Reasons why ( some ) gays don't like Bisexuals

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    Jan 15, 2015 6:41 PM GMT
    There seems to be a lot of confusion about this and the reasons why. I've come up with some of my own to try to clear this up.

    Personally I do believe Bisexuals exist. However as a gay man who has served in the military out and proud I have never hidden my sexuality to please straight people.

    I'll never forget the time I saw Reese Rideout on VH1. He represents many of the reasons why I don't date bi guys and closet cases anymore. cmt-medium.gif
    He's married to this poor chick who has low self esteem and he screws around with men on the side for money. But get this ! He claims to be "striaght"icon_rolleyes.gif

    What male bisexuals fail to realize is that we as gay men want absolutely NOTHING to do with men like that. Thats not sexy, its not attractive, its not romantic. What do we get out of it ? ... nothing. Why date a coward that's fucking guys while he's waiting for the skirt he wants to marry and likely slither back into the closet and make you his drunken sports bar phone call/public restroom suck off buddy. Until you meet his wife awkwardly at the Macy's counter and realize that they're two human beings the cowards been stringing along, lying to and showing no respect for ?

    Whats worse is that some gay people support these spineless bastards. We are to blame for some of this because gays can be slutty and will make exceptions for guys ( bisexuals included ) to openly disrespect them depending on how "hot" the man may seem. Hence why we have soooo many of the bisexuals that are so brazen about disrespecting gay guys by making gays their bi-curious experiment projects that when one of us finally has respect for ourselves and gets angry, the bi guys think WE are the ones with the problem lol.

    Also I have been to too many different places around the world and seen all types of gay people. But one thing that rings true time and time again is that many bisexual males enjoy the duality of blending in with straight people to the point where many dont even see the point of coming out. Further more why is it so hard to understand why we dont want to be replaced in a relationship by a female ? It shouldnt take a rocket scientist. I think you are all tip toeing around the issue trying not to "offend" but time for a dose of reality ! It is emotionally worse to be left by a man for a woman because it is an insult to our entire being ! While it may still feel terrible to be left for the same sex on the other hand its worse when its a chick because as a gay man our entire lives we are badgered by the hetero public to try to conform to be "straight" with them trying to force us to be straight, then combine that with actually being with a man and having him leave you for a chick ??? Its an insult to everything we go through, our entire struggle as gays, in many ways its like a cop-out. So as a gay man why not just save yourself the trouble and not date bisexuals.

    Also I've come up with a solution, sense Bisexuals constantly whine about not being excepted by straights and gays then why don't they do the most obvious thing ??? ....Date Bisexuals. When gay guys want a boyfriend what do we do ? Go find a gay man. When straight people want to find someone they go find a straight person. Why cant bisexuals just date other bisexuals ? Whys is that so hard ?

    While some of you may jump to saying I'm being prejudice let us not forget that some of the worst scandals on this site/forum were because of Bisexual men who were hopping on here to indulge in sexual activities with US gays while they already had women ... I dont need to name names, hopefully you all are smart enough to figure it out. icon_cool.gificon_cool.gificon_cool.gificon_cool.gificon_cool.gif
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    Jan 15, 2015 7:01 PM GMT
    I can understand your personal choice as to whom you choose to date, and I think your reasoning make sense. But I don't understand your need to viciously judge other people. I suspect that need has more to do with a lack of self-acceptance and you've merely selected a target on which to project your own struggles.
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    Jan 15, 2015 7:04 PM GMT
    sf_swimmer saidI can understand your personal choice as to whom you choose to date, and I think your reasoning make sense. But I don't understand your need to viciously judge other people. I suspect that need has more to do with a lack of self-acceptance and you've merely selected a target on which to project your own struggles.


    Its called the truth man. I except myself fully, I have NO problems why my gayness lol. You're reaching there. I'm just shedding some light on the issue because in davids post i felt like the message was lost and people kept fumbling around it. Why must I have a problem with myself to state the obvious ?
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    Jan 15, 2015 7:15 PM GMT
    I agree. I mean personally I think a bi dude is okay for a fuck but I'd never date one. They can't be trusted because they always go back to women. It's a proven fact
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    Jan 15, 2015 7:26 PM GMT
    Yep, I agree with ryyyder. Especially his paragraph about a bi leaving you for a woman. And I suspect that for many gay men who are dating a bi that they'll always have a suspicion that they're second best, that they suspect that the bi guy would really rather be with a woman, even if the bi guy really is truly bi and likes you for man sex; you're always going to feel like you're the backup plan.

