Online Dating- Getting a Lot of Visitors but no Messages?

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    Jan 17, 2015 2:11 AM GMT
    I'm sure a couple of other guys are experiencing this with dating sites and apps.

    You get a lot of visitors viewing your profile but you don't get anyone really sending a message... Even worse you'll send a message to someone who "liked" you and they don't reply back. Happening across the board from Tinder to OKCupid, wasn't like this when I was a new member on these sites a few years ago...

    I like to think that it's the changing nature of online dating changing somehow combined super high standards (unrealistic expectations for attractiveness) but worried it's my profile or pics.

    Kind of ready to go to delete my accounts and only meet people offline.
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    Jan 17, 2015 2:54 AM GMT
    I love meeting people offline. RJ is the only site I'm on, and only because I've already met lots of guys from here (in person - not for sex).

    It's always been my opinion that if a person lives in a big city, there's no need for using online dating sites/apps. I could understand if a person lives in a small homophobic town.
  • NeuralShock

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    Jan 17, 2015 3:32 AM GMT
    I get the ton of views/few messages thing too.

    A bit discouraging...

    But whenever I send a message me and the person typically talk for a bit then it dies off.
  • Sunny_x9

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    Jan 18, 2015 4:27 PM GMT
    facing same problem ,
    well some profiles also say , do mail me
    I won't bite " eat " munch " etc shit * some say I reply
    to all mesgs . but then I don't find replies
    lot many things like these but they don't respond
    some say its the preference " they reply only to them
    well may be or anyway .....!
    I sometimes get pissed off with this shit
    and I don't tend to give a shit to these things
    anyway just keep going
    take care
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    Jan 18, 2015 5:16 PM GMT
    Well, this doesn't happen to me so much. But using apps.. is just getting tiring. I have met some guys off apps, only to meet, never for sex, and eh. I'd rather just meet in person. I think I'm gonna delete mine soon too. It's not as fun as it used to be anyways.
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    Jan 18, 2015 5:23 PM GMT
    Same here, i created a similar thread a while back. I just figure guys get too intimidated at my dating profile. Esp if they view me over and over.
  • Nhlakz

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    Jan 18, 2015 6:46 PM GMT
    The bad thing about online dating is that ppl r sometimes very upfront about themselves(i:e only looking 4 sex)...and with some is that we live far(in another country)...oviously theres not much we can talk about if we both from a different world
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    Jan 18, 2015 9:20 PM GMT
    Some of those sites wont allow you respond unless you pay a subscription. So the person sending the message may be able to talk but the replay back, that person may not be paying and unable to respond.
  • e2ksj3355

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    Jan 19, 2015 7:00 AM GMT
    I get a lot of messages, but usually most are creeps. icon_sad.gif
  • buddycat

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    Jan 19, 2015 10:42 AM GMT
    Lol, I just checked OKCupid after I saw this thread and what you know, a message. I should probably change my profile mentioning my education but have nothing to write. Just because someone has a PHD in something, doesn't mean I will be interested. I just didn't know what to write. I don't take online dating seriously at all.
  • Piner

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    Jan 20, 2015 5:19 AM GMT
    Yeah, you get a lot of views and very little clicks icon_mad.gif You’ve shared some pretty personal thoughts via email, gotten into some long, laugh-out-loud conversations on the phone, and miraculously found this person just as charming during your first face-to-face date but don’t assume it’s serious too soon. This could probably be the best date ever. But dating sites are now mostly spam and scam. However, I happened to find this new one by chance recently. has Personals category and it is 100% free. The only one things is that you don't post nude/naked as they deleted these photos. But I posted my ad and got very good responses icon_idea.gif.