I miss nice people who left RJ

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    Jan 16, 2015 4:34 PM GMT
    I guess they had enough with the bullshit going on here.
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    Jan 16, 2015 4:36 PM GMT
    you only got ~355 posts, hang in there.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 16, 2015 4:39 PM GMT
    They could just put people they don't like on ignore (or would that be not nice?). Anyway, I'm guessing they left for any number of reasons. There's a revolving door here. Some of them will be back.
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    Jan 16, 2015 4:47 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidThey could just put people they don't like on ignore (or would that be not nice?). Anyway, I'm guessing they left for any number of reasons. There's a revolving door here. Some of them will be back.

    guess good people always end up leaving this website.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 16, 2015 4:55 PM GMT
    I've talked to a few. They mostly said they got tired of trying to make a helpful suggestion or offer an alternative opinion and immediately got insulted by someone. That they just don't have time or inclination to wade through the ugliness. I agree to an extent. I was trying to talk a guy through a relationship problem recently in forums and when a troll attacked my partner (who is younger) basically calling him a whore for being with me and also insulted me because of a situation I mentioned that reminded me of something that happened with my ex-wife. Of course they knew nothing of either and it was totally irrelevant to the OP's issues but there are certain guys here that just like to be insulting. And after a while, sane people get tired of it.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 16, 2015 4:57 PM GMT
    calime61 said
    HottJoe saidThey could just put people they don't like on ignore (or would that be not nice?). Anyway, I'm guessing they left for any number of reasons. There's a revolving door here. Some of them will be back.

    guess good people always end up leaving this website.

    Perhaps. But when they mope about it, they aren't missed. It just seems like they get bitter and judge the community on RJ as bad, then retreat from it. We can't beg "good" people to stay. They're not that good. They're just looking to feel good.

    And by all means, they should seek to feel good. Why try to keep them where they don't want to be?

    The internet should have no borders, like countries and cults do.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 16, 2015 5:02 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidI've talked to a few. They mostly said they got tired of trying to make a helpful suggestion or offer an alternative opinion and immediately got insulted by someone. That they just don't have time or inclination to wade through the ugliness. I agree to an extent. I was trying to talk a guy through a relationship problem recently in forums and when a troll attacked my partner (who is younger) basically calling him a whore for being with me and also insulted me because of a situation I mentioned that reminded me of something that happened with my ex-wife. Of course they knew nothing of either and it was totally irrelevant to the OP's issues but there are certain guys here that just like to be insulting. And after a while, sane people get tired of it.

    That's too bad. I had someone call me borderline and say that men who cry need therapy. He's the kind of guy who calls other people diseased because he feels superior over them.

    But I don't hold a grudge!icon_wink.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 16, 2015 5:16 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Destinharbor saidI've talked to a few. They mostly said they got tired of trying to make a helpful suggestion or offer an alternative opinion and immediately got insulted by someone. That they just don't have time or inclination to wade through the ugliness. I agree to an extent. I was trying to talk a guy through a relationship problem recently in forums and when a troll attacked my partner (who is younger) basically calling him a whore for being with me and also insulted me because of a situation I mentioned that reminded me of something that happened with my ex-wife. Of course they knew nothing of either and it was totally irrelevant to the OP's issues but there are certain guys here that just like to be insulting. And after a while, sane people get tired of it.

    That's too bad. I had someone call me borderline and say that men who cry need therapy. He's the kind of guy who calls other people diseased because he feels superior over them.

    But I don't hold a grudge!icon_wink.gif

    See? I called the OP's guy Borderline because he had all the symptoms I'd seen earlier as the OP had expressed in multiple threads and because one of them rang a bell with HJ, he chose to attack my partner and call him a whore. Some people are diseased.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 16, 2015 5:18 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    HottJoe said
    Destinharbor saidI've talked to a few. They mostly said they got tired of trying to make a helpful suggestion or offer an alternative opinion and immediately got insulted by someone. That they just don't have time or inclination to wade through the ugliness. I agree to an extent. I was trying to talk a guy through a relationship problem recently in forums and when a troll attacked my partner (who is younger) basically calling him a whore for being with me and also insulted me because of a situation I mentioned that reminded me of something that happened with my ex-wife. Of course they knew nothing of either and it was totally irrelevant to the OP's issues but there are certain guys here that just like to be insulting. And after a while, sane people get tired of it.

    That's too bad. I had someone call me borderline and say that men who cry need therapy. He's the kind of guy who calls other people diseased because he feels superior over them.

    But I don't hold a grudge!icon_wink.gif

    See? I called the OP's guy Borderline because he had all the symptoms I'd seen earlier as the OP had expressed in multiple threads and because one of them rang a bell with HJ, he chose to attack my partner and call him a whore. Some people are diseased.

