Was this the Shittiest Date EVER?

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    Jan 18, 2015 6:43 PM GMT
    2 weeks ago I was having a drink with my cousin who works for a large bank in the financial district. He was telling me about this very attractive guy from his office that he believed would be perfect.

    I was skeptical because I've met my cousin's friends and the girls that he dates and have come to conclude that his definition of 'perfect' does not really resemble my mine at all.

    But I agreed anyway.

    I let this guy plan all of the details of the date. He picked a restaurant near the highline and told me what time to be there. When we got there I was kind of annoyed because it was pretty expensive. The prices didn't make me feel uncomfortable, but I felt like for a first date it was a little rude to pick a place like that because it was predicated on the assumption that the other party could afford it. It was a ding in his character for me.

    He went on and on about how well he knew the place and insisted that he order for both of us. It seems like he just scoured the menu for the most expensive things and ordered them. He also ordered 4 strong cocktails in the span of 2 hours.

    For conversation, he chose to lecture me on how much he hates the new mayor of New York (whom I love.)

    Bye the time the check came i was so ready to leave. He slammed his card on the table to pay for the $383 meal (before tip) and got declined.

    So paid and left.

    He then sends me a text about how he's sorry and wishes he could have paid because he was "really in the mood for BBC"

    He asked if we could meet again and promises he'll get the second meal because I got the first.




    Fuck it. I'm going to straight camp.


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    Jan 18, 2015 6:57 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said

    He then sends me a text about how he's sorry and wishes he could have paid because he was "really in the mood for BBC"





    and you didnt push him into traffic ?
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    Jan 18, 2015 6:57 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear that man.
    Did your cousin introduce you to his colleague as a date or as a gigolo?
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    Jan 18, 2015 10:43 PM GMT
    The REALLY amazing thing is I not only immediately guessed an acronym which I'd never heard before but didn't confuse it with bcc.
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    Jan 19, 2015 12:21 AM GMT
    Blind dates are a real gamble. icon_lol.gif
  • NeuralShock

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    Jan 19, 2015 12:59 AM GMT
    $400
    Wow.

    Wow.

    Wow.


    WOW.

    I'd be pissed. Unless I loved the person I was with I couldn't justify that.
  • Tig3r

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:01 AM GMT
    Not the worse date ever, but pretty up there! I am sorry bro.
  • mybud

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:02 AM GMT
    I think you're right about following your instincts. You deserve better..seriously.
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    Jan 19, 2015 2:01 AM GMT
    NeuralShock said$400
    Wow.

    Wow.

    Wow.


    WOW.

    I'd be pissed. Unless I loved the person I was with I couldn't justify that.


    I forgot it was that expensive. I could eat for 5 weeks w/ $400 and the guy spent all that in one dinner. I would ask the guy to get some money back.
  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 2:19 AM GMT
    400 dollars for one meal?

    Oh he would have had to.give me the best sex in the world after that!
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    Jan 19, 2015 2:40 AM GMT
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    Jan 19, 2015 3:08 PM GMT
    Never ever ever make your first date a sit down restaurant meal. Always always make your first date a meet for a coffee or a walk through the park or a sit on the park bench type of meet.
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    Jan 19, 2015 9:11 PM GMT
    Blondizgd saidNever ever ever make your first date a sit down restaurant meal. Always always make your first date a meet for a coffee or a walk through the park or a sit on the park bench type of meet.


    It was 12 degrees. icon_lol.gif
  • Beeftastic

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    Jan 19, 2015 9:46 PM GMT
    Theirs a lot worse things that can happen on a first date, but a $400 dinner bill you weren't expecting? DAYUM that is harsh!

    That closing zinger, that just adds insult to injury!

    Question? Was this guy a "hottie" (maybe not hot to you, but the kind of guy that can get away with being a shithead on dates)? In part that could explain his rude and oblivious behavior.

    It amazes me that white guys think using the term BBC directly with a black guy is somehow hot and not denigrating.

    He should have offered to pay you back at least.
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    Jan 19, 2015 10:04 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said
    Blondizgd saidNever ever ever make your first date a sit down restaurant meal. Always always make your first date a meet for a coffee or a walk through the park or a sit on the park bench type of meet.


