Could you date a racist?

  • Inque

    Posts: 517

    Jan 16, 2015 3:50 PM GMT
    Let's say you meet this guy and he's perfect in everyway but when you talk you notice he really dislikes certain ethnic or racial groups but they aren't the ones you belong to. Would you continue to go out with him or break it off?
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    Jan 16, 2015 4:02 PM GMT
    Nope. Been there done that. It's shameful.
  • Suetonius

    Posts: 1842

    Jan 16, 2015 4:26 PM GMT
    1. Nobody's perfect in every way.

    2. Depends.

    3. If he could not bother me with racist remarks, and wasn't offensive in public, yes. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and thoughts.

    4. Would not vote for someone like that for a public office.

    5. Would definitely date him if he were a famous cartoonist for Charlie Hebdo.
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    Jan 16, 2015 4:33 PM GMT
    Suetonius said1. Nobody's perfect in every way.

    2. Depends.

    3. If he could not bother me with racist remarks, and wasn't offensive in public, yes. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and thoughts.

    4. Would not vote for someone like that for a public office.

    5. Would definitely date him if he were a famous cartoonist for Charlie Hebdo.

    Being blasphemous is not the same thing as being racist. Islam and Christianity are not races. They are fantasies that people take literally.
  • Destinharbor

    Posts: 4433

    Jan 16, 2015 5:26 PM GMT
    No, but I'd also not want to date a guy who lives in a totally PC world. I don't mind people having a little sport with me and I like to harass friends a bit but it's always with the knowledge that we're kidding and care about each other. Races do have some distinctive features but mostly it's culturally induced. Poking friendly fun at others isn't a bad thing if there's no venom.
  • monstapex

    Posts: 478

    Jan 16, 2015 6:26 PM GMT
    Inque saidLet's say you meet this guy and he's perfect in everyway but when you talk you notice he really dislikes certain ethnic or racial groups but they aren't the ones you belong to. Would you continue to go out with him or break it off?


    Aren't you a racist. You don't like black men.To you they are thugs, ghetto, and an embarrassment to be with.
  • Inque

    Posts: 517

    Jan 16, 2015 7:18 PM GMT
    monstapex said
    Inque saidLet's say you meet this guy and he's perfect in everyway but when you talk you notice he really dislikes certain ethnic or racial groups but they aren't the ones you belong to. Would you continue to go out with him or break it off?


    Aren't you a racist. You don't like black men.To you they are thugs, ghetto, and an embarrassment to be with.




    Yes I guess you could see it that way. Your point?
  • Eli_jah

    Posts: 1391

    Jan 16, 2015 7:20 PM GMT
    monstapex said
    Inque saidLet's say you meet this guy and he's perfect in everyway but when you talk you notice he really dislikes certain ethnic or racial groups but they aren't the ones you belong to. Would you continue to go out with him or break it off?


    Aren't you a racist. You don't like black men.To you they are thugs, ghetto, and an embarrassment to be with.


    He is prejudiced, not racist.

    And no, I could not date a racist.
  • Eli_jah

    Posts: 1391

    Jan 16, 2015 7:21 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidNo, but I'd also not want to date a guy who lives in a totally PC world. I don't mind people having a little sport with me and I like to harass friends a bit but it's always with the knowledge that we're kidding and care about each other. Races do have some distinctive features but mostly it's culturally induced. Poking friendly fun at others isn't a bad thing if there's no venom.


    I see what you're saying. I want to be with someone who is racially aware and can have heated discussions about race, not someone who supposedly "doesn't see color. Fuck that post-racial nonsense.
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    Jan 16, 2015 7:33 PM GMT
    Dopeamine said
    Destinharbor saidNo, but I'd also not want to date a guy who lives in a totally PC world. I don't mind people having a little sport with me and I like to harass friends a bit but it's always with the knowledge that we're kidding and care about each other. Races do have some distinctive features but mostly it's culturally induced. Poking friendly fun at others isn't a bad thing if there's no venom.


    I see what you're saying. I want to be with someone who is racially aware and can have heated discussions about race, not someone who supposedly "doesn't see color. Fuck that post-racial nonsense.

    Every time I see some white guy say, I treat everyone the same, whether they are black, white or purple, I just want to shake some sense into them. There have never been purple people. That's just a way to trivialize racism and make it seem like it's imaginary.