    I didn't call your partner a whore. You talked about all the housemaids and cars you bought for your family, and suggested I was somehow envious. You think everyone is a whore, apparently.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 16, 2015 5:36 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Destinharbor said
    HottJoe said
    Destinharbor saidI've talked to a few. They mostly said they got tired of trying to make a helpful suggestion or offer an alternative opinion and immediately got insulted by someone. That they just don't have time or inclination to wade through the ugliness. I agree to an extent. I was trying to talk a guy through a relationship problem recently in forums and when a troll attacked my partner (who is younger) basically calling him a whore for being with me and also insulted me because of a situation I mentioned that reminded me of something that happened with my ex-wife. Of course they knew nothing of either and it was totally irrelevant to the OP's issues but there are certain guys here that just like to be insulting. And after a while, sane people get tired of it.

    That's too bad. I had someone call me borderline and say that men who cry need therapy. He's the kind of guy who calls other people diseased because he feels superior over them.

    But I don't hold a grudge!icon_wink.gif

    See? I called the OP's guy Borderline because he had all the symptoms I'd seen earlier as the OP had expressed in multiple threads and because one of them rang a bell with HJ, he chose to attack my partner and call him a whore. Some people are diseased.

    I didn't call your partner a whore. You talked about all the housemaids and cars you bought for your family, and suggested I was somehow envious. You think everyone is a whore, apparently.icon_rolleyes.gif

    See? I was making a point that people who are Borderline live in chaos which is exactly what the OP was describing and that no matter how much backup you give them, the chaos continues because that's the nature of the illness. I wasn't bragging. Borderline is believed to be a genetically based hormone imbalance. First I was insulted by being accused of being the cause of the illness, and then for no good reason you suggest my partner, with his Masters degree and a successful international filmmaker, is a whore because he wants to be with me. No connection. Just ugly.

    The OP had it right. Some people just get enough of the bullshit.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 16, 2015 5:54 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    Destinharbor said
    HottJoe said
    Destinharbor said
    HottJoe said
    Destinharbor saidI've talked to a few. They mostly said they got tired of trying to make a helpful suggestion or offer an alternative opinion and immediately got insulted by someone. That they just don't have time or inclination to wade through the ugliness. I agree to an extent. I was trying to talk a guy through a relationship problem recently in forums and when a troll attacked my partner (who is younger) basically calling him a whore for being with me and also insulted me because of a situation I mentioned that reminded me of something that happened with my ex-wife. Of course they knew nothing of either and it was totally irrelevant to the OP's issues but there are certain guys here that just like to be insulting. And after a while, sane people get tired of it.

    That's too bad. I had someone call me borderline and say that men who cry need therapy. He's the kind of guy who calls other people diseased because he feels superior over them.

    But I don't hold a grudge!icon_wink.gif

    See? I called the OP's guy Borderline because he had all the symptoms I'd seen earlier as the OP had expressed in multiple threads and because one of them rang a bell with HJ, he chose to attack my partner and call him a whore. Some people are diseased.

    I didn't call your partner a whore. You talked about all the housemaids and cars you bought for your family, and suggested I was somehow envious. You think everyone is a whore, apparently.icon_rolleyes.gif

    See? I was making a point that people who are Borderline live in chaos which is exactly what the OP was describing and that no matter how much backup you give them, the chaos continues because that's the nature of the illness. I wasn't bragging. Borderline is believed to be a genetically based hormone imbalance. First I was insulted by being accused of being the cause of the illness, and then for no good reason you suggest my partner, with his Masters degree and a successful international filmmaker, is a whore because he wants to be with me. No connection. Just ugly.

    The OP had it right. Some people just get enough of the bullshit.



    i think it's really funny that you're playing the victim despite many instances you've said plenty of off the wall shit yourself to other individuals on here that turned them off to the point where they left. you are part of the negativity on here even if you don't want to acknowledge it.

    it's really easy to say that you've been wronged instead of you admitting you were wrong yourself. you're not innocent as you're trying to make yourself out to be in this thread.

    on the devil's advocate side of the whole "nice people leaving the site". can't really blame other people for choosing to leave. that's their choice. you can't be too sensitive and have to have tough skin on a site like this.

    Bullshit. The only disagreement I've ever had with you was over Jamaica and its history. And that you generally come from a paranoid perspective.
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    Jan 16, 2015 5:59 PM GMT
    Who left? I see the same peopleicon_eek.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 16, 2015 6:08 PM GMT
    tmac saidWho left? I see the same peopleicon_eek.gif

    +1icon_lol.gif

    Where have you been tmac? You're always nice, one of the rare ones, really!icon_smile.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 16, 2015 6:09 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    Destinharbor said
    pazzy said
    Destinharbor said
    HottJoe said
    Destinharbor said
    HottJoe said
    Destinharbor saidI've talked to a few. They mostly said they got tired of trying to make a helpful suggestion or offer an alternative opinion and immediately got insulted by someone. That they just don't have time or inclination to wade through the ugliness. I agree to an extent. I was trying to talk a guy through a relationship problem recently in forums and when a troll attacked my partner (who is younger) basically calling him a whore for being with me and also insulted me because of a situation I mentioned that reminded me of something that happened with my ex-wife. Of course they knew nothing of either and it was totally irrelevant to the OP's issues but there are certain guys here that just like to be insulting. And after a while, sane people get tired of it.