    Unlike some I do believe in bisexuality, not that bisexuals playing some game and afraid of committing to being gay.

    So in the game of hard knocks, straights have it easier, gays have it less easy, and bisexuals have it the least easy. Life sucks, but there you are.

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    Jan 15, 2015 8:07 PM GMT
    ryyyder said
    sf_swimmer saidI can understand your personal choice as to whom you choose to date, and I think your reasoning make sense. But I don't understand your need to viciously judge other people. I suspect that need has more to do with a lack of self-acceptance and you've merely selected a target on which to project your own struggles.


    Its called the truth man. I except myself fully, I have NO problems why my gayness lol. You're reaching there. I'm just shedding some light on the issue because in davids post i felt like the message was lost and people kept fumbling around it. Why must I have a problem with myself to state the obvious ?


    Because your judging of others really speaks volumes about you.

    Just live and let live.
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    Jan 15, 2015 8:48 PM GMT
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    ryyyder said
    sf_swimmer saidI can understand your personal choice as to whom you choose to date, and I think your reasoning make sense. But I don't understand your need to viciously judge other people. I suspect that need has more to do with a lack of self-acceptance and you've merely selected a target on which to project your own struggles.


    Its called the truth man. I except myself fully, I have NO problems why my gayness lol. You're reaching there. I'm just shedding some light on the issue because in davids post i felt like the message was lost and people kept fumbling around it. Why must I have a problem with myself to state the obvious ?


    Because your judging of others really speaks volumes about you.

    Just live and let live.


    "live and let live" MY ASS .... If you dont stand for something, you'll fall for anything.
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    Jan 15, 2015 8:53 PM GMT
    ryyyder said
    sf_swimmer said
    ryyyder said
    sf_swimmer saidI can understand your personal choice as to whom you choose to date, and I think your reasoning make sense. But I don't understand your need to viciously judge other people. I suspect that need has more to do with a lack of self-acceptance and you've merely selected a target on which to project your own struggles.


    Its called the truth man. I except myself fully, I have NO problems why my gayness lol. You're reaching there. I'm just shedding some light on the issue because in davids post i felt like the message was lost and people kept fumbling around it. Why must I have a problem with myself to state the obvious ?


    Because your judging of others really speaks volumes about you.

    Just live and let live.


    "live and let live" MY ASS .... If you dont stand for something, you'll fall for anything.


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    Jan 15, 2015 9:37 PM GMT
    I should clarify my agreement with ryyyder. I do not think that bisexuals are spineless bastards and cowards. My response was simply to voice what I think are the common worries of gay men about bisexuals; that with bisexuals we fear or suspect that we'll always be on the B list with respect to women, who are automatically on the A list. That's not to say that I think that's true, but I think that that's what most gay men suspect.
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    Jan 15, 2015 9:59 PM GMT
    ryyyder said
    sf_swimmer said
    ryyyder said
    sf_swimmer saidI can understand your personal choice as to whom you choose to date, and I think your reasoning make sense. But I don't understand your need to viciously judge other people. I suspect that need has more to do with a lack of self-acceptance and you've merely selected a target on which to project your own struggles.


    Its called the truth man. I except myself fully, I have NO problems why my gayness lol. You're reaching there. I'm just shedding some light on the issue because in davids post i felt like the message was lost and people kept fumbling around it. Why must I have a problem with myself to state the obvious ?


    Because your judging of others really speaks volumes about you.

    Just live and let live.


    "live and let live" MY ASS .... If you dont stand for something, you'll fall for anything.


    Throughout history live and let live has probably been one of the most difficult principles to stand up for, so I can understand why you would find it intimidating.
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    Jan 15, 2015 10:03 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidI should clarify my agreement with ryyyder. I do not think that bisexuals are spineless bastards and cowards. My response was simply to voice what I think are the common worries of gay men about bisexuals; that with bisexuals we fear or suspect that we'll always be on the B list with respect to women, who are automatically on the A list. That's not to say that I think that's true, but I think that that's what most gay men suspect.