    #sooverpurple(white)privilege

    icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 16, 2015 7:35 PM GMT
    No.
  • NeuralShock

    Posts: 411

    Jan 16, 2015 7:41 PM GMT
    I could because I am friends with a lot of people that ARE racist but don't share it much. To me as long as they weren't yelling and making a commotion about it I wouldn't care. But if they were then I would likely find it insufferable.

    Personally I am neutral to races other than relationship preferences.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 16, 2015 7:41 PM GMT
    No.

    Would not even consider it.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 16, 2015 7:45 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Dopeamine said
    Destinharbor saidNo, but I'd also not want to date a guy who lives in a totally PC world. I don't mind people having a little sport with me and I like to harass friends a bit but it's always with the knowledge that we're kidding and care about each other. Races do have some distinctive features but mostly it's culturally induced. Poking friendly fun at others isn't a bad thing if there's no venom.


    I see what you're saying. I want to be with someone who is racially aware and can have heated discussions about race, not someone who supposedly "doesn't see color. Fuck that post-racial nonsense.

    Every time I see some white guy say, I treat everyone the same, whether they are black, white or purple, I just want to shake some sense into them. There have never been purple people. That's just a way to trivialize racism and make it seem like it's imaginary.

    #sooverpurple(white)privilege

    icon_rolleyes.gif


    My family is from Jamaica, both sides, and every colour, I'll tell some of them on FB today what you said here so they can all have a good laugh at you. All of us treat everyone the same. And if there were purple or green people, we'd treat them the same as us, too.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 16, 2015 7:47 PM GMT


    ..and no I wouldn't date a racist. They'd freak when they saw my extensive family. Although it might be fun to watch him squirm uncomfortably at a nice long fam get-together, lol.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 16, 2015 8:43 PM GMT
    Nah. Racism comes from a hateful place and I rather not.
    I had a "date" with a guy that pretty much aired out all the specifics about what he's looking for in a relationship including the fact that he wouldn't date a black guy.
    I consider it to be inconsiderate to even mention something like that as "small talk". Yet you have people who say "oh well that's just a preference, not racism" No bitch, it may be your personal preference, but it is better off left unsaid, especially those who put that in their "about me" section. There's a million and one things people can put in their about me section yet that's one of the very few things about them that they feel is worth mentioning? Of course people will just consider you racist, I mean if not wanting to date a (insert race here) is at the top of your list... Fuck you and your shallow standards.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 16, 2015 9:12 PM GMT
    Only if he's circumcised

    icon_lol.gif

    --Just found out one of my stags is pretty racists...texted him again today that we couldn't hang out any more.
  • Hjalmar

    Posts: 97

    Jan 16, 2015 10:05 PM GMT
    Of course. It´s his problem, not mine!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 16, 2015 11:13 PM GMT


    giphy.gif

    The two types of people I hate the most are child molesters and racists.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 16, 2015 11:40 PM GMT
    "Racism" and "Prejudice" are often confused with each other. They are often intertwined but are sometimes found independent of each other. I find racism much more forgivable than prejudice. A person can be racist without being prejudice (rare but it does exist), however prejudice people are almost always racists.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 16, 2015 11:47 PM GMT
    No. If he looks down on others simply because of their race, that speaks volume about his character.

    Speaking of racism, I saw a very funny and witty French movie about racism. Just love the French humor. icon_lol.gif Too bad DVDs are not released with English subtitle yet.

    French title: Qu'est-ce qu'on a fait au bon dieu
    English title: Serial (Bad) Weddings

    http://www.amazon.com/Quest-ce-quon-fait-Bon-Dieu/dp/B00JP7TZCS
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 17, 2015 12:06 AM GMT
    Nobody is perfect so depending on the degree of racism I would consider dating them, yeah.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 17, 2015 12:47 AM GMT
    David3K saidNobody is perfect so depending on the degree of racism I would consider dating them, yeah.



    BIG surprise!
    Because you are one too.
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    Jan 17, 2015 1:00 AM GMT
    Well, you spread his legs and fuck him like he's never had it before, then right when he's ready to come you tell him your mom is whatever race he says he hates.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 17, 2015 1:28 AM GMT
    ^ Can you both rabid monkeys get off my back for a minute? Thank you.