Putting too much in

  • Inque

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    Jan 16, 2015 3:45 PM GMT
    Does anyone else have the problem of investing too much time into dead end relationships or romantically themed situations? Ocd realized last night this is part of my problem. I have zero trust in men and so I needle them endlessly and when they don't communicate with me every second kof every day I get anxious and assume he's fucking someone else. I've known I've had trust issues for a while now but it isn't until recently I'm realizing this is why I push men aaway. I'm too needy and way too clingy and want too much too soon.

    Anyone else have this problem?
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    Jan 16, 2015 4:11 PM GMT
    Perhaps you should focus on fixing the neediness, the clinginess, your trust issues, etc before you think about pursuing a relationship…all those things are guaranteed to NOT keep any potential partner around. Thus detrimental to your objective.

    I use to have the problem of investing too much into potential boyfriends. Constantly worrying about what they were so busy doing that they couldn't answer my texts in a reasonable amount of time. So, being the naive young admit I was (and in some ways still am), I would keep texting…the biggest mistake someone could make in these type of situations. The result was I pushed these guys away.

    So my advice to you is to never put as much effort into any relationship (platonic relationships included) as the other person is willing to give back. You'll save yourself a lot of stress and heartache.

    Just my two cents. Hope I helped.