New here and kind of lost

  • icermountain

    Posts: 2

    Jan 11, 2015 12:59 AM GMT
    I'm a student in Chicago and I'll be working in the area after graduation, so I figured it'd be a good idea to start expanding my network of friends. I'm not out but want to try dating or have friends I can be open with.

    Just made a profile yesterday since the guys seem pretty cool on here. Any tips/advice for meeting people here?
  • mybud

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    Jan 11, 2015 3:50 AM GMT
    Be yourself and be honest. Keep your expectations in check, some on here aren't who they appear to be. It's a good idea to chat with potential friends on skype..A Picture says a thousands words. If he appears an asshole on skype..he'll be an asshole in the flesh. I wish you all the best in your endeavors....Welcome to RJ.
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    Jan 11, 2015 4:16 AM GMT
    Approach guys in your city.
  • Trontastic

    Posts: 135

    Jan 11, 2015 12:33 PM GMT
    Don't touch any of the political topics around here! That way madness lies...
  • SENCGuy1

    Posts: 247

    Jan 11, 2015 1:11 PM GMT
    I agree with Trontastic about the political topics. I've met some really nice men on here and enjoy talking with them. Hope your experience with RJ is a good one. You might also join LinkedIn to build a professional network if you haven't already done so.

    Good luck.
  • chadwick1985

    Posts: 391

    Jan 11, 2015 7:15 PM GMT
    Like others have said be yourself and don't take it too seriously when people argue their point and get indignant. It doesn't happen all the time but there are a lot of different perspectives and personalities on here.
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    Jan 12, 2015 1:30 AM GMT
    Hello and welcome.

    I would say be personable as possible while in the forums and don't be afraid of getting shot down if you do send personal messages.

    Best of luck to ya bud!
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    Jan 12, 2015 2:17 AM GMT
    It's easier to make friends when you live an open, honest life. I speak from experience. When I denied my true self I would not allow anyone get too close lest they discovered my secret. The result was I never made any true close friends. I'm not saying you need to make a grand announcement; just be your authentic self, do not pretend to be what you're not (i.e., dating girls), and if anyone of your friends questions your sexuality do not deny it.

    Welcome to RJ. Many of us here are good guys; however, fasten your seatbelt; it's going to be a bumpy ride!
  • SnowSpirit

    Posts: 21

    Jan 12, 2015 2:46 AM GMT
    Join the club. I've been lost since I got here.
  • icermountain

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    Jan 12, 2015 4:43 AM GMT
    Thanks for the advice guys. Appreciate it.