Dealing with a better looking best friend

  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 10, 2015 4:21 PM GMT
    my best friend is just textbook better looking than me so he gets more attention from men. he's younger, prettier, taller, thinner etc etc

    i really do support him but i can't help but be jealous. and lately he's taken to rubbing ppl's attn in my face.

    just venting. theres not much I can do tbh. expect accept it. but ye. is anybody else in that situation
  • TheBaise

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    Jan 10, 2015 5:46 PM GMT
    Dude / you gotta do what alot of hot women do / hang out with inferior looking friends only. Ya think I'm joking here? Check it out
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    Jan 11, 2015 12:26 AM GMT
    When you have better-looking friends you're better-looking-by-association. It worked for me!
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    Jan 11, 2015 6:46 AM GMT
    What's jealousy? lol but you have to remember we all have flaws and just accept that some people are better at things than others. Know what you're good at, or find it, and be open to learning new things. Be thankful for the looks you've got, and just take the best care of yourself. We're all really just a bunch of flesh and bones anyway.
    If you were truly his friend, you'd be thankful and happy for the successes he comes across in life, and vice versa.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 11, 2015 9:17 AM GMT
    Find an ugly friend, then you can be the cute one icon_lol.gif
  • NeuralShock

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    Jan 11, 2015 2:57 PM GMT
    Just realize that you have a lot of amazing traits to offer as well, perhaps more knowledge on various subjects or something else.

    While the younger end of the gay community may be obsessed with looks that's just because they are young/didn't grow up/have no idea what they want.

    Personally I value intellect and personality far above looks. Long as you don't look horribly disfigured and treat me right I see the potential for a relationship.

    And being honest... do you even want to be with those younger guys who are clearly after one thing?


    -> In terms of him rubbing it in your face just ask him to stop. If he doesn't then he probably is a shit best friend.
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    Jan 11, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
    Make him jealous by hanging out with other friends or common friends. This will definitely work.
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    Jan 11, 2015 7:38 PM GMT
    That's pretty fucking petty. You can't be serious.

    Because if you were, you'd hit him in the face with a hot iron. Boom, problem solved. You get to keep your best friend and get to be the better looking of the two.

  • Jav1993

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    Jan 11, 2015 9:02 PM GMT
    I'm dealing with the same thing kind of. You're gonna need somewhat of a self-esteem boost. As in go out a few nights alone and get some attention yourself. Whether he means it or not, or you want to accept it or not, being around him is somewhat detrimental to your confidence. You have to learn and acquire your own swag and ride on that so that when he's getting guys, you will know you can take any of them if you wanted to.
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 11, 2015 9:54 PM GMT
    Can you believe, three guys I liked have talked to me as a way to get to him this weekend. Ugh. Whatever I love him and he should get the best. But ugh. Yeh. Peoples.
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    Jan 11, 2015 10:46 PM GMT
    sound like you're just insecure. You just tell yourself that you're special and there are guys out there who will dig you.
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    Jan 11, 2015 11:26 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidFind an ugly friend, then you can be the cute one icon_lol.gif

    This is the correct answer. icon_lol.gif
  • stratavos

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    Jan 13, 2015 4:42 AM GMT
    so he's prettier. If you really wanna play games with him about this, just lord it over him that you've got better cooking skills, and that food is much more important than sex partners.

    With the joke aside... if his "lording" is getting to you, and you still want to be friends. take the time to have a serious conversation, or become "unavailable" for a bit to work on yourself.

    Catch up on some books, genuinely work on being a better cook, just do something productive with the time away.
  • Tig3r

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    Jan 14, 2015 5:15 AM GMT
    I understand you 100%. I never found my friend attractive but whenever we would go out, I would be ignored and every gay would fawn all over him. Yet it actually made me kind of glad. I was the one who was being responsible.

    He would get black out drunk, piss himself, have emotional breakdowns and sleep with anything that walked.

    I was the DD, I carried him into his house, and made sure he was okay when he had his mental breakdowns.
    If any guy came up and flirted with him, I would just laugh and be amazed at their priorities. Guess who ended up getting Herpes, and since he never got tested, spread them around the club and apparently half of Grindr? My good friend icon_cry.gif
  • BloodFlame

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    Jan 17, 2015 3:08 AM GMT
    Tig3r saidI understand you 100%. I never found my friend attractive but whenever we would go out, I would be ignored and every gay would fawn all over him. Yet it actually made me kind of glad. I was the one who was being responsible.

    He would get black out drunk, piss himself, have emotional breakdowns and sleep with anything that walked.

    I was the DD, I carried him into his house, and made sure he was okay when he had his mental breakdowns.
    If any guy came up and flirted with him, I would just laugh and be amazed at their priorities. Guess who ended up getting Herpes, and since he never got tested, spread them around the club and apparently half of Grindr? My good friend icon_cry.gif


    Well, at least you tried your best to watch over your friend.
  • keithntn

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    Jan 17, 2015 2:41 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidWhen you have better-looking friends you're better-looking-by-association. It worked for me!


    You look just fine the way you are!
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:11 AM GMT
    Tig3r saidI understand you 100%. I never found my friend attractive but whenever we would go out, I would be ignored and every gay would fawn all over him. Yet it actually made me kind of glad. I was the one who was being responsible.

    He would get black out drunk, piss himself, have emotional breakdowns and sleep with anything that walked.

    I was the DD, I carried him into his house, and made sure he was okay when he had his mental breakdowns.
    If any guy came up and flirted with him, I would just laugh and be amazed at their priorities. Guess who ended up getting Herpes, and since he never got tested, spread them around the club and apparently half of Grindr? My good friend icon_cry.gif



    Awww not that you should be the DUFF. But being the DUFF sucks.