I pushed him away.

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    Jan 17, 2015 4:39 PM GMT
    So I have been trying to get my ex to forgive me for breaking up with him (see other posts by me) but he always gave me the silent treatment. Feeling emotionally abused I then went on a 12 hour texting tirade, he responded once telling me to stop. I told him to block me but he never did he subjected himself to my words. I never said anything horrible to him, the worst was calling him a severe narcissist which he then labelled himself on his twitter! Anyway, his cousin said that I am confusing emotional abuse for love. I finally stopped, looked over everything I said, realized I was being a complete asshat/sociopath, apologized and restarted no contact again. I'm wondering, do you guys think he'll EVER forgive me for all of this? I'm just so shocked that after spending 6 months together and being inseparable that he can pull himself away so easily, so casually, as if I was nothing to him, while I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest everyday.
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    Jan 17, 2015 5:03 PM GMT
    themightyyule said
    ...I then went on a 12 hour texting tirade...

    ...looked over everything I said, realized I was being a complete asshat/sociopath...

    ...I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest everyday.

    There's an old expression: "Wearing your heart on your sleeve". Many gay men fit that description.

    I perceive your emotions as a bit volatile, if not fully mature. I'm reminded of the old Saturday Night Live "Not Yet Ready For Prime Time Players".

    You may not be ready for Prime Time yet, either. A few more years may correct that naturally. And a self-appraisal that you're going over the top with your emotions, and a determination to scale back, to contain yousrself. Then I think all these other problems will magically disappear.
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    Jan 17, 2015 5:33 PM GMT
    themightyyule saidSo I have been trying to get my ex to forgive me for breaking up with him (see other posts by me) but he always gave me the silent treatment. Feeling emotionally abused I then went on a 12 hour texting tirade, he responded once telling me to stop. I told him to block me but he never did he subjected himself to my words. I never said anything horrible to him, the worst was calling him a severe narcissist which he then labelled himself on his twitter! Anyway, his cousin said that I am confusing emotional abuse for love. I finally stopped, looked over everything I said, realized I was being a complete asshat/sociopath, apologized and restarted no contact again. I'm wondering, do you guys think he'll EVER forgive me for all of this? I'm just so shocked that after spending 6 months together and being inseparable that he can pull himself away so easily, so casually, as if I was nothing to him, while I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest everyday.


    To be honest, no he will never forgive you, looks like he is trying to move on. He sounds just like me, and do what I probably would do and just ignore you. He probably feels that by ignoring you, you'll eventually get the hint and move on as well. He probably didn't block you, because he's too nice of a guy to do such a piety thing, but i'm guessing that his only downfall was that he was too nice of a guy that you eventually took him for granted, and left him.

    You already answered your question right there, and by just looking over this it's another standard case of you fucking up, didn't know what you had until you lost it, and now is groveling back. Good news is, least you're not completely inept, in that you realized you lost something well worth your 6 months. Sadly due to the fact that your ex boyfriend has morals, and something called dignity, your chances of rekindling anything is a very slim, like, slim-to-none.

    I know my words may sound a bit abrasive, but, I feel it's best to let a person know without all the smoke and mirrors.

    Good luck
  • Import

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    Jan 17, 2015 9:28 PM GMT
    6 months aint shit bro. He doesn't owe u anything. Stop being psycho. you broke it off...you made your bed now lie in it.
  • NeuralShock

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    Jan 17, 2015 9:43 PM GMT
    Honestly if I was him and you managed to hurt me enough I likely would have gone to then police if for nothing else than to legally smack you across he face for the emotional turmoil.
  • mybud

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    Jan 17, 2015 9:51 PM GMT
    You broke up with him, and he was intelligent enough to take you up on it...If I would have been him, I would have broke up with yo crazy ass after the first date.
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    Jan 17, 2015 11:11 PM GMT
    Didn't they just show this on Glee??? [Yeah, I sorta watched but it was NOT voluntary.] icon_biggrin.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 18, 2015 1:04 AM GMT
    It depends why you broke up with him. If you broke up because you had cold feet or just needed space then you might have to say good-bye for good, on the other hand he just might want to to suffer a little. And if you do everything you can and humble yourself with all your sincerity but he still doesn't want you back, then he's not worth it, there are plenty of others around and you should stop wasting your time.
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    Jan 18, 2015 4:22 PM GMT
    You broke up with him. You didn't say, "let's work on this together" or "I know this is hard but I'm willing to keep working on it." You ended it and left him. Sure its completely understandable that you are only 19 and didn't feel ready to be in a relationship with a guy. But you can't just expect him to insert you back into his life now that you're ready again.

    If you realize you were wrong, you humbly offer your apology, tell him that your door is open to him if he ever wants to reconnect. And then you move on... like he had to do. Stop texting the guy. Stop following him on Grindr. If you want to have any hope that he'll come back, give him some space instead of freaking him out and having him think you're loco.
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    Jan 18, 2015 10:37 PM GMT
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    Not even being sarcastic. Read this book. It's a book I go to when I'm down in the dumps about my dating life.
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    Jan 18, 2015 10:52 PM GMT
    Import said6 months aint shit bro. He doesn't owe u anything. Stop being psycho. you broke it off...you made your bed now lie in it.


    This^^^
    U made it, now lie in it ..alone!!! LOL.
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    Jan 19, 2015 9:36 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]themightyyule said[/cite]So I have been trying to get my ex to forgive me for breaking up with him

    I'm just so shocked that after spending 6 months together and being inseparable that he can pull himself away so easily, so casually, as if I was nothing to him, while I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest everyday./quote]

    OP, You are shocked that he can pull away from you easily, when you broke up with him?

    Can you really think this? If so, you are in denial . You broke up with him. He does not want to get back together. It's over. Move on.

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    Jan 23, 2015 10:43 PM GMT
    The best you can hope for, in a year, two or five, is to meet him on the street or some other casual setting....and the spark is still there.

    You have some growing up to do (I'm not saying you are immature, it's a life experience) and he has some healing to do.
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Feb 01, 2015 5:58 PM GMT
    You are young,he must be young too, putting that on twitter??? just because you called him . Its clear that he knew that you will be checking him online. I hope you are doing wellicon_wink.gif
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    Feb 01, 2015 10:13 PM GMT
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