Something I thought about this week: why don't minority groups date OTHER minority groups?

  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:20 AM GMT
    I had a conclusion that I've been experimenting with for a few months now. I love white men a lot but they rarely like me back. At least the normal ones I like. But I have had a lot of luck with Indians Asians Latinos and other ethnic groups that weren't whwhite or didn't see themselves as white. And those relationships typically only ended because I cheated or did something else stupid. So as far as attracting those kind of guys I haven't had mymuch of a problem. I like Asians and they seem to like me. Same with Indians latinos middle eastern etc. I'm not opposed to it and the idea of dating someone from a culture I'm not used to is iinteresting.


    So I think I'm gonna try it and give white men a rest for a while and see what else is out there.

    Who else feels this way?
  • Tig3r

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:27 AM GMT
    At the end of the day, if you're a cool guy, and I am attracted to you, I do not care what nationality they are.
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    Jan 19, 2015 1:36 AM GMT
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  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:38 AM GMT
    Tig3r saidAt the end of the day, if you're a cool guy, and I am attracted to you, I do not care what nationality they are.



    I think.about dating from a practical viewpoint. Who you end with speaks of your character and social class
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    Jan 19, 2015 1:38 AM GMT
    Start by dating blacks.
  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:40 AM GMT
    David3K saidStart by dating blacks.



    Not unless they are of non American descent. Then iit's exotic
  • mybud

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:44 AM GMT
    Inque said
    David3K saidStart by dating blacks.



    Not unless they are of non American descent. Then iit's exotic
    Too picky...No dickie...
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:44 AM GMT
    Definitely. Cast a wide net.
  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:46 AM GMT
    mybud said
    Inque said
    David3K saidStart by dating blacks.



    Not unless they are of non American descent. Then iit's exotic
    Too picky...No dickie...



    Most American black people are too ghetto or i urban for my tastes. I'm already street enough. I like relationships where I get to stand out as the special one.
  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:49 AM GMT
    Mulignan saidDefinitely. Cast a wide net.



    It's like you said it may be hard for me to.get a white American man to love me but blacks don't have that kind kof history with other racial groups.
  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:41 PM GMT
    Bump
  • ohioguy12

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    Jan 19, 2015 1:59 PM GMT
    I'm rejected by everyone, regardless of race lol
  • WhoDey

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    Jan 19, 2015 3:15 PM GMT
    I prefer minorities, but I know most white guys don't even give other ethnicities a chance, or they hold them to a much higher standard.
  • Svnw688

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    Jan 19, 2015 3:42 PM GMT
    This question is flawed and false.

    First, your claim is wrong. Minorities DO date other minorities.

    Second, a brush up with statistics might prove helpful. From a statistical standpoint, in the USA, MOST men are white. As such, if all things are equal, MOST minority men should be dating a majority/white man. This is simple because the objective number, or chances, or opportunities to "fall in love" with a white man are far larger. This is also why MOST left-handed people date right-handed people. Some left handed people date left handed people, but it is statistically more likely, all things being equal, for a left handed person to fall in love with a right handed person.

    Third, it sounds like you're one of those self-hating black guys. That's fine. I could really care less. I simply hope you (1) embrace it or (2) grow out of it and realize that beauty, insofar that it is skin deep, transcends ALL races. While you might have a particular preference or flavor, to say that you wouldn't date American blacks is just a sign of emotional immaturity. I bet if you give it some time, you'll come around. Lots of people (white included) take time before they sexualize certain races. We live in a society with a Euro-centric standard of beauty, so sexualizing whites is easy. Most people also naturally sexualize their own race (because they're exposed to it daily). You didn't. This sounds like that same kind of self-hating that deems "lighter is righter" wherein light-skinned black people are somehow better looking, more sexualized, and more idealized (by blacks and whites) than darker-skinned black persons. This stunted mindset teaches that Barack is "better looking" than his wife Michelle because she's darker. It's also what fueled Michael Jackson to bleach his skin, and to adopt WHITE kids and claim he sired them (IF he had a skin disease, it wouldn't pass to his kids and they'd be biracial).

    Fourth, saying most American black men are too ghetto is simply wrong. There are tons of ghetto white men. There are tons of ghetto black men. No one race has a lock on ghetto. While, proportionally, there might be more poor blacks than whites, numberically that is not the case, and there are plenty of college educated and professional blacks. I know, I work with them all the time. I was just before Judge Bunyan (a black man), opposing counsel was black. Several business clients at "the big 4" accounting firms are black professionals. I say you need to expand your social circles if this is really a problem for you. Where are you finding these "ghetto" black guys? "Black nights" at the local gay bar? Just be mindful of where you're selecting men.

    And for the record, you're saying the following isn't hot?

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    If you don't find that sexy, I say good, more for me icon_cool.gif
  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 6:05 PM GMT
    Not my thing.

    And actually I think a person of color would have a better chance of having a successful relationship with another minority group or person of color since the amount of white men who WOULD date a person of color are lower than the overall population of gay white men.
  • Svnw688

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    Jan 19, 2015 6:53 PM GMT
    @Inque

    Fair enough, to each his own. American blacks do nothing for you. But I just want to clarify the record.