    Well I'm not saying they are ALL spineless. Its just more than less is what I've seen
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    Jan 15, 2015 10:09 PM GMT
    ryyyder said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidI should clarify my agreement with ryyyder. I do not think that bisexuals are spineless bastards and cowards. My response was simply to voice what I think are the common worries of gay men about bisexuals; that with bisexuals we fear or suspect that we'll always be on the B list with respect to women, who are automatically on the A list. That's not to say that I think that's true, but I think that that's what most gay men suspect.


    Well I'm not saying they are ALL spineless. Its just more than less is what I've seen


    I agree. It's way too many bisexual men who fit what you described.
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    Jan 15, 2015 10:12 PM GMT
    Well let me tell you that just like most scandals the stories go from mouth to mouth until they change completely, always for the worst, so don't base your theories on things you heard and have no idea of.

    So apparently it's OK for gays to show themselves, cheat for real, and be in "open relationships" (which seems to be the norm for gays), but if a bisexual guy shows 1 dick pic through internet (because its not like hed be doing it all the time) it's the worst thing ever, give me a break icon_rolleyes.gif Double standard at its best.

    Im a bisexual man and NEVER ever cheated on a partner, meaning I never had sex or emotional conection with anyone outside my relationship; never used Grindr or had any intentions of "open relationships" either. You should learn that its the intentions anda actions of a person that matters and not their sexual orientation, because if you base your theory on that then gays should be at the bottom of everything because they behave the worst.
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    Jan 15, 2015 10:15 PM GMT
    David3K saidWell let me tell you that just like most scandals the stories go from mouth to mouth until they change completely, always for the worst, so don't base your theories on things you heard and have no idea of.

    So apparently it's OK for gays to show themselves, cheat for real, and be in "open relationships" (which seems to be the norm for gays), but if a bisexual guy shows 1 dick pic through internet (because its not like hed be doing it all the time) it's the worst thing ever, give me a break icon_rolleyes.gif Double standard at its best.

    Im a bisexual man and NEVER ever cheated on a partner, meaning I never had sex or emotional conection with anyone outside my relationship; never used Grindr or had any intentions of "open relationships". You should learn that its the values of a person that matters and not their sexual orientation, because if you base your theory on that then gays should be at the bottom of everything because they behave the worst.


    No one was talking about your dick pic.

    But like we mentioned you are with a woman because bisexual men always pic the woman and never the man in the end. Bisexual men are incapable of truly loving other men. It's only about sex for them. If they are with a man it may be years but they will because they cannot commit to a man. Gay men should avoid them unless they need sex. We should treat them the way they treat us.
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    Jan 15, 2015 10:27 PM GMT
    Inque saidWe should treat them the way they treat us


    Now THAT is a novel idea !!!!
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    Jan 15, 2015 10:36 PM GMT
    sf_swimmer said
    ryyyder said
    sf_swimmer said
    ryyyder said
    sf_swimmer saidI can understand your personal choice as to whom you choose to date, and I think your reasoning make sense. But I don't understand your need to viciously judge other people. I suspect that need has more to do with a lack of self-acceptance and you've merely selected a target on which to project your own struggles.


    Its called the truth man. I except myself fully, I have NO problems why my gayness lol. You're reaching there. I'm just shedding some light on the issue because in davids post i felt like the message was lost and people kept fumbling around it. Why must I have a problem with myself to state the obvious ?


    Because your judging of others really speaks volumes about you.

    Just live and let live.


    "live and let live" MY ASS .... If you dont stand for something, you'll fall for anything.


    Throughout history live and let live has probably been one of the most difficult principles to stand up for, so I can understand why you would find it intimidating.

    Ooh, now that's worth mulling over. I wish the religious proselytizers would stop hassling people to accept their version of hooha. They should just live and let live!icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 16, 2015 1:31 AM GMT
    Inque said
    But like we mentioned you are with a woman because bisexual men always pic the woman and never the man in the end. Bisexual men are incapable of truly loving other men. It's only about sex for them. If they are with a man it may be years but they will because they cannot commit to a man. Gay men should avoid them unless they need sex. We should treat them the way they treat us.