    It was 12 degrees. icon_lol.gif


    Yes, that can be a bit cold, especially windward of The Standard. But, thanks for a good story and better luck next time! Give The Bus Stop Cafe on Hudson & Bethune a try - good but cheap!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 20, 2015 1:23 AM GMT
    So you didn't invite him back to your place, bang is ass then kick him out ... You got to work on learning how to get your money's worth.
  • RaZorEdge

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    Jan 20, 2015 2:34 AM GMT
    Geez and I thought my dates were bad...
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    Jan 20, 2015 3:01 AM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said
    Blondizgd saidNever ever ever make your first date a sit down restaurant meal. Always always make your first date a meet for a coffee or a walk through the park or a sit on the park bench type of meet.


    It was 12 degrees. icon_lol.gif


    Starbucks
    Au Bon Pain

    Just to name 2
  • Jav1993

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    Jan 20, 2015 4:12 AM GMT
    I was ready to side with him until you said "BBC". After that...u should have whopped his azzzzz
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    Jan 20, 2015 4:19 AM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said
    He asked if we could meet again and promises he'll get the second meal because I got the first.





    Is there any chance his card was declined because the bank had just discovered some fraudulent activity on the card (not by him)? Was it an honest bank error, possibly? Just trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. (Am I being naive?) You could take him up on his offer to pay for your next dinner out. Go to that same place, or some place equally nice. Ask him to have the restaurant run his card (before you order) to make sure it is working normally again. Have dinner. See if there is any connection between you. Go back home and bang him (with protection) and you'll be equal.

    If however - his card is declined again - WALK out before you order. Cut your losses and never speak to him again.
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    Jan 20, 2015 4:56 AM GMT
    That sounds terrible.
    I don't get why some people think dropping hundreds of dollars on a first date is somehow a romantic gesture.

    When I first went out with my boyfriend, we walked around a mall for 3 hours under the pretence of shopping for Christmas gifts for our own family. We didn't buy a thing, but at the end we were pretty hungry and didn't want to end the date so I suggested a reasonably priced restaurant. $50 bucks later and he's been stuck with me for 5 years icon_smile.gif

    I'd say next time you get set up for a blind date you decide what to do icon_smile.gif

    Btw I think it's a douche move to order something for someone you just met...leave that sort of move for an anniversary dinner lol.
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    Jan 20, 2015 6:38 AM GMT
    Him insisting to order for both of you instead of letting you pick for yourself is a massive red flag for a control freak. I might be tempted to go on another date just so that I could "break even" with the previous tab, so to speak, but it's probably better to just ditch the guy. You don't owe him anything.
  • Marko89

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    Jan 21, 2015 4:52 AM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said2 weeks ago I was having a drink with my cousin who works for a large bank in the financial district. He was telling me about this very attractive guy from his office that he believed would be perfect.

    I was skeptical because I've met my cousin's friends and the girls that he dates and have come to conclude that his definition of 'perfect' does not really resemble my mine at all.

    But I agreed anyway.

    I let this guy plan all of the details of the date. He picked a restaurant near the highline and told me what time to be there. When we got there I was kind of annoyed because it was pretty expensive. The prices didn't make me feel uncomfortable, but I felt like for a first date it was a little rude to pick a place like that because it was predicated on the assumption that the other party could afford it. It was a ding in his character for me.

    He went on and on about how well he knew the place and insisted that he order for both of us. It seems like he just scoured the menu for the most expensive things and ordered them. He also ordered 4 strong cocktails in the span of 2 hours.

    For conversation, he chose to lecture me on how much he hates the new mayor of New York (whom I love.)

    Bye the time the check came i was so ready to leave. He slammed his card on the table to pay for the $383 meal (before tip) and got declined.

    So paid and left.

    He then sends me a text about how he's sorry and wishes he could have paid because he was "really in the mood for BBC"

    He asked if we could meet again and promises he'll get the second meal because I got the first.




    Fuck it. I'm going to straight camp.




    Fuck me did the meal come with a complimentary bJ?

    That is a pretty bad date man. That's why I hate blind dates. My friend is currently trying to set me up with her cousin. I like him but fuck that, no blind dates for me.
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    Jan 27, 2015 9:29 AM GMT
    He actually got declined.

    That's funny for him, trying to show off, but not for your bank account.

    It seems he thought you were a high-paid hooker.

    BBC.

    I hope you didn't reply. He seems insanely superficial and unaware of his actions. Sounds like a date from hell.

    I imagine you are really successful, but he wasn't worth what you paid for that meal.

    And greetings, I remember you from eons ago on here.icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jan 27, 2015 12:13 PM GMT
    I would have asked the wait staff for reconfigured separate checks and paid for my meal and left. I think this guy probably does this regularly. I've had credit cards for 30 years and not once has any charge been declined.