Having a few issues here...

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    Jan 24, 2015 3:05 PM GMT
    Hey!

    My name is Moody, new to the forum here. I was a bit shy to join at first until someone convinced me.

    I have been through a lot, as I come from an Egyptian-Muslim family (I am not religious though), and I came out 7 years ago (24 years today, came out when I was 17) and it was a gigantic disaster from my father's side completely disowning me (my dad is dead though) and people on my mom's side completely (who I love a lot) saying and doing really awful things which I don't feel comfortable yet spilling on a public. I lost a lot of friends in the process coming from a town that used to be small. But there is one thing that has been affecting my relationships with the gay men I lie with or try to date. To be brief about the story, just after I came out, the members of my father's side of the family decided to put me through a really physically invasive religious therapy while I was vacation Egypt for quite some time. They still do treat homosexuality as an illness in some parts of the country there. I was young and naive and forced into it and ever since treatment I have not been able to perform properly during sex (there are times I cannot get it up, and times I can). For some reason, that seems to stray a lot of people away... it really hurts. The memories of those times still haunt and affect me even though it's been a long time since. I really don't know how to fix this problem as talking to a therapist about my issues for years has not solved the physical damage that was done...

    The other issue is, a lot of people I meet are not really sensitive or understanding of the fact that my family does not accept me. I had to let go of all my gay male friends because whenever I am in a serious situation I would either hear "just ignore it" or they would ignore me and similar uncaring responses.

    I am in a lot better position right now, the issue is I keep meeting people that do not understand and are negative.
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    Jan 24, 2015 7:33 PM GMT

    Hey Moody! Wow, you've been through some awful stuff, but you're in Canada now, and have 100% equality and protected by law. Whew!

    -Doug of meninlove
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    Jan 25, 2015 12:07 AM GMT
    By "physically invasive religious therapy" do you mean that you were raped?
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    Jan 25, 2015 12:49 AM GMT
    No, aversion therapy and medication to "cure" my sexuality.

    But i have been sexually abused and whatnot in my early years which I have overcome mentally.


    Also, Thanks Doug for support!!! icon_smile.gif