    That's too bad. I had someone call me borderline and say that men who cry need therapy. He's the kind of guy who calls other people diseased because he feels superior over them.

    But I don't hold a grudge!icon_wink.gif

    See? I called the OP's guy Borderline because he had all the symptoms I'd seen earlier as the OP had expressed in multiple threads and because one of them rang a bell with HJ, he chose to attack my partner and call him a whore. Some people are diseased.

    I didn't call your partner a whore. You talked about all the housemaids and cars you bought for your family, and suggested I was somehow envious. You think everyone is a whore, apparently.icon_rolleyes.gif

    See? I was making a point that people who are Borderline live in chaos which is exactly what the OP was describing and that no matter how much backup you give them, the chaos continues because that's the nature of the illness. I wasn't bragging. Borderline is believed to be a genetically based hormone imbalance. First I was insulted by being accused of being the cause of the illness, and then for no good reason you suggest my partner, with his Masters degree and a successful international filmmaker, is a whore because he wants to be with me. No connection. Just ugly.

    The OP had it right. Some people just get enough of the bullshit.



    i think it's really funny that you're playing the victim despite many instances you've said plenty of off the wall shit yourself to other individuals on here that turned them off to the point where they left. you are part of the negativity on here even if you don't want to acknowledge it.

    it's really easy to say that you've been wronged instead of you admitting you were wrong yourself. you're not innocent as you're trying to make yourself out to be in this thread.

    on the devil's advocate side of the whole "nice people leaving the site". can't really blame other people for choosing to leave. that's their choice. you can't be too sensitive and have to have tough skin on a site like this.

    Bullshit. The only disagreement I've ever had with you was over Jamaica and its history. And that you generally come from a paranoid perspective.



    i'm NOT saying it just from my little run ins with you BUT from how i've seen you interact with some other posters in here. i'm pretty sure others will say the same shit about me. i've been nice to some people on here and a complete asshole towards others. most people on here have their high and low moments. there's only a few that have been nice their whole time on here and honestly, it's HARD to be that way. they more than likely aren't on this site a lot anyways.

    You're probably referring to some agist threads where guys said some pretty despicable things. I do respond to that.
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    Jan 16, 2015 6:09 PM GMT
    Many still check in and read a few forums and PM with Friends but choose to not participate because it has become virtually impossible to write ANYthing without it becoming a troll festival of untreated neurosis...

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    Jan 16, 2015 6:25 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    tmac saidWho left? I see the same peopleicon_eek.gif

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    Where have you been tmac? You're always nice, one of the rare ones, really!icon_smile.gif


    thanks icon_biggrin.gif

    i'm slowly preparing for a social media cleanse(facebook, instagram, rj) pretty soon I wont be available lol.
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    Jan 16, 2015 6:50 PM GMT
    Yea like who ? Can anyone even name any good intelligent members who left ?
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    Jan 16, 2015 6:51 PM GMT
    tmac said
    HottJoe said
    tmac saidWho left? I see the same peopleicon_eek.gif

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    Where have you been tmac? You're always nice, one of the rare ones, really!icon_smile.gif


    thanks icon_biggrin.gif

    i'm slowly preparing for a social media cleanse(facebook, instagram, rj) pretty soon I wont be available lol.

    Can't say we won't miss you.icon_sad.gif

    But I'm glad you're doing well. Sometimes, fresh air is a must!
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    Jan 16, 2015 7:41 PM GMT
    ryyyder saidYea like who ? Can anyone even name any good intelligent members who left ?


    The site has been around for several years.

    You have been a part of it for less than a year.

    It is a subjective question with no right or wrong answer, but yeah, many insightful and funny Guys who added tremendously to the site have opted out.
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    Jan 16, 2015 7:55 PM GMT
    There is only one person on this site who has made a big enough impression on me for me to keep coming back sporadically to see if he posts, sadly, I don't think he ever will.
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    Jan 16, 2015 8:16 PM GMT
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    ryyyder saidYea like who ? Can anyone even name any good intelligent members who left ?


    The site has been around for several years.

    You have been a part of it for less than a year.

    It is a subjective question with no right or wrong answer, but yeah, many insightful and funny Guys who added tremendously to the site have opted out.



    I have been on and off for 3 years
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    Jan 16, 2015 8:18 PM GMT
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    Cash said
    ryyyder saidYea like who ? Can anyone even name any good intelligent members who left ?


    The site has been around for several years.

    You have been a part of it for less than a year.

    It is a subjective question with no right or wrong answer, but yeah, many insightful and funny Guys who added tremendously to the site have opted out.



    I have been on and off for 3 years


    Duly noted.
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    Jan 16, 2015 8:38 PM GMT
    I don't have these problems.

    But then, I'm b-o-r-i-n-g.
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    Jan 16, 2015 8:54 PM GMT
    Classic...
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    Jan 16, 2015 10:02 PM GMT
    I'm here!