my ex-BF got badly hurt by a closeted Mormon. But I didn't mean that to apply to all gay Mormons. Just to be cautious, because some do carry baggage, and are indeed emotionally unstable regarding their gay identities. Is that not a major theme in the play "Angels in America"?
  • TheBaise

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    Jan 08, 2015 8:34 PM GMT
    Slept next to a Mormon missionary fresh off of his mission / same bed in a ski hut. Reached over / slipped a hand into his shorts massaging his growing cock. The dude sat up suddenly / like a mummy / asking wtf? Told him he must be into it or he wouldn't be throbbing hard. He jacked me back / even took part in oral. It went well but months later he got to feelin' guilty and we never saw each other again
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 08, 2015 9:59 PM GMT
    I'd say with any guy that you like a lot and who is good to you, too, give it a chance. Sounds like you're in the same boat as he. If it turns long term, and you're sure, together you can handle anything that comes at you. You really have no choice-- to not try means misery the rest of your life. If you're still dependent on your folks for education, you may want to keep it quiet for a while until you're free but that doesn't mean you shouldn't explore. Go for it, man.
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    Jan 09, 2015 3:50 AM GMT
    Firstly, Utah is a nice place. I do plan on moving to the northwest but that wasn't part of the question icon_smile.gif

    I'm not Mormon myself. In fact I'm more of an atheist with a Navajo upbringing. I like him becuase I have a tendency to be prudish and Mormons tend to place a little more value on building meaningful relationships than other guys I've met here (which probably says something about how I meet guys :p).

    I agree that there doesn't have to be predetermined baggage placed on Mormons. He could have baggage, or he might be well prepared for the transition into being out In the future. The thing is I don't know. I guess I'll just enjoy his company and see where this leads.
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    Jan 09, 2015 4:02 AM GMT
    Ok... I thought that said "closeted moron"...
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 09, 2015 5:24 AM GMT
    When you take off on a journey, you always have a destination in mind, but you never really know what the journey will hold. Does that hold you back from taking the journey? Or is the destination the goal?
  • glowstik

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    Jan 09, 2015 10:17 PM GMT
    How dare you out me and embarass me in front of all my jocky fwends! Well i never...