my potential first time has a boyfriend now

  • joethick

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    Jan 24, 2015 9:32 PM GMT
    i recently accepted that i was bi. and i started talking to one guy, i thought we were hitting it off. we met up but never got down to doing it. we went on dates kissed a couple times.

    then one day he tells me he just got a boyfriend and wanted to stay friends.

    i was crushed but accepted it. he recently messaged me that he wanted to get together. he was the first guy i ever liked and he still has a boyfriend. idk what to do! help!
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    Jan 24, 2015 9:34 PM GMT
    joethick saidi recently accepted that i was bi. and i started talking to one guy, i thought we were hitting it off. we met up but never got down to doing it. we went on dates kissed a couple times.

    then one day he tells me he just got a boyfriend and wanted to stay friends.

    i was crushed but accepted it. he recently messaged me that he wanted to get together. he was the first guy i ever liked and he still has a boyfriend. idk what to do! help!


    Hmmm, well, what would yo do if it was a girl you'd met and gone a couple of dates with, and then one day she tells you she just got a boyfriend?
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    Jan 24, 2015 10:13 PM GMT
    Your not the only fish in the sea. Till both of you make it that way.
  • N97_

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    Jan 24, 2015 10:26 PM GMT
    If he genuinely wants to stay friends maybe he just wants to get together as friends? If that's the case it just depends on whether you're comfortable being just friends with him. (personally I think I would find it too hard)
  • NeuralShock

    Posts: 411

    Jan 25, 2015 1:23 AM GMT
    Hell no.

    Do not settle for being second choice. He made his decision, let him live with it. Do NOT let yourself be emotionally jerked around. If he figures out he can have you on a leash like a dog and kick you to the curb and reclaim you whenever his "ideal" comes along and then dumps him then he will abuse that knowledge.

    Do not give him that power, there is no relationship.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jan 25, 2015 3:10 AM GMT
    If you guys went out and kissed and did all that shit and he got a boyfriend just means he was going out with other guys while going out with you and you fell for it.
    Tsk, tsk, you should know better.

    Get used to being the side bitch.
    <3
  • AMoonHawk

    Posts: 11406

    Jan 25, 2015 5:20 AM GMT
    Personally, I don't fall for guys that easily (any more), but when you are young, sometimes you don't always see things as they really are. As long as you have feelings for him, but he doesn't have feelings for you and he has a bf, then you should probably say sure, but only if it is with both him and his bf. That way you are dealing with things the way they are, not what you want them to be. And that way, it doesn't give him the opportunity of just using you as a fuck buddy ... unless of course that is all you want to be (but I would hope you would think you are worth more and deserving of more than that.)
  • joethick

    Posts: 10

    Jan 26, 2015 1:45 AM GMT
    thanks everyone, its just hard, he's the first guy and i feel torn. he wants to hook up but i don't want to be a person he cheats on him with