How can you enjoy anal sex? It hurts SO MUCH!!

  • infinitefrien...

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    Jan 07, 2015 12:43 PM GMT
    I don't see anything positive about it. Please enlighten me as to why gays usually do it? It just hurts and it so awkward. -_-

  • Vivi_Carol

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    Jan 07, 2015 12:52 PM GMT
    Probably because it WASN'T MEANT to have sex in! The anal is an out passage not in an in passage. And it has no "good" sensation from constant 15-25 minute friction. Now that you'd been educated the RIGHT WAY. GO CHECK OUT MIST OF AVALON! icon_twisted.gif

    Gays have anal so they can "imagine" its a vagina. Just sayin.
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    Jan 07, 2015 1:29 PM GMT
    Vivi_Carol saidProbably because it WASN'T MEANT to have sex in! The anal is an out passage not in an in passage. And it has no "good" sensation from constant 15-25 minute friction. Now that you'd been educated the RIGHT WAY. GO CHECK OUT MIST OF AVALON! icon_twisted.gif

    Gays have anal so they can "imagine" its a vagina. Just sayin.



    ∆ Dumbest comment ever made in the history of RJ. icon_rolleyes.gif

    So of the millions of gay men who have anal sex, you expect us to believe that all of them are doing it just to pretend they're a woman? Good God dude.....you sound like one of those Bible thumping Fundamentalists. With your great wisdom, can you please enlighten me as to why ALL of my many heterosexual friends prefer fucking a girl's ass over her pussy then? Straight men stare at chick's asses.....not their crotches. Pussy's are for making babies but don't necessarily feel great to all men. And no girl would ever let a man near her ass if they didn't enjoy it too. Oh but wait, I guess all girls who take it up the ass are just pretending to be gay men, right? icon_rolleyes.gif

    And one more thing......your comment "no good sensation from constant 15-20 minute friction" is laughable too. Some guys even have "anal orgasms" where they cum just from being fucked without touching their dicks at all. Oh, and there's this thing called "lube" that eliminates the friction. Sounds like you just need to get fucked by someone who knows what they're doing.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 07, 2015 2:01 PM GMT
    Radd said
    Vivi_Carol saidProbably because it WASN'T MEANT to have sex in! The anal is an out passage not in an in passage. And it has no "good" sensation from constant 15-25 minute friction. Now that you'd been educated the RIGHT WAY. GO CHECK OUT MIST OF AVALON! icon_twisted.gif

    Gays have anal so they can "imagine" its a vagina. Just sayin.



    ∆ Dumbest comment ever made in the history of RJ. icon_rolleyes.gif

    So of the millions of gay men who have anal sex, you expect us to believe that all of them are doing it just to pretend they're a woman? Good God dude.....you sound like one of those Bible thumping Fundamentalists. With your great wisdom, can you please enlighten me as to why ALL of my many heterosexual friends prefer fucking a girl's ass over her pussy then? Straight men stare at chick's asses.....not their crotches. Pussy's are for making babies but don't necessarily feel great to all men. And no girl would ever let a man near her ass if they didn't enjoy it too. Oh but wait, I guess all girls who take it up the ass are just pretending to be gay men, right? icon_rolleyes.gif

    And one more thing......your comment "no good sensation from constant 15-20 minute friction" is laughable too. Some guys even have "anal orgasms" where they cum just from being fucked without touching their dicks at all. Oh, and there's this thing called "lube" that eliminates the friction. Sounds like you just need to get fucked by someone who knows what they're doing.

    I suspect you're talking to someone who's a virgin or never had good sex.
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    Jan 07, 2015 2:05 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Radd said
    Vivi_Carol saidProbably because it WASN'T MEANT to have sex in! The anal is an out passage not in an in passage. And it has no "good" sensation from constant 15-25 minute friction. Now that you'd been educated the RIGHT WAY. GO CHECK OUT MIST OF AVALON! icon_twisted.gif

    Gays have anal so they can "imagine" its a vagina. Just sayin.



    ∆ Dumbest comment ever made in the history of RJ. icon_rolleyes.gif

    So of the millions of gay men who have anal sex, you expect us to believe that all of them are doing it just to pretend they're a woman? Good God dude.....you sound like one of those Bible thumping Fundamentalists. With your great wisdom, can you please enlighten me as to why ALL of my many heterosexual friends prefer fucking a girl's ass over her pussy then? Straight men stare at chick's asses.....not their crotches. Pussy's are for making babies but don't necessarily feel great to all men. And no girl would ever let a man near her ass if they didn't enjoy it too. Oh but wait, I guess all girls who take it up the ass are just pretending to be gay men, right? icon_rolleyes.gif

    And one more thing......your comment "no good sensation from constant 15-20 minute friction" is laughable too. Some guys even have "anal orgasms" where they cum just from being fucked without touching their dicks at all. Oh, and there's this thing called "lube" that eliminates the friction. Sounds like you just need to get fucked by someone who knows what they're doing.

