impressions and experiences in Provincetown

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    Jan 25, 2015 8:03 PM GMT
    Hi. Hoping to get some feedback please. In advance, thanks to anyone who offers their thoughts. I am thinking of taking a vacation to Provincetown this summer. I've never been, mostly because I have assumed the type of men who vacation there are standoffish and unapproachable.

    I would welcome people's impressions of the place and their experiences. Given that summer is the height of tourist season, are there any budget friendly places to stay?

    Again, thanks to anyone who replies
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    Jan 25, 2015 8:43 PM GMT
    I went when I was 23, only for a night I stayed in a hostel, very affordable, though there's a much better hostel in Truro. I met the nicest man there, and we had a one-night dalliance and a lovely morning on the beach. Then I was back on my bicycle riding to Martha's Vineyard. Memories!
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    Jan 25, 2015 8:57 PM GMT
    Thanks for the feedback CFL (Canadian Football League?)
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    Jan 26, 2015 2:14 PM GMT
    We like P-Town (among a whole lot of other places like the Vineyard and Nantucket). The west end of Provincetown, where we stay has a two story house with views of the water, and a spiral staircase. We like walking the length of the town along the main street, and some of the cool little restaurants and pubs along the way. There are a number of little shops, but unfortunately many of them have closed and some of what is there is hit or miss. Avoid the Lobster Pot at all costs (a horrible tourist trap). But - we really like The Mews and Ross' Grill. It's fun to walk the whole length in the morning and then go back to the house. Later at night, do the same thing for dinner. Even the airport is cool, so small, quiet and romantic. You mentioned that some guys are 'standoffish and unapproachable' and that's not the experience we've ever had. Most guys there are on vacation and out to have a good time.
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    Jan 26, 2015 6:07 PM GMT
    So my first time in Provincetown I was a lonely virgin, biking from a youth hostel in Truro where I was inspired to stay by an old made-for-TV movie called "Summer Solstice," and then arriving at Provincetown for the history and geography and was surprised at the throngs of gays milling about the streets, tanned muscles bulging, attractive, healthy-looking, the polar opposites of the media images fed me throughout my life. Well, except for my rushed bike ride back 'round sunset to make curfew, where passing a guesthouse the guys on the front porch started humming this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kjHHTWalnvw

    My second time in Provincetown two years later I flew in with my hot male model boyfriend, and my biggest memory wasn't sharing a bathroom with a bunch of hostelers but a claw foot bathtub with him. And not being able to figure out where the tea was being served at tea dance.

    Viva la difference!

    But note to OP - I never went there with the intent of meeting anyone. The first visit was for the view, the second I brought a date.
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    Jan 26, 2015 6:10 PM GMT
    Never been but probably no different than any seasonal gay resort like Fire Island or Sitges. It was great if you had fun and got lucky and not so great if you didn't get lucky. In my experience, you're well advised to take a friend or partner with you, not to count on meeting a guy. I have several friends who've gone and loved it, both single and coupled.
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    Jan 26, 2015 6:27 PM GMT
    Hmm... sounds like I missed out. I used to go to Woods Hole quite frequently, on business, but somehow, never made it up to Provincetown. Well... I was on business - no free time - and it was usually winter. So maybe no loss. Many of those east coast beach towns seem to be all boarded up and closed down in the winter.
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    Jan 26, 2015 7:00 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidHmm... sounds like I missed out. I used to go to Woods Hole quite frequently, on business, but somehow, never made it up to Provincetown. Well... I was on business - no free time - and it was usually winter. So maybe no loss. Many of those east coast beach towns seem to be all boarded up and closed down in the winter.

    Yeah, P-town is pretty bleak in the winter, not much open. It used to shut down right after Labor Day, but many businesses now stay open through October and even into early November.

    Mid-September is when we like to go, after Labor Day. The crowds are way down, lodging prices drop, while lot of things are still open. The only gamble is the weather, but that's true of Cape Cod even in the summer.

    We've been there the end of September and it was sunny and low-80s, T-shirt & shorts weather. I've also been there in July and it was cold, rainy & foggy, rain parka weather. But P-town being on a spit of land at the end of the Cape is almost like an island out in the Atlantic, and subject to these differences.

    I don't know any very inexpensive places right in P-town, you may find some down in North Truro, Truro, Eastham, etc, within driving distance (but then P-town parking is a hassle in summer). Within town the Boatslip has some fair rates for a small single, with on-site parking, but not very attractive or stylish.

    But the older quaint guest houses along Commercial can become quite pricey, and most have no on-site parking, so add the cost of a pay parking lot a few blocks away. At least the Boatslip has a pool overlooking the beach, and hopefully will resume their gay tea parties on the pool deck on Sundays this summer.
  • tobyb

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    Jan 26, 2015 9:03 PM GMT
    I've visited P'Town for over 20 years and I strongly recommend it. It's very definitely a LGBT destination, but unlike the Pines and some other gay destinations, it's somehow very gay and yet also mixed. That's partly because of the daily influx of tourists on ferries from Boston, who are mostly straight families who know what they're getting into but want to check out the "Bohemian artists' community," (which is what it has been for about 100 years, from the time of Eugene O'Neill and to now, with John Waters, Andrew Sullivan and Michael Cunningham.

    I strongly advise renting a bike to get around and to get to the beach. Stay out of town in North Truro if you must, but AirBNB and VRBO also have a good variety of places to stay. Go on a whalewatch, a kayak trip on the Herring River or a long bike ride through the dune roads. Enjoy, it's a really magical place in the summer and fall.

    If you're single and looking to mingle be sure to check out the Chamber of Commerce's list of "themed weekends," so you can plan to be there when there are more women or men of whatever type you are looking to meet.
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    Jan 27, 2015 1:25 AM GMT
    Why would the men who vacation there be stand offish and unapproachable?
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    Jan 27, 2015 1:48 AM GMT
    WickedRyan saidWhy would the men who vacation there be stand offish and unapproachable?


    Because gay men in general are standoffish and unapproachable? Or haven't you been paying attention to the forums?
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    Jan 27, 2015 1:54 AM GMT
    Maybe I hang out in different circles.I could shop in Bergdorfs,go to museums in NYC,have brunch with old queens in Chelsea.I rarely encounter bitchy cunty gays.Maybe 1 out of 100.I mean it.
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    Jan 27, 2015 1:11 PM GMT
    WickedRyan saidWhy would the men who vacation there be stand offish and unapproachable?


    They aren't. As many have observed, they're on vacation and out to have a good time.
    Go and enjoy yourself. You won't be disappointed.
  • thisguy023

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    Jan 27, 2015 2:19 PM GMT
    P-town is fun and relaxed. We are thinking about going this summer too.
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    Feb 03, 2015 3:32 AM GMT
    I would say that most guys who vacation there are not standoffish and unapproachable.

    See: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3881906

    OTOH, before Labor Day, the majority of guys are under 30. Town is quieter (and the water is still warm for a couple weeks) after Labor Day.