Should I start off being a Top or a Bottom?

  • Jav1993

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    Jan 25, 2015 3:47 PM GMT
    I'm a virgin who is planning to have sex sometime soon hahaha my question is for the first time, should i be on top or bottom. I'm 50/50 on both
  • Apparition

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    Jan 25, 2015 4:31 PM GMT
    you should start with oral.
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    Jan 25, 2015 4:39 PM GMT
    Apparition saidyou should start with oral.

    No kissing--gross


    -last I checked there were 23.6 Bottoms to every 1 Top--seams a no brainer.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 25, 2015 5:40 PM GMT
    I'm not sure how you can say you're 50/50 if you've never done either. Logic would suggest start with bottom to learn some technique but Dustin is actually right-- tops are in demand. Still, the learning curve as to how to be a good top is much faster if you know what the bottom is experiencing. It's a big advantage we have over straights. Assuming, of course, that the guy you're learning from knows what he's doing, which frequently is not the case. I'd suggest you find someone older to learn with but the ageist police will attack.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jan 25, 2015 7:03 PM GMT
    Think of a Baseball Stadium.
    The PITCHER to the CATCHER ratio is exactly the same in our world.

    =]

    Yes, including the fans.
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    Jan 25, 2015 7:10 PM GMT
    Find a versatile guy and flip--have him fuck you first and then fuck him and then you will know, if bottom or top is for you and maybe you will like both as I do. It's a really desirable characteristic, if you can learn to be versatile.
  • Hypertrophile

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    Jan 25, 2015 7:28 PM GMT
    If you aren't sure, you're a bottom. icon_surprised.gif
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    Jan 25, 2015 9:12 PM GMT
    Since you are new, be VERY safe. We don't need another statistic. Use condoms and/or any of the other risk reductions available today.

    Since you aren't sure, find what you are most attracted to and go with that for the time being! You don't need to define it.
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    Jan 25, 2015 9:17 PM GMT
    I'm virgin too, I'm planning to start off with being a top.
  • SuntoryTime

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    Jan 25, 2015 10:30 PM GMT
    Jav1993 saidI'm a virgin who is planning to have sex sometime soon hahaha my question is for the first time, should i be on top or bottom. I'm 50/50 on both


    There's always the third choice...neither. But if you do decide to have anal sex, topping is probably easier. Remember to assume every guy you're thinking about having sex with is HIV or STI positive. Use protection.

  • Jan 26, 2015 9:52 PM GMT
    I would not exactly agree with the above statement., maybe just my locality Tampa? There are many more tops then there are bottoms here where I hang out. In either case however it is probably more natural to be a top. I started out as a top becaise it seemedore natural to me. But after I tried being a bottom, it was clear that I only wanted to be a bottom. Often, it has to do with both the pleasure you receive as well as your mentality. Commonly, bottoms are more submissive and tops are more dominant. That is not always the case, however is quite typical. It's up to you, but I would say starting out being a top would be much easier as being a bottom take some getting used to. You can make a top very frustrated with you, almost angry if you cannot accept his cock. That is the one thing that makes being a beginner bottom difficult. Additionally, if you're never done it before and it is painful as opposed to an enjoyable. You will tighten up and that will make it more painful for you. You have to ease into being a bottom. As opposed to a top, that essentially comes naturally from our anatomy.
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    Jan 26, 2015 10:06 PM GMT
    I'm a power bottom, been that way ever since my first time,, I do enjoy topping also,, But I love the feeling of a guys hard cock slipping in an out of my butt hole,, there just something about a guy screwing me that drives me wild,, I'll beg him to thrust harder.

    But as far as witch you want to be that up to you.
  • vhotti26

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    Jan 26, 2015 10:06 PM GMT
    I started topping cause it was easier. And because I didn't know anybody who I trusted enough to try bottoming with. So, if you know a guy you trust there is nothing against bottoming for a start in my eyes.
  • Chrismarch

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    Jan 26, 2015 10:20 PM GMT
    Do whatever you feel most comfortable with. Bottoming is tough the first time, but go with the flow and see what happens.
  • Svnw688

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    Jan 26, 2015 10:36 PM GMT
    A 23 year old "virgin"? Oh Jesus.

    If you're "unsure," then you're likely a bottom. But you can't know until you try both. I was a top, until I realize how life-shatteringly amazing bottoming is. I'll never go back. Embrace your hole.

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    Feb 04, 2015 5:21 PM GMT
    Personally, I'd start as a bottom but as everyone else said, you can assume both roles.
  • Svnw688

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    Feb 04, 2015 6:21 PM GMT
    Update OP, did you top or bottom?
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    Feb 04, 2015 6:36 PM GMT
    Stay a virgin. Avoid the drama.
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    Feb 04, 2015 8:22 PM GMT
    calime61 saidI'm virgin too, I'm planning to start off with being a top.

    You must have an interesting concept of virginity - I'm sure I just read that you loved being rimmed and jacked off simultaneously. Just your ass is virgin territory?
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    Feb 05, 2015 4:48 AM GMT
    Stick with oral or try toping if you're hooking up and you're young...leave your first time of bottoming when you decide to date and get a guy who cares for you,mutual respect,this is if the curiosity happen.never give in to pressure from someone nor do it without feeling like giving it a try.like said before you don't have to be anything, top or bottom,many guys are happy couples and only like oral or even maybe simply jerk each others off and foreplay.be responsible and enjoy yourself ;)