    I suspect you're talking to someone who's a virgin or never had good sex.


    True, which makes it even worse. Why comment on something you know nothing about?
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    Jan 07, 2015 3:16 PM GMT
    Most tops do not know a thing about what they are doing. They just stick it in.

    Anal sex is going to hurt if you do not use lube properly. Because anus does not lubricate itself. Also, if it hurts, it might mean a higher risk of tear. and if that happens, when you pass stool, you will be infected due to an open wound inside your rectum.

    Often, the 'gay activists' in these forums will shut down any mention about these things. But you should know that if it hurts, you are not doing it right.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 07, 2015 3:49 PM GMT
    angry_as_hell saidMost tops do not know a thing about what they are doing. They just stick it in.

    Anal sex is going to hurt if you do not use lube properly. Because anus does not lubricate itself. Also, if it hurts, it might mean a higher risk of tear. and if that happens, when you pass stool, you will be infected due to an open wound inside your rectum.

    Often, the 'gay activists' in these forums will shut down any mention about these things. But you should know that if it hurts, you are not doing it right.

    Does that explain why you're angry as hell?icon_lol.gif

    Tmi: I've never had a problem with dryness or tearing or infection. Sure, the top can't just brutally stab you with his cock. It has to be coaxed in, but it gets wet and slippery and really people have been doing it for thousands of years and most seem to survive. I think excessive douching is a problem, and of course stds are a risk and have to be prevented, but these are problems with vaginal sex too. I think you're using junk science and obviously in the mood to talk shit. Why else create a sock account if not to be a troll?
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    Jan 07, 2015 4:33 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    angry_as_hell saidMost tops do not know a thing about what they are doing. They just stick it in.

    Anal sex is going to hurt if you do not use lube properly. Because anus does not lubricate itself. Also, if it hurts, it might mean a higher risk of tear. and if that happens, when you pass stool, you will be infected due to an open wound inside your rectum.

    Often, the 'gay activists' in these forums will shut down any mention about these things. But you should know that if it hurts, you are not doing it right.


    . I think you're using junk science and obviously in the mood to talk shit. Why else create a sock account if not to be a troll?


    I will be brutally honest. Both of you are correct but Joe you are posting stuff that you know is BS making it into a deliberate lie. Anal sex often hurts due to poor technique, unrealistic expectations of porn and a lack of a effort many tops are willing to put in to get theirI btm in the mood to receive that cock pain
    lessly.
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    Jan 07, 2015 4:36 PM GMT
    infinitefriend9 saidI don't see anything positive about it. Please enlighten me as to why gays usually do it? It just hurts and it so awkward. -_-

    Tops do it because a man will hump anything that is remotely like a hole. Bottoms do because it can feel great, under the right circumstances. You evidently haven't found the right circumstances yet (unless you're trolling us).

    For those who might want a real answer on this topic, a bottom can like anal when:

    - He gets pleasurable stimulation of his prostate gland, which is a few inches inside the rectum on the anterior (front) side. Some men have sensitive prostates that create good sensations when massaged by a dick, dildo or finger. Others will feel virtually nothing, and others will feel pain. Prostate pain may be an indicator of a medical problem.

    - The top (or dildo) isn't too large. Beginners should start small. Comfort & pleasure can develop over time.

    - Lots of lube is used. And renewed during the session.

    Additionally:

    - Some pain is common the first time. I couldn't take the first guys who tried to top me, we had to call it off. Then I found a willing dude with a wee willie to deflower me, and he fucked me 4 times that first night. icon_eek.gif

    - A lot of the pleasure for the bottom can be psychological. Part of the thrill for me is just knowing a man's hardon is pumping up my ass. If being a bottom doesn't excite your mind, then you probably won't enjoy the physical experience as much, if at all.
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    Jan 07, 2015 4:59 PM GMT
    http://www.amazon.com/Bottom-Like-Star-Ultimate-Guide-ebook/dp/B00GG16XZ8
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    Jan 07, 2015 5:06 PM GMT
    willular saidhttp://www.amazon.com/Bottom-Like-Star-Ultimate-Guide-ebook/dp/B00GG16XZ8


    Pretty much every bottom in every porn film turns me off so I'll pass on this book.
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    Jan 07, 2015 5:24 PM GMT
    Radd said
    willular saidhttp://www.amazon.com/Bottom-Like-Star-Ultimate-Guide-ebook/dp/B00GG16XZ8


    Pretty much every bottom in every porn film turns me off so I'll pass on this book.