    Assuming ALL THINGS WERE EQUAL (EXCEPT RACE AND OBJECTIVE GENETIC ATTRACTIVENESS SUCH AS FACIAL SYMMETRY AND BONE STRUCTURE), if both of these men had the same job, same income, treated you the same, had the same personality, and all soft factors were the same......

    IF FORCED to select between the two men below, race is such a non-debatable factor to you that you'd pick the objectively less attractive white guy over the objectively more attractive black guy?

    Exhibit A:

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    Exhibit B:

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  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 7:51 PM GMT
    Svnw688 said@Inque

    Fair enough, to each his own. American blacks do nothing for you. But I just want to clarify the record.

    Assuming ALL THINGS WERE EQUAL (EXCEPT RACE AND OBJECTIVE GENETIC ATTRACTIVENESS SUCH AS FACIAL SYMMETRY AND BONE STRUCTURE), if both of these men had the same job, same income, treated you the same, had the same personality, and all soft factors were the same......

    IF FORCED to select between the two men below, race is such a non-debatable factor to you that you'd pick the objectively less attractive white guy over the objectively more attractive black guy?

    Exhibit A:

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    Exhibit B:

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    Im just really not attracted to other black men like that at all. The white guy isn't bad looking
  • Svnw688

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    Jan 19, 2015 8:02 PM GMT
    @lnque

    Wow. At least you're consistent haha. Fair enough. More minorities for me icon_cool.gif

    ....(if and when my current b/f and I split, but that doesn't seem likely anytime soon. One can fantasize.).
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    Jan 19, 2015 8:10 PM GMT
    I don't know what you're talking about but I try to date minority guys or within my race all the time but all the guys that seem to want to talk to me are white guys. I guess it doesn't help that I'm from a place where white people are more rampant then other races.

    In the end I did end up dating a Latino guy, we're still currently dating icon_smile.gif
  • wesv

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    Jan 19, 2015 9:13 PM GMT
    I believe there are attractive men of all races. It's just that I prefer to date men of other races. I wouldn't date another Asian guy even if he's cute. I just like different.
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    Jan 19, 2015 9:13 PM GMT
    Inque said
    mybud said
    Inque said
    David3K saidStart by dating blacks.



    Not unless they are of non American descent. Then iit's exotic
    Too picky...No dickie...



    Most American black people are too ghetto or i urban for my tastes. I'm already street enough. I like relationships where I get to stand out as the special one.


    I try to understand you.

    But I often fail.
  • Inque

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    Jan 19, 2015 10:30 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said
    Inque said
    mybud said
    Inque said
    David3K saidStart by dating blacks.



    Not unless they are of non American descent. Then iit's exotic
    Too picky...No dickie...



    Most American black people are too ghetto or i urban for my tastes. I'm already street enough. I like relationships where I get to stand out as the special one.


    I try to understand you.


    But I often fail.


    being the only black person in a relationship makes me feel special is that it a treasure
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    Jan 20, 2015 2:28 AM GMT
    Inque wants white dick, but seems to be trying his hardest to making black people look pathetic, thereby ruining his own chances. I'd bet money he's just using some other gay's pics.


    Real people don't say stuff like this, no matter how insecure or mentally damaged:

    Inque said
    David3K said
    Inque saidI can see why a black man wouldn't be into his own.


    What reason other than self loathing? icon_rolleyes.gif


    Even if it is self-loathing why is that such a bad thing?
  • Unnamed6

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    Jan 20, 2015 9:00 AM GMT
    hentailover saidInque wants white dick, but seems to be trying his hardest to making black people look pathetic, thereby ruining his own chances. I'd bet money he's just using some other gay's pics.


    Real people don't say stuff like this, no matter how insecure or mentally damaged:

    Inque said
    David3K said
    Inque saidI can see why a black man wouldn't be into his own.


    What reason other than self loathing? icon_rolleyes.gif


    Even if it is self-loathing why is that such a bad thing?


    Just wanted to say that he's very much real and his real life personality is like it is on RJ. Let's just say that he doesn't have that many filters, so take it for what you will when that's the case. So long story short (as it's hard to keep track since there's so many threads already, right?), that he did actually hold sexual attraction for black guys for a period of time, like sometime around late 2013, and this was after professing that he was not into black guys before, and now he's simply back to not being into black guys.
  • Inque

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    Jan 20, 2015 4:24 PM GMT
    hentailover saidInque wants white dick, but seems to be trying his hardest to making black people look pathetic, thereby ruining his own chances. I'd bet money he's just using some other gay's pics.


    Real people don't say stuff like this, no matter how insecure or mentally damaged:

    Inque said
    David3K said
    Inque saidI can see why a black man wouldn't be into his own.


    What reason other than self loathing? icon_rolleyes.gif


    Even if it is self-loathing why is that such a bad thing?


    I'm real. Ask anyone. This is who I am and I'm not ashamed.