How soon should someone with HIV reveal their status?

  • Inque

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    Jan 17, 2015 12:29 AM GMT
    How early into a relationship should someone reveal their status?
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    Jan 17, 2015 12:34 AM GMT
    Inque saidHow early into a relationship should someone reveal their status?


    Before they even meet
  • Inque

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    Jan 17, 2015 1:17 AM GMT
    timmm55 said
    Inque saidHow early into a relationship should someone reveal their status?


    Before they even meet


    Some poz people I've met wait until they have gone on a date put two so they can discern'show the other guy will take it.
  • Inque

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    Jan 17, 2015 1:25 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidOn the first date or beforehand if they meet in person.

    If they meet on a site or app like Scruff then it should be disclosed before they meet in person.



    Would you b l blame a poz guy who waited until a few dates in? Out of fear of being rejected?

    I wouldn't. Personally HIV doesn't bother me so much. It's not a death sentence anymore.,I wouldn't D be mad as long as he said something before we slept together
  • Inque

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    Jan 17, 2015 1:50 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Inque said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidOn the first date or beforehand if they meet in person.

    If they meet on a site or app like Scruff then it should be disclosed before they meet in person.



    Would you b l blame a poz guy who waited until a few dates in? Out of fear of being rejected?

    I wouldn't. Personally HIV doesn't bother me so much. It's not a death sentence anymore.,I wouldn't D be mad as long as he said something before we slept together


    That's very open minded of you but from personal experience I find that getting it out of the open ASAP works best.



    I personally can understand why a guy would wait. In my opinion it's not really my business unless we have sex. Until then I think a dude should treat it like any other illness
  • Apparition

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    Jan 18, 2015 1:45 AM GMT
    Before meeting, if you are going to get rejected i think you are going to get rejected no reason to spend any effort to snare someone that has a black and white decision
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    Jan 18, 2015 4:41 AM GMT
    timmm55 said
    Inque saidHow early into a relationship should someone reveal their status?

    Before they even meet

    That's what my late partner did, on the phone. We had been online friends for many months. I know it took a lot of courage on his part.

    And I must admit I had to think about that for a little while. First time I ever faced that situation. And do what we called a "risk assessment" in the military.

    I decided to fly 1500 miles to meet him. Had (safe) sex with him our first night together. I fell in love with him, and we became partners. We lived together. His honesty about his HIV was a big part of my decision.
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    Jan 19, 2015 3:19 AM GMT
    If your interacting in a forum where sex is the goal, as early as possible. If you aren't necessarily about to have sex with someone, I guess it's at your own discretion.

    Basically, it'd have to happen a reasonable time before a chance that it could be transmitted occurs. It'd be kind of silly to take a guy home and just before things moved below the belt, you found out the person was positive.
  • Hypertrophile

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    Jan 19, 2015 4:28 PM GMT
    I agree that it should be revealed as soon as possible, certainly before becoming physically intimate.

    That said, no matter what I'm told, I assume he's positive and behave accordingly, at least until I know otherwise.