    You are incorrect, and your advice to other gay men is wrong.

    Instead of labeling that gay men should avoid bisexuals, why shouldn't it be gay men should avoid shitty people in general?

    I only mention this because I married a bisexual man. So I can tell you from first hand experience that bisexual men are capable loving men.
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    Jan 16, 2015 5:04 AM GMT
    Another day in the life of a bisexual.

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    Jan 17, 2015 7:20 AM GMT
    I agree with the OP 100%.

    My ex boyfriend was bi and I totally regret dating him. He ended up giving me an injury the last time we had sex. He didn't care. Instead, all he could have thought about were tits.

    Another thing, guys like Reese Rideout are the reason why I don't watch gay porn anymore.
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    Jan 17, 2015 7:28 AM GMT
    wesv saidI agree with the OP 100%.

    My ex boyfriend was bi and I totally regret dating him. He ended up giving me an injury the last time we had sex. He didn't care. Instead, all he could have thought about were tits.

    Another thing, guys like Reese Rideout are the reason why I don't watch gay porn anymore.


    Thank you !
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    Jan 17, 2015 7:35 AM GMT
    In the "would you date bisexuals" thread Inque made an interesting point

    Inque saidSo just to clear things up:

    Not wanting to date someone because of someone's skin color is just a preference.

    Not wanting to date someone because of their sexuality is being a bigot.

    The mental gymnastics white people go through to justify their bullshit is astounding.



    I say we as gay men should collectively start rejecting bisexual men in the same fashion whites reject people for there skin color. If gay men starting doing this collectively on a large scale we would surly benefit.

    If you are gay and reading this, the next time a bi guy tries to have sex with you or try something along those lines simply tell him " No, I'm not into bi guys, I prefer not to be involved romantically or sexually with men who fuck women, its just a preference, its not worth my time "
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    Jan 17, 2015 7:41 AM GMT
    I haven't met or dated a lot of bisexual men. Well, the only reason I can think of maybe because they like both women and men. If you're dating one, you'd be like **Does he like me more than women? lol, Is he into vagina more than the D?? Maybe Bi guys get a bad rap because they're confused and want to mess with boys on the side and then go back to their wives?? icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 17, 2015 7:44 AM GMT
    wesv saidI agree with the OP 100%.

    My ex boyfriend was bi and I totally regret dating him. He ended up giving me an injury the last time we had sex. He didn't care. Instead, all he could have thought about were tits.

    Another thing, guys like Reese Rideout are the reason why I don't watch gay porn anymore.


    sounds like he was just an asshole. and that has no bearing on someone's sexual orientation. would you have said the same thing if he gave you an injury, didn't care, and only cared about another man's dick instead of your own? would you have still regretted dating him then?
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    Jan 17, 2015 7:45 AM GMT
    ryyyder saidIn the "would you date bisexuals" thread Inque made an interesting point

    Inque saidSo just to clear things up:

    Not wanting to date someone because of someone's skin color is just a preference.

    Not wanting to date someone because of their sexuality is being a bigot.

    The mental gymnastics white people go through to justify their bullshit is astounding.



    I say we as gay men should collectively start rejecting bisexual men in the same fashion whites reject people for there skin color. If gay men starting doing this collectively on a large scale we would surly benefit.

    If you are gay and reading this, the next time a bi guy tries to have sex with you or try something along those lines simply tell him " No, I'm not into bi guys, I prefer not to be involved romantically or sexually with men who fuck women, its just a preference, its not worth my time "


    Can't it just be us true gay men together? Bi guys infiltrate our community and attempt to bring the interest of women among us. Haven't we already been forced to "change" because of our sexual orientation? Why encourage us to make it worse? For all you bisexuals, save it. I already had my time because of my race. Fair enough.
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    Jan 17, 2015 7:48 AM GMT
    wesv said
    Can't it just be us true gay men together? Bi guys infiltrate our community and attempt to bring the interest of women among us. Haven't we already been forced to "change" because of our sexual orientation? Why encourage us to make it worse? For all you bisexuals, save it. I already had my time because of my race. Fair enough.


    This is so fucked up I literally laughed out loud.