Advice for the "newbies" / younger guys

  • maxi_96

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    Jan 17, 2015 8:40 PM GMT
    I have several questions, since I'm relatively new to having sex w men blah blah

    1. To douche, you just shove lube up your ass and wait as if it's a laxative?

    2. So I felt a "connection " after sex, such a good experience, I'm afraid I have feelings for this dude. After a 6 hour session, how do I know if he would be interested ? (We cuddled and fucked and how can anyone not have feelings?) btw it was a hook up but it felt like a sex date in a way

    3. Anymore advice you would give to a youngster would be cool ) (I would appreciate any tips or advice, really, like what do (society or in general) older guys think of younger teens (gay) when it comes to relations ? -naïve boy looking for how things work
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    Jan 17, 2015 9:22 PM GMT
    maxi_96 saidI have several questions, since I'm relatively new to having sex w men blah blah

    1. To douche, you just shove lube up your ass and wait as if it's a laxative?

    2. So I felt a "connection " after sex, such a good experience, I'm afraid I have feelings for this dude. After a 6 hour session, how do I know if he would be interested ? (We cuddled and fucked and how can anyone not have feelings?) btw it was a hook up but it felt like a sex date in a way

    3. Anymore advice you would give to a youngster would be cool )

    For douching use a women's vaginal douche bulb, something with smooth and not sharp edges. Squirt water up there and shit it out, flush the toilet. Repeat until it's clear.
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    Jan 18, 2015 1:30 AM GMT
    maxi_96 said... I felt a "connection " after sex, such a good experience, I'm afraid I have feelings for this dude. After a 6 hour session, how do I know if he would be interested ?...
    contact him, ask if he wants to hook up again. See what happens.

    Just to give you a possible reference
    your big gay relationships should be as significant as the one your parents had or have.
  • 24hourguy

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    Jan 18, 2015 2:03 PM GMT
    remember that drama is optional -never necessary
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    Jan 18, 2015 6:08 PM GMT



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    Jan 18, 2015 9:10 PM GMT
    No, pushing lube into your anal cavity and excreting it is NOT a good cleaning method.

    Use an Aneros prostate stimulator as a dip stick on how clean you are in your anal cavity.

    Here, look at this (a better way to clean than what you said):

    Manual-Anal-font-b-Enema-b-font-Feminine

    You're born in the year of the Fire Rat, maybe.
    Order the book Chinese Sexual Astrology and read it.

    "After a 6 hour session, how do I know if he would be interested? (We cuddled and fucked and how can anyone not have feelings?) btw it was a hook up but it felt like a sex date in a way."

    You know if he would be interested before you have sex for six hours. Assess intent by what is said and by what is not said.

    You also know based on mutual needs. You two needed each other for six hours for sex. Do you need each other for six hours for Platonic activities?

    If your mindset is just sow oats / scorch country, use protection always.
  • Buddha

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:20 PM GMT
    You're born in the year of the Fire Rat, maybe.
    Order the book Chinese Sexual Astrology and read it.


    Here's my tip: don't do that ^.
  • axetor

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:53 PM GMT
    maxi_96 saidI have several questions, since I'm relatively new to having sex w men blah blah

    1. To douche, you just shove lube up your ass and wait as if it's a laxative?

    2. So I felt a "connection " after sex, such a good experience, I'm afraid I have feelings for this dude. After a 6 hour session, how do I know if he would be interested ? (We cuddled and fucked and how can anyone not have feelings?) btw it was a hook up but it felt like a sex date in a way

    3. Anymore advice you would give to a youngster would be cool )


    Buy a bath dush and silicone lubricant. Mix one teaspoon of lube and water in dush. Take it in You and wait for 15 mins. Go to toilet and repeat. Now You´re ready for next 6 to 8 hours. Perhaps You´ll need more water. Right after emptying the bottle with water-silicone mix add about one half of the bottle more and than wait for 15 mins. Good luck ;-)
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    Jan 18, 2015 10:50 PM GMT
    Here's a good one to just keep in the shower for periodic quick washes that requires no plumbing hook-up. A little soap on the tip and on your anus is all the 'lube' you need.

    http://www.forttroff.com/douche_list
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    Jan 19, 2015 5:36 AM GMT
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    Jan 19, 2015 9:25 AM GMT
    maxi_96 said

    2. So I felt a "connection " after sex, such a good experience, I'm afraid I have feelings for this dude. After a 6 hour session, how do I know if he would be interested ? (We cuddled and fucked and how can anyone not have feelings?) btw it was a hook up but it felt like a sex date in a way

    3. Anymore advice you would give to a youngster would be cool )

    You know if he is interested in you if he wants to see you again. Hookup/date/whatever - these are just words. You had sex. For most of us, it's welcome and nice to have cuddling after sex. But just because you had 6 hours of sex and cuddling does not necessarily mean that a new relationship is in the offing. It might and it might not. That can even happen during an encounter in a place one is visiting, and won't return to again.
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Jan 24, 2015 5:12 AM GMT
    After my first hookup at age 19, I had stupid delusions that the guy could be bf material (because he was in med school, and was "nice" lol). Sex connects you emotionally with someone whether you want to or not... until you have sex with a few more guys, then you get numb to it. Guess that's why some say that the ideal situation is to save your first time, and its specialness, for your future long term relationship.
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Jan 24, 2015 5:14 AM GMT
    And date older lol. In before Radd icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 24, 2015 9:03 PM GMT
    Don't have any expectations of an emotional relationship if you preemptively start a sexual one.

    I don't get the need for douching ... shit is not constantly present in your rectum and anus ... only when you are going to the bathroom. There's nothing up there in between. If you need to take a crap then do so and make sure you wipe yourself clean. That's all you need to do. If you don't need to take a crap just get the lube in using whatever method works (finger, cock, etc.). Women douche because their vaginas don't routinely empty themselves and they can get mild conditions such as yeast infections that itch and produce odor. Your asshole is not the equivalent of a vagina and douching it is not necessary.
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    Jan 24, 2015 10:33 PM GMT
    sf_swimmer said...don't get the need for douching ...
    agree;
    but in general, through out the day, after a bathroom event use portable baby wipes to more completely clean up.
  • N97_

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    Jan 24, 2015 11:08 PM GMT
    I had the exact same experience you just described not long ago I'm 18 too. I felt the same way afterwards but honestly I came to realise I was being a silly and naive in assuming I may have just met the guy who I was going to be with for the rest of my life lol