People Problems

  • RaZorEdge

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    Jan 20, 2015 2:25 AM GMT
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    So I've been having problems with my friends, several of my friends were going to meet me at a park that they were going to have a New Years Eve event called Discovery Green in Houston Texas. I texted all of them and not one texted me back or tried to get with me. It's just limited to that, it's just a number of things, any advice? I just have such a lack of respect with people and I just don't get it....icon_confused.gif
  • Iota

    Posts: 55

    Jan 20, 2015 7:42 PM GMT
    It sounds like your friends may be avoiding you, or that it may be time for some new friends who are more consistent with you....
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 20, 2015 10:17 PM GMT
    That's odd. Either you have really shitty friends, or something is going on. Some rumor about you that is pretty bad? You need to corner at least one of them and ask.
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    Jan 21, 2015 2:01 AM GMT
    move on and get new friends, better to meet new people in the new year.
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    Jan 21, 2015 2:20 AM GMT
    People are so flakey these days. I've had to cut several people out of my life for shit like this. It's disrespectful and you deserve better.
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    Jan 21, 2015 4:50 AM GMT
    Radd saidPeople are so flakey these days. I've had to cut several people out of my life for shit like this. It's disrespectful and you deserve better.


    if they're true friends, they will come back and make an effort in your life. icon_cool.gif
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jan 21, 2015 6:51 AM GMT
    You may want to look for a brand new friendzone.

    I doubt that anyone knows what has gone wrong with them, but I have seen stranger things happen, too.

    Deeds speak much louder than words. These dudes told you all you needed to know, so it is now the time to move on.

    With all the instant and incredibly cheap means of communication, many guys have started auctioning their time off. The play goes like this...

    So, you meet couple of the guys whom you know (probably not the tightest of your friends), and you all agree to hit that one cool bar Thursday night.

    One of them gets invited to a private party with sound promise of sex with desirable dudes out there, and he takes his best buddy along. The one guy whom they told that the deal was off, shrugs with his shoulders, forgets to text you, and makes other plans.

    Hanging out with dudes, and perceiving them as your friends is probably a bit far-fetched. Most of the hanging out with its implicit notions of some sort of mutual attraction is usually a consequence of boredom.

    Once out of HS/college your friendships need solid content-based foundations. Anyone can be prone to acting as a proverbial asshole unless he clearly sees the reason not to.

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    Jan 21, 2015 12:48 PM GMT
    ... I just have such a lack of respect with people..

    There's your problem.

    Ultimately, we all get what we deserve.
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    Jan 22, 2015 2:59 AM GMT
    Were they all guys? All in their mid 20's?
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    Jan 22, 2015 7:51 AM GMT
    Choose the friend you feel closest to, and pull him/her aside. Respectfully share your concerns, ask for feedback and the general opinions about you...and LISTEN. Don't argue, just listen and take it in. Think about it, sleep on it, then proceed as you see fit.

    Remember, no one's perfect; and true friends will love you, the good and the bad alike.
  • Svnw688

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    Jan 22, 2015 8:22 AM GMT
    All relationships are TRAINED BEHAVIOR. From the relationship you have with your boss, coworkers, mother, father, friends, dog, etc.

    YOU TRAIN PEOPLE AS TO HOW THEY CAN TREAT YOU.

    If you allow this behavior, it will continue, AND you will lose respect with them and the fact they now know they can disrespect you with impunity and without consequences, they will when they see fit and it is advantageous to them. Draw a line in the sand. Get to the bottom of that BS. If you can work it out, please do. If not, get new friends and be friendless until you do. But to put it in colloquial terms, by all means, NEVER let anyone treat you like a dog or a punk ass b*tch.

    Nobody has to kiss your ass, but they can be civil and text you regarding plans they made with you. Accept no less, or you'll be on the D list the rest of your life with respect to that group of "friends."