Gym Friendliness

  • Joeyphx444

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    Jan 10, 2015 5:25 PM GMT
    I have gone to a few different gyms in AZ and now go to one in my town in CT. It's a lot smaller and definitely no LA or Gold's Gym. I see the same people all the time and even people I knew from HS. However, I feel like most of them are not very friendly. Maybe I am unapproachable, I don't know, but you think seeing the same people would at least prompt a greeting. I know people don't go to the gym to make friends and people get in the zone and don't pay attention to others much. I mean I have headphones and get in a zone but wouldn't brush someone off or avoid convo unless I had a time crunch.

    I mean the only time I have talked to guys is to ask about something or for them to spot me. A few have been pretty nice and gave advice and what not but some just seem annoyed.

    I am just wondering what your guys' experiences have been like? Do people at your gym say hi if they are regulars or no? Do you have "gym friends" or are you one that just puts on headphones and zones out 100% and no one can get in your way? If you have been and lived in multiple cities with different gyms, does that make a difference or is it a universal thing?
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    Jan 10, 2015 6:21 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 said...
    Do people at your gym say hi if they are regulars NO

    Do you have "gym friends" NO
    or
    are you one that just puts on headphones and zones out 100% YES
    and
    no one can get in your way? I AM ALWAYS TOTALLY POLITE

    If you have been and lived in multiple cities with different gyms, does that make a difference NO

  • being_human

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    Jan 11, 2015 12:26 PM GMT
    I dono but you are really hot.
  • daddysw

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    Jan 11, 2015 1:04 PM GMT
    It's very odd, but I find that in many other spheres . . .if I see the same person more than a couple of times in the same place, I'll usually smile, say hi or something . . just to acknowledge them . . in the gym especially, many guys seem to avoid this . .don't know why, but it doesn't stop me being friendly! and it all helps the world go round . .
  • Fritter

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    Jan 11, 2015 2:31 PM GMT
    The gym I go to currently is quite friendly, and I feel I've become part of a community. My first gym I went to was the opposite. I never even got an annoyed grunt from "good morning"!
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 11, 2015 4:46 PM GMT
    I go to two gyms and have maybe 3 or 4 guys in each that I talk to. Another 3 or 4 I'll nod "Hey" to. That's enough. I really don't like distractions, not even from my partner. We go together but outside the locker room, we work out separately and only talk when one needs a spot or to track time 'till done.
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    Jan 11, 2015 5:44 PM GMT
    Try to avoid those people who seems to get annoyed. Know the good ones who responds to you in a good manner. People can be somewhat different not only in the gym but in every other situations of life.
  • chadwick1985

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    Jan 11, 2015 7:12 PM GMT
    I listen to music but only put one ear bud in so that people can approach me. It could be simply that people focus on what they're working on. Try to greet people and start up a convo.
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    Jan 11, 2015 7:29 PM GMT
    I use headphones but honestly, they send out a pretty strong "Don't talk to me, Dude" message. As soon as I see one of the few guys I chit chat with I whip out one eye bud and say "hi". I figure it sends the message out to bystanders that I can be friendly and sociable. Every once in a while I leave them off for a few minutes to reinforce it.
  • davfit

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    Jan 12, 2015 1:43 AM GMT
    I think that happens everywhere ,when I lived in sobe people at the Trendy cool gym were creepy!!! and unfriendly.I switched to a more friendly one
    In atlanta at my gym ,I have many gym friends and got the ones who won't even look at me, yet if I see them outside,like at store they say Hi? weird
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    Jan 12, 2015 3:49 AM GMT
    No gym friends and since Is the Y and more of a family gym I don't smile at the cute guys.Return a smile yeah and I am always polite to everyone.But when I go to the gym I am most always with my man so I pretty much ignore everyone.
  • BlackCoach

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    Jan 12, 2015 4:31 AM GMT
    I usually have only a hour to do a workout and then must leave. So conversations can lead to my time being eaten up. Nothing personal but, there to do a work out.

