Please help me to improve how i look! (pics included)

  • infinitefrien...

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    Jan 16, 2015 6:54 PM GMT
    I've never had a bf/gf...

    It's very hard to post this, but please help me...

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    Jan 16, 2015 7:12 PM GMT
    You look fine man just be yourself.
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    Jan 16, 2015 7:23 PM GMT

    Finally, a face behind all those posts and questions! If you really were a kitten with a flower I would say it's hopeless, lol.

    You look fine. Go on out into the world and knock their socks off. Just be the kind of guy you'd like to go out with. That's it.
  • Midas426

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    Jan 16, 2015 7:40 PM GMT
    I used to beat myself up a lot because I seemed to have the worst luck when it comes to dating. A lot of guys I was interested in didn't feel the same about me. Usually distance was the excuse given though I believe there were other underlying reasons they weren't saying. But I had to remind myself that I am a catch and someday someone I like will recognize that about me.

    You look fine. Dating is definitely a battlefield but it's so worth it when you finally meet HIM. I was where you're at now. I just had to keep putting myself out there and taking the rejection hits in stride. It took me a long while but I've finally found my right guy who also thinks I'm right for him. You just never know when it'll happen. Just eat as healthy as possible and try to keep a positive outlook in general through all the B.S. that you'll encounter. Easier said than done of course but hopefully your guy is just around the corner.

    Good luck.
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    Jan 16, 2015 7:56 PM GMT
    Lose the kitties and the insipid questions.

    If the pics are actually yours - you have nothing to worry about.
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    Jan 16, 2015 8:05 PM GMT
    Cash saidLose the kitties and the insipid questions.

    If the pics are actually yours - you have nothing to worry about.


    ^^ This!!
  • infinitefrien...

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    Jan 17, 2015 3:11 PM GMT
    Anymore?
  • Inque

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    Jan 17, 2015 3:13 PM GMT
    Lose the facial hair, trim the hair on the sides.

    You have really cute facial features.
  • infinitefrien...

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    Jan 17, 2015 3:13 PM GMT
    Do you guys think a cantho-belpharoplasty would help?
    Is my nose too big?
  • Noeton

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    Jan 17, 2015 3:32 PM GMT
    Finally, the man behind the cat emerges! Basic good grooming and fitness are all you need to look your best -- just like anybody. Don't worry about your nose -- it's a strong nose which is always good on a man.
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    Jan 17, 2015 8:27 PM GMT
    You look fine. If you never had a BF or GF it's not because of your looks- I think you're pretty cute IMO. There's of course small things you can do like grooming and such but you got to work with what you've got physically.

    This is a rant for another thread about the mindset of what is considered "good looking" but people need to stop comparing themselves to standards of how the "perfect" person should look (determined by models and Adonis' who comprise about 1-2% of the population) Also, not everyone is attracted to the same type of guy. Not every guy is turned on by A&F model types ether, took me a while to figure this out.

    Also, self image problems can really destroy your confidence and being confident is a component of being attractive. You can pysch yourself out to the point where you think you're the ugliest person who ever lived. Even supermodels can succumb to this kind false/ warped thinking. Looks only get your foot in the door- with some people not even ;)

    I struggled for years with my self image and still do. People can think you're hot all they want but if you perceive yourself to be ugly or unattractive you'll write them off as being "nice" and sabotage your self confidence. Take care of underlying problems since looks change or fade as we age- tying your self worth to how attractive you are isn't the wisest thing. Who are you at your core?

    There are "hot" guys with six pack abs but they can have an unattractive personality, character or both. There are so called "unattractive" guys but they can have an attractive personality. Hope that helps.
  • Inque

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    Jan 17, 2015 8:29 PM GMT
    infinitefriend9 saidDo you guys think a cantho-belpharoplasty would help?
    Is my nose too big?


    I think a big nose is sexy. Personally it strikes me as being unique and not cookie cutter cute which is nice. Big noses are sexy to me. And you've got that sexy Middle Eastern/Indian/South Asian look too!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 17, 2015 8:50 PM GMT
    wipe your face with rubbing alcohol in the morning and the evening before you go to bed. Lay off the chocolate, cookies, butter, fries or other highly oily foods, they cause zits. Other than that, the pics show a pretty cute guy. And your nose only looks big because you are holding the camera to close to your face and looking straight on. Stop smiling with a side ways smirk because otherwise the muscles on that side of the face will get stronger and the muscles on the other side of your face will get weaker and you will end up with a slanted smile as you age.
  • Import

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    Jan 17, 2015 9:17 PM GMT
    1. laser treat your acne craters.
    2. Consider rhinoplasty for that honker of yours
    3. Get your eye brows fixed
    4. Do something with that hair.
    5. Shave the patchy facial hair
    6. Even out your skin tone as your neck is a different color than your face
    7. Get your ears docked cuz they stick out too far
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    Jan 17, 2015 11:50 PM GMT
    midas 426 has it right.theirs nothing wrong with u. ur decent looking,which means u have a fair chance in the dating scene.Just up your ante on your confidence,because For some reason I feel unconsciously people can sense when ur not happy with yourself/feel your lacking in some sort of way and will avoid you for it.even if your not beautiful confidence can in someways can literally make u beautiful.Now i'm not saying be a cocky jerk,i'm just saying don't give off desperate vibes because people will unconsciously pick up on it/want to avoid you and don't be afraid to be yourself/talk to people.people can smell fear/inadequacy and will treat u a certain way because of it,its pretty much how bullies pick their victims.Humans no matter how technologically advanced we become always have and always will be just another form of animal.real talk lol icon_smile.gif
  • Kovyn

