Seeing the new you after a big weight loss

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    Jan 20, 2009 3:36 PM GMT
    So, as many of you have seen, I look very different that I did a few months ago. From the mental mindset of being heavy, to now being decently thin (and I might dare say athletic), I've noticed that my mind still has this sense that I'm still that heavy guy.

    I've gotten a few comments lately such as "I'd take a second look at you in the locker room" that have just sort of surprised me. I'm very grateful, but still surprised.

    From those of you who have had a significant weight loss and went from fat to fab, do you have any thoughts about how long it takes to mentally get to the place of being really confident in your new skin, and what helped get you there?

    Thanks!
  • Timbales

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    Jan 20, 2009 3:44 PM GMT
    I'm in the same boat you are. I've dropped 40lbs of fat and didn't realize how much it actually was until I saw a picture of myself over the holidays. I still have a ways to go, so I don't want to get too comfortable, if you know what I mean.
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    Jan 20, 2009 5:08 PM GMT
    Me too....I was heavy most of my life till about 26 years old.


    It definitely requires a shift in attitude and self-perception, which I think will take a while to pass depending on how long you were heavy
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    Jan 20, 2009 7:00 PM GMT
    I'll speak from the perspective of going from being a scrawny looking greyhound to actually carrying some muscle and say I doubt it's very different.

    The shift in perspective is a subtle one and you're right - initially there's gonna be lots of "you talking about ME?!" I say revel in it. You (all who have committed to changing their bodies) worked hard for it so enjoy the benefits!

    Eventually, it'll simply become a part of who you are. Doesn't mean you'll forget what you left behind or what it took to get where you are. But, like after learning to speak a new language, eventually you'll forget what it sounded like when you didn't understand that language at all. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 20, 2009 7:46 PM GMT
    I'm like gigadu in that I feel the same way but coming from the other direction. I've gained 20 pounds in the past two years. I used to be very skinny - sickly looking even. Now I think I have more of a recovering anorexic look. icon_biggrin.gif

    While I know I have twenty pounds more, I don't feel like it shows. At least I don't look sickly but I still feel like a 98 pound weakling. Friends comment on the muscle I've put on, and it always surprises me. It doesn't help that I wear the same size clothes as I did before, so I'm not sure where the new weight is.

    One major change for me recently is I will take my shirt off in public now. While I still can't say I'm comfortable doing it, it at least does not provoke anxiety attacks anymore.
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    Jan 20, 2009 7:57 PM GMT
    Thanks guys for your thoughts. Timberoo, you've done great! Congratulations on the 40 lbs fat loss. That's amazing.

    I was working out this morning (Muscle Building Workout, doing arms) and I was amazed that it looked like I had biceps! I've always had skinny, scrawny arms, and this made it look like I had something to show. The RJ muscle shirt helps show them off too. icon_biggrin.gif

    Too bad there were only a few 20 year old students around. Can't wait until my new gym opens up and I can work out with hunky guys around me!
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    Jan 22, 2009 7:26 PM GMT
    Okay, I just have to post this, as I was so excited!

    I got a card in the mail that about a suit sale, and since I don't fit into any of my old suits, I decided to check it out. I went in and I'm wearing 38 shorts! I tried them on and I look so thin! I'm still sort of in shock.

    Going back after work to buy a couple suits. They'll be presents to me!
  • Timbales

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    Jan 22, 2009 7:36 PM GMT
    good for you!

    I had a funeral this past weekend and put on my black sport coat. It looked silly, like a kid wearing his brother's hand-me downs.
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    Jan 23, 2009 5:52 AM GMT
    matt45710 saidSo, as many of you have seen, I look very different that I did a few months ago. From the mental mindset of being heavy, to now being decently thin (and I might dare say athletic), I've noticed that my mind still has this sense that I'm still that heavy guy.

    I've gotten a few comments lately such as "I'd take a second look at you in the locker room" that have just sort of surprised me. I'm very grateful, but still surprised.

    From those of you who have had a significant weight loss and went from fat to fab, do you have any thoughts about how long it takes to mentally get to the place of being really confident in your new skin, and what helped get you there?

    Thanks!


    Yes, there is a difference! Congratulations!!!

    I finally realized that I had looked down on myself just the way I thought others had, because of my weight. I guess it was just about a month or two ago when I said to myself, "WOW! I'm hot!" LOL I used to think comments like that were arrogant, but it's different. I don't think I'm better than anyone else, I just think I'm worthy of not feeling like shit when I look in the mirror anymore. You'll find yourself looking in the mirror one day, and smile and understand that there is no reason you aren't worthy to think you're hot.

    Other than just waiting for the realization, does it help if I say you're hot?! icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 23, 2009 6:03 AM GMT
    I was a little fatty growing up, and when I hit puberty I grew 8 inches in 3 months and thinned out. That was 10 years ago. I'm still as thin as I was in the 7th grade, but there are still times I feel like the fat kid. You will prob always have those moments. But they tend to decrease the longer you remain lean and in shape
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    Jan 23, 2009 6:24 AM GMT
    I lost 60lbs and its taken me 2 years to be comfortable enough to take my shirt off at the beach...or for RJ pics ;-)
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    Jan 23, 2009 5:14 PM GMT
    Well, looknrnd, yes it does help! icon_wink.gif I need to hear that a lot more often, then I'll believe it more.

    And jp930, yes, you do look great without your shirt on. Keep them coming. icon_smile.gif

    So I did go out and buy two suits, a Kenneth Cole and a Perry Ellis. Now I just have to wait until they finish the tailoring. They're European styling, so it's quite a thin look. I just have to keep looking at myself in the mirror and reminding myself that I look good.
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    Jan 23, 2009 5:27 PM GMT
    after i graduated high school i lost about 75 pounds. now, 8 years later, i actually have the mindset that i'm a thin guy. for me it just took a while to mentally accept that i was no longer fat.
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    Jan 25, 2009 6:12 AM GMT
    collegeguy06 saidafter i graduated high school i lost about 75 pounds. now, 8 years later, i actually have the mindset that i'm a thin guy. for me it just took a while to mentally accept that i was no longer fat.


    I hope it doesn't take me a proportionately long time to get to that point. As I've lost a total of 40 lbs since my peak, that would be 4 years for me. I want to have all that confidence now. I guess when I can start seeing the abs, that might do it!