Is it OK to want to humiliate people that humiliated us?


  • Jan 18, 2015 9:30 PM GMT
    I don`t know here if anyone will get the reference, but there`s a mexican soap opera called Marimar, where the girl is poor and humiliated by rich people. Than, later in the series, she gets really rich and powerful put on full engine her revenge plans on everyone that humiliated her.

    Sometimes I feel like this, I`ve felt humiliated for long in my life, for many reasons. And right now the only thing I can think of is to get rich, beatiful and powerful enough to at least make those people re evaluate what did said and did to me.

    Not like wanting to kill or taking any initiative to hurt them, but just to show what i`ve become and how miserable they still are.

    In my case for example, I want to get a pretty hot body and than take the exams to enter the Federal Police, a very well paid and respected job here in Brazil, mainly because the exams measure both physics and intellectuals excellence.

    And than, I think of taking the exams for becoming policie chief of Federal Cops, or maybe the exams to be a judge.

    So in 10 years I will be on the top, rich, handsome, with high ranked position and making sure that the people that made me so bad here about me.
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:32 PM GMT
    No. I didn't ready anything you wrote coz its an essay tbh. but you should compartmentalise everything and then let it out in a fit of rage somewhere
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:35 PM GMT
    You seem a bit unhinged hun
  • Apparition

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:39 PM GMT
    when you are on top, the little people wont matter anymore...you will have lots of other backstabbers with you on top to worry about.
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:40 PM GMT
    Omg Apparition stab me in the back. With your Penis. I have a hole for you x
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:44 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    ZakSayWhat saidYou seem a bit unhinged hun


    that's great. it's called being on your p's and q's though. i don't trust a single person on the planet whether friend or foe.


    what did your parents do to you?
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    Jan 18, 2015 9:44 PM GMT
    It's ok to momentarily "want" to I guess - but actually doing it is a HUGE waste of time and effort. The Universe has a way of balancing everything out and everyone ultimately gets exactly what they earn, need and deserve.

    A moment of revenge fantasy may be cathartic in its own way, but a lifetime of planning and acting on it is just plain stupid and self-destructive.
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:46 PM GMT
    Cash saidIt's ok to want to I guess - but actually doing it is a HUGE waste of time and effort. The Universe has a way of balancing everything out and everyone ultimately gets exactly what they earn, need and deserve.

    A moment of revenge fantasy may be cathartic in its own way, but a lifetime of planning and acting on it is just plain stupid and self-destructive.



    Your like the wisest person I've come across. Is it the glasses?
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    Jan 18, 2015 9:46 PM GMT
    You're just channeling our Inner Alexis, who'd been really hurt by Blake, who'd neglected her.
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    Jan 18, 2015 9:47 PM GMT
    ZakSayWhat said
    Cash saidIt's ok to want to I guess - but actually doing it is a HUGE waste of time and effort. The Universe has a way of balancing everything out and everyone ultimately gets exactly what they earn, need and deserve.

    A moment of revenge fantasy may be cathartic in its own way, but a lifetime of planning and acting on it is just plain stupid and self-destructive.



    Your like the wisest person I've come across. Is it the glasses?


    It's actually the hair gel...the fumes seem to really get the synapses firing!!!
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    Jan 18, 2015 9:49 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidYou're just channeling our Inner Alexis, who'd been really hurt by Blake, who'd neglected her.


    That STILL doesn't address My OUTER Alexis...
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    Jan 18, 2015 9:50 PM GMT
    Alexis Colby?


    I'm still learning about the gay fore bearers.
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    Jan 18, 2015 9:53 PM GMT
    ZakSayWhat saidAlexis Colby?


    I'm still learning about the gay fore bearers.


    Alexis Morrel Carrington Colby Dexter.

    A literary Masterpiece.
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:56 PM GMT
    Cash said
    ZakSayWhat saidAlexis Colby?


    I'm still learning about the gay fore bearers.


    Alexis Morrel Carrington Colby Dexter.

    A literary Masterpiece.



    My aim in life is to be like her, Zakirya Abdul Morrel Carrington Colby Dexter Lutz Christ Obama Gosling
  • tazzari

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:56 PM GMT
    Dwelling on revenge or hate means the other party won and took over.
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 18, 2015 9:59 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    ZakSayWhat said
    pazzy said
    ZakSayWhat saidYou seem a bit unhinged hun


    that's great. it's called being on your p's and q's though. i don't trust a single person on the planet whether friend or foe.


    what did your parents do to you?


    who said that my parents had to do something to me in order to feel that way? icon_confused.gif with that said, how can anybody in their right mind in the world today trust anybody else? sure, trusting is a natural part of life where you're going to say whatever but there's certain things that you can't trust people with because you know that shit will come back to fuck you over. the only person you can trust with your secrets is yourself.



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  • Jan 18, 2015 10:03 PM GMT
    Like I said, I don`t want to do anything but to get on top making sure those people know about that.

    I can even do it in a classy way, like sending a letter telling how grateful i`m for what they teached me that helped to get where i wanted, the people would get the message right away and that would be enough.
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    Jan 18, 2015 10:07 PM GMT
    Invetedlotus123 saidLike I said, I don`t want to do anything but to get on top making sure those people know about that.

    I can even do it in a classy way, like sending a letter telling how grateful i`m for what they teached me that helped to get where i wanted, the people would get the message right away and that would be enough.


    As the saying goes, "Living well is the best revenge." You won't need to send them any letters outlining what they may have TAUGHT you. They will find out in due time on their own.

    Let them write the letters to YOU.

    In the mean time, live the best Life You can and find out just how much You are capable of!!!
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jan 18, 2015 10:07 PM GMT
    Invetedlotus123 saidLike I said, I don`t want to do anything but to get on top making sure those people know about that.

    I can even do it in a classy way, like sending a letter telling how grateful i`m for what they teached me that helped to get where i wanted, the people would get the message right away and that would be enough.


    in your head your revenge probably looks like

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    in reality its probably

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    Jan 19, 2015 7:04 PM GMT
    Hurt people hurt people.
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    Jan 19, 2015 7:08 PM GMT
    better-futur-let-go-past-quote-favim-com
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    Jan 19, 2015 8:56 PM GMT
    A vicious circle of revenge may be great for a soap opera, but real life is too short. Turn the other cheek and get on with your life.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 19, 2015 9:03 PM GMT
    There is nothing wrong with using your anger to motivate yourself to make something of your life and your body. We all need motivation to conquer lofty goals. But when you find yourself rising, remember to not be one of those hateful people to others you encounter along the way. Those who hurt you will probably be long gone from your life by that time but you will be surrounded by others that will be looking up to you. Be kind and encouraging and show them what a good man looks like. Be a role model. But first, you'll have to do the work. Go to work!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 19, 2015 9:20 PM GMT
    I think there isn't anything wrong with showing those who targeted you originally that you aren't the same person as you used to be....

    But part of that is being "reasonable and mature", showing you've moved beyond that kind of stuff. You not only show you've changed, but that you are better than their bullshit.
    The best thing to do is to move on and be glad you've changed your own scene. Don't get in the mud, it shows you are no better than they are.
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    Jan 19, 2015 9:48 PM GMT
    Why not be the opposite of them? Show kindness to others. Help someone else become the person they want to be. Become wealthy, but be generous.

    The people who have hurt you before couldn't give a damn about you then, why should they even when you're more successful? and even so, how would that improve your life?

    Lift yourself up by lifting up others. Your strength and beauty is how good a heart you have; everything else is temporary.