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    Jan 17, 2015 11:57 PM GMT
    Import said1. laser treat your acne craters.
    2. Consider rhinoplasty for that honker of yours
    3. Get your eye brows fixed
    4. Do something with that hair.
    5. Shave the patchy facial hair
    6. Even out your skin tone as your neck is a different color than your face
    7. Get your ears docked cuz they stick out too far


    +10

    This was the most honest post out of everyone's.

    To add,

    8. Start working out (abs are a must).
    9. Lose the sideburns.
    10. Consider an eyebrow piercing.
    11. Name-brand clothing and Air Jordans.
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    Jan 18, 2015 12:23 AM GMT
    @kovyn
    honest or not u do realize things like rhinoplasty and laser treatments cost thousands of dollars.Nobody on this site is balling like that lol. plus what u said is merely your own opinion.not too be rude but if ur gonna give him advice to help improve himself,at least let it be something he can actually follow through on/do.Telling he needs tons of money to get things like surgery(which isn't even a guaranteed miracle since it has numerous risks financial,physical,and even of course mental/emotional wise)is just plain bad advice.
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    Jan 18, 2015 4:48 AM GMT
    Really???

    Let me give you some sensible advice!!!

    Attraction comes in different ways to different people. YOUU figure out for yourself, what can you or should you do differently. I actually find some of the previous advice given a bit insulting.
  • Noeton

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    Jan 20, 2015 3:55 AM GMT
    MikkyB saidReally???

    Let me give you some sensible advice!!!

    Attraction comes in different ways to different people. YOUU figure out for yourself, what can you or should you do differently. I actually find some of the previous advice given a bit insulting.


    I agree completely... Just stick to the basics. You are actually a cute guy! You have a good face shape. And, sure, your nose seems a bit unusual, but that's nothing to worry about! Some of the most beautiful people have a distinctive "flaw" which just accentuates their beauty. Eat for lean muscle gain and keep up your fitness... then you'll look better and better all the time.
  • whytehot

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    Jan 20, 2015 5:22 AM GMT
    Import said1. laser treat your acne craters.
    2. Consider rhinoplasty for that honker of yours
    3. Get your eye brows fixed
    4. Do something with that hair.
    5. Shave the patchy facial hair
    6. Even out your skin tone as your neck is a different color than your face
    7. Get your ears docked cuz they stick out too far


    OP just needs to get some more sleep. Still looks better than you. Just saying.
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    Jan 20, 2015 5:47 AM GMT
    Kovyn said
    Import said1. laser treat your acne craters.
    2. Consider rhinoplasty for that honker of yours
    3. Get your eye brows fixed
    4. Do something with that hair.
    5. Shave the patchy facial hair
    6. Even out your skin tone as your neck is a different color than your face
    7. Get your ears docked cuz they stick out too far


    +10

    This was the most honest post out of everyone's.

    To add,

    8. Start working out (abs are a must).
    9. Lose the sideburns.
    10. Consider an eyebrow piercing.
    11. Name-brand clothing and Air Jordans.


    I'm pretty sure Import was being sarcastic. Number 11 is stupid. I think some of the most attractive people can outshine even those who can sport name-brand clothing.

    OP I think you should just exercise, eat healthy, wear clothes that flatters your body shape and size, and have an approachable personality and I think you're golden.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jan 20, 2015 5:57 AM GMT
    A good question here is: does this look work for you?

    If you go out, and start checking out the guys whom you find attractive, what's the response you are getting?

    If you are getting whom you want, you are fine.

    If not, consider changing it.

    SC
  • mystery905

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    Jan 31, 2015 2:47 AM GMT
    Inque saidLose the facial hair, trim the hair on the sides.



    +1 facial hair is not working for you IMO. Trimming the hair on the sides should draw attention to your eyes.
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    Feb 02, 2015 1:10 AM GMT
    Kovyn said
    Import said1. laser treat your acne craters.
    2. Consider rhinoplasty for that honker of yours
    3. Get your eye brows fixed
    4. Do something with that hair.
    5. Shave the patchy facial hair
    6. Even out your skin tone as your neck is a different color than your face
    7. Get your ears docked cuz they stick out too far


    +10

    This was the most honest post out of everyone's.

    To add,

    8. Start working out (abs are a must).
    9. Lose the sideburns.
    10. Consider an eyebrow piercing.
    11. Name-brand clothing and Air Jordans.


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  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Feb 02, 2015 1:26 AM GMT
    If physical appearance is what kept you from sharing what you look like? you have no problems! judging from the photos, if that is really you? you have beautiful brown eyes and definitely soft on the eye! you are beautiful! sweety you do not need to change anything about the way you look! I am sure as you get older you will look even more attractive, you are still have years at getting better looking, that I can assure you! just be yourself,it will let your inner beauty show, of which it will NEVER get old or unattractive unless you allow others to make you feel so!