helloandgoodbi saidto "take offense" seems extreme, but he misses the main definition of the term "sexual orientation."
It does not mean whom you are attracted to FOR sex, it just means which sexual category (male, female, trans) is your preference to be with. "Preference" also allows for some flexibility there.
Very correct in the sense that he sexualized the word "sexual", and I'm a little offended at that.
Not so correct, however, on your use of the word preference
, for while a gay person might prefer having even non-sexualized but romanticized feelings with the same sex (as if), their sexuality, romanticized or otherwise, has nothing to do with preference, and while a hetero might prefer the same with the opposite sex (when not bromancing) they also have no choice as to what turns them on. Sexual attraction called a preference connotes an option as opposed to an orientation which denotes a wiring.
If you develop a taste for something, that's a preference. If you are born oriented towards something, that's an orientation.
I'm fully functional in my romanticism and so I absolutely have fallen in love with females but never sexually as their sex does nothing for me but maybe make me cringe. I might even--whether by a developed taste, or of conditioning, etc., though I don't, have a preference for being romantic with females but I do not have a choice in my sexual attraction towards same sex. Preference in that sense is not a matter of orientation, of sexual attraction. Even if a bi might be so described depending on their mood, it's otherwise not an overall good descriptor as it does not fit the rest of the pattern.
Meanwhile, do you people not wiki? Because it answers in its very first line on the topic the OP's inquiry. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_orientation
Sexual orientation is an enduring pattern of romantic or sexual attraction (or a combination of these) to persons of the opposite sex or gender, the same sex or gender, or to both sexes or more than one gender....
...the scientific consensus is that sexual orientation is not a choice
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