Do people not mean what they say after a few drinks?

  • wesv

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    Jan 14, 2015 2:03 AM GMT
    I was at a gay bar Sunday. A guy laid eyes on me and then we started to chat. He already had two drinks when we were talking and I had none. He said I had a cute personality, seemed more mature than 22, and had a killer smile. Then he gave his contact because he would love take me on a date. We texted yesterday and agreed to meet up for Tuesday although we couldn't think of a place. I sent him two messages today, but he didn't reply at all.

    What's up with that?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 14, 2015 2:34 AM GMT
    Drinking gives you courage. So now he is reverting back to his shy, quiet self. Asking to meet for drinks. After a couple times he will be more comfortable with contacting you.
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    Jan 14, 2015 5:53 AM GMT
    People tend to over-promise when in temporary states of euphoria. Just after orgasm, while on vacation, etc.
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    Jan 15, 2015 11:17 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI would also recommend staying away from bars and clubs if you don't drug or do drugs. What's the point?


    Um, alcohol? Interacting with people? I wasn't aware that you had to do drugs to go out with your friends and have a good time.
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    Jan 16, 2015 2:03 AM GMT
    Maybe you should send your pic to him. I find that whenever there is a delay, I text saying, "btw, I know it was a few days ago, here is me" and I send a normal pic.
  • Beeftastic

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    Jan 16, 2015 2:35 AM GMT
    woodfordr saidMaybe you should send your pic to him. I find that whenever there is a delay, I text saying, "btw, I know it was a few days ago, here is me" and I send a normal pic.


    Yeah a cute shirtless pic is a good way to get the temperature up. Try more flirting. You have some really cute shirtless pics on here icon_smile.gif
  • wesv

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    Jan 16, 2015 5:44 AM GMT
    woodfordr saidMaybe you should send your pic to him. I find that whenever there is a delay, I text saying, "btw, I know it was a few days ago, here is me" and I send a normal pic.


    Does it always work? I might try that.
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    Jan 16, 2015 2:38 PM GMT
    Well, you sent him two messages today. He can just be busy and might answer after a couple of hours...
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    Jan 16, 2015 2:50 PM GMT
    Beyond two texts and you're venturing into being perceived as "desperate," "creeping," "stalking," yada yada. Fixations are fleeting and 100% normal at 22. By next weekend you'll have forgotten about him, just as he did about you in a shorter time frame. (Genuine interest would have garnered a response the first time around.)

    Sending a "normal" pic is good advice for the future, though, when you're still on Message 1.

    P.S. If someone's honestly only had a couple of drinks they're still in full command of their faculties. And if they're sloshed pursuit isn't advisable anyhow.
  • Suetonius

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    Jan 16, 2015 4:41 PM GMT
    The moral here is: Strike while the iron is hot. When you encounter a hot 22 year old that is hot for you and is under the effects of alcohol, better to go home with him right then, as it is more likely than not that after the alcohol wears off, he will think better of it.

    People are less inhibited, and actually are much more likely to say what they really think after a few drinks - it's just that after sobering up, their inhibitions and rational thinking come back.
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    Jan 18, 2015 3:42 AM GMT
    I don't really drink anymore cause I get gout attacks but I was way more honest when I was drunk sure lol.