    Truth be told, I bought this book really to see what it was all about. and everything (just about) they mentioned in here was what we were already doing (breathing, lube, and more importantly, having patience). Quite honestly, the book reads like a Reader's Digest magazine, that is quite humorous.
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    Jan 07, 2015 5:46 PM GMT
    Radd is correct in my mind , I've been into anal sex sin e I was 10 yrs old and to me it feels great.
    I love feeling of a cock sliding in an out of me , its a feeling that only a true gay guy will know.
    Now a guy I do know has a medium size cock , 7 inchs , but when he fucks me he does it in such a way I have anal orgasms.
    It great to have a guy who knows how to fuck ,, and oh yeah he uses lots of KY lube.

    So , Infinitfrien , get an experienced guy , get some KY lube and have fun.
  • TheBaise

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    Jan 07, 2015 11:52 PM GMT
    Easy in at first / take it slow / plenty of Masola or gun oil / practice with toys / start small / work up
  • venue35

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    Jan 08, 2015 1:38 AM GMT
    It hurts so i rarely bottom. everyone is a bottom these days it seems...
  • Vivi_Carol

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    Jan 08, 2015 1:41 AM GMT
    Why do you keep referring yourselves as "bottoms" or "tops" it doesn't make sense really. Why? Why?
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    Jan 08, 2015 1:43 AM GMT
    Vivi_Carol saidWhy do you keep referring yourselves as "bottoms" or "tops" it doesn't make sense really. Why? Why?

    I don't - I'm versatile. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Vivi_Carol

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    Jan 08, 2015 1:51 AM GMT
    (sighs) and dare I ask, what that means. If thinkI sound like a dumb blonde, think again.
  • Bunjamon

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    Jan 08, 2015 2:44 AM GMT
    Vivi_Carol said(sighs) and dare I ask, what that means. If thinkI sound like a dumb blonde, think again.


    This might enlighten you: What does 'versatile' mean?
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    Jan 08, 2015 3:30 AM GMT
    Vivi_Carol said(sighs) and dare I ask, what that means. If thinkI sound like a dumb blonde, think again.


    Oh El
    "You know, being a blonde is actually a pretty powerful thing. You hold more cards than you think you do. And I, for one, would like to see you take that power and channel it toward the greater good, you know?"

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  • Sashasweet

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    Jan 30, 2015 1:44 PM GMT
    I Love anal sex.
  • DJEsco_

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    Jan 30, 2015 2:00 PM GMT
    It hurts the first few times. Its a completely unique feeling that takes getting used to. I did it like 6 times before I felt good about it. I was a strict top but I dont mind switching it up with my bf sometimes. Adds an interesting dynamic to your sex life. Just relax and go with slow. Eventually you will be able to get fucked no problem.
  • vhotti26

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    Jan 30, 2015 4:34 PM GMT
    angry_as_hell saidMost tops do not know a thing about what they are doing. They just stick it in.


    QFT.

    You need to find a guy that doesn't do that and is great at getting you ready for it for the first times, or you will never learn the pleasures of bottoming.

    If you keep going at it with the wrong guys you will keep getting disappointed.

    Protip: older guys are usually better at it than younger guys.

    Also, once you learn how to properly work your hold muscles and breathing towards taking a cock in, it's advisable to take the active part and ride the top so you can determine the speed.
    After you're fucked open properly he can just hammer away, even if you are bottoming for the first time.
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    Jan 30, 2015 6:25 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    Vivi_Carol said(sighs) and dare I ask, what that means. If thinkI sound like a dumb blonde, think again.


    Oh El
    "You know, being a blonde is actually a pretty powerful thing. You hold more cards than you think you do. And I, for one, would like to see you take that power and channel it toward the greater good, you know?"

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    I can't stop laughing at this gif. LOL
  • DJEsco_

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    Jan 30, 2015 7:34 PM GMT
    vhotti26 said
    angry_as_hell saidMost tops do not know a thing about what they are doing. They just stick it in.


    QFT.

    You need to find a guy that doesn't do that and is great at getting you ready for it for the first times, or you will never learn the pleasures of bottoming.

    If you keep going at it with the wrong guys you will keep getting disappointed.

    Protip: older guys are usually better at it than younger guys.

    Also, once you learn how to properly work your hold muscles and breathing towards taking a cock in, it's advisable to take the active part and ride the top so you can determine the speed.
    After you're fucked open properly he can just hammer away, even if you are bottoming for the first time.


    Wow. Great post. Just reading and imagining 'hold your muscles, breathing, hammering and taking in cock' got me going. You should write and erotic novel.