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    Jan 12, 2015 5:44 AM GMT
    I've mostly been to uni/college gyms and I node/say hi to guys I see quite often. There are always some guys I wouldn't say hi b/c they are in their own world. But I also made a very good friend and we hang out outside the gym now. So you have the two extremes.
  • mybud

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    Jan 12, 2015 6:13 AM GMT
    If I make eye contact with a guy I'll say "sup" or "hi" and nod. When I go to the gym, I'm a man on a mission..I put in my ear buds and lift.
  • vhotti26

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    Jan 12, 2015 9:47 AM GMT
    I never talk to anyone in the gym unless talked to or asking how long they'll be needing some equipment.
    One thing I have learned is that there are people who talk and people who make progress. The only people that don't fall into those categories are the steroids gang in my gym.
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    Jan 12, 2015 10:40 AM GMT
    I could see that happening the first few times. I don't know maybe I'm extraverted or just have a magnetic smile or something. In the last 3 years I've been to 14 gyms and found they've all been good. I only wear earbuds when I'm working around home or on the bike. Maybe that's another reason. People figure they aren't interrupting you or having to raise their voice to get through to you. Also, these are Canadian gyms that I go to, I've never been to one out of the country.
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    Jan 12, 2015 10:53 AM GMT
    For me I guess it all comes down to internalized homophobia. My gym is not particularly gay so I don't initiate unnecessary conversation with guys I don't know for fear of them thinking I'm hitting on them.

    I do chat with folks at the gym whom I already know from elsewhere.
  • DanOmatic

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    Jan 12, 2015 12:26 PM GMT
    duluthrunner saidFor me I guess it all comes down to internalized homophobia. My gym is not particularly gay so I don't initiate unnecessary conversation with guys I don't know for fear of them thinking I'm hitting on them.

    I do chat with folks at the gym whom I already know from elsewhere.


    This has been my experience at my local gym. It's located in the most progressive town in NC, and the clientele represent a broad demographic, but the guys are particularly unfriendly, and i wonder if it's based in internalized homophobia. They seem particularly focused on projecting a badass image at all times.
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    Jan 15, 2015 6:57 PM GMT
    I am friendly, proactively ask people if they want to swap sets if they are hovering in that way people do. It always pays dividends later when you are the one waiting. The exception is personal trainers who are training clients. They are always so pushy that they can just get lost as far as I am concerned icon_smile.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 15, 2015 9:56 PM GMT
    I thought about this thread last night. There's a really cute guy that works out at my gym that I've seen a thousand times. Neither of us has ever acknowledged the other and frankly, I was beginning to think he was one of the meathead boys. Last night, when I arrived and was changing in the locker room, he was also changing back into his street clothes. I looked up and gave him a simple "Hey, how's it going?" He suddenly got all chatty and friendly and threw out a thumbnail sketch of his life history. I'm partnered and he's probably straight but I think it illustrates that sometimes it's just a matter of breaking the ice. Some guy that seems aloof may be thinking the same of you but neither of you takes the first step.
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    Jan 17, 2015 3:14 PM GMT
    There are a few people (male and female) that I talk to a little bit at the gym because we are always there at the same time and if I see someone I know well from outside the gym, I will definitely stop and say hi, but I generally prefer not to talk to others at the gym. I just want to focus on my workout and use my time efficiently. I do get approached regularly by guys asking for suggestions or tips and I don't mind taking the time for that because I like to be helpful and it tells me they are serious about their fitness. The funny thing is, if I see someone from the gym somewhere else, then I will talk to them and acknowledge that we work out at the same place and strike up a conversation.
  • e2ksj3355

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    Jan 19, 2015 7:09 AM GMT
    At my gym most are kind of cold and standoffish, although some are ok. I recently transferred gyms and noticed a few members from my old gym. I attempted just to reach out and say hi and most were not very responsive to me, but will chat with others. Maybe they have gaydar and don't like gay guys. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 24, 2015 4:44 AM GMT
    I enjoy being social at the gym because I don't go out to clubs much. I am in RPM classes, so it's pretty easier to socialize before and after class. It's half the fun of the class and even in class we interact with each other. Socializing is very much a part of our group cycling rides outdoors, too, when we warm up during the first 9 miles. But after the warm up ride, the serious part of training begins and the speed gets real fast and intense and then no one says a word, except warning of dangers ahead and most the time this is by hand signals only.
  • IgnatiusReill...

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    Oct 25, 2015 7:18 PM GMT
    Most of the people at my local Y are friendly and courteous, and they will return a greeting. I will normally wish someone a good afternoon or say hello without the expectation of beginning a conversation. However, there are a couple of guys who, in my opinion, are just downright rude to everyone. They spend their time lifting weights, grunting, and preening in front of the mirrors. I ignore them.
  • Timbales

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    Oct 25, 2015 7:28 PM GMT
    There are a few people that are regulars and for me, it's usually a nod and an occasional 'Hello' with most of them when our paths cross.