Joining a Karate club when your gay?

  • NCLnewlad

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    Jan 27, 2015 6:12 AM GMT
    Can anyone tell me what the marshall arts is like if your gay? Also a beginner, or would like to be! I know officially there should be no homophobia in sport but when all is said and done it just comes down to the individuals In the group right?
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    Jan 27, 2015 12:02 PM GMT
    I've studied Tae Kwon Do for years. Your sexual orientation is not relevant to the sport. Like any other group activity, once people get to know you as a person, they could care less about who you like to sleep with. Enjoy.
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    Jan 27, 2015 12:13 PM GMT
    It shouldn't matter, and if it does just find a different one. Especially with something like karate which is more striking than ground/grappling. Also...martial arts*
  • NCLnewlad

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    Jan 27, 2015 4:07 PM GMT
    Thanks guys! Yeah quite right, i can always join a new one! I'm been toying with the idea of going but it's confidence at the minute cause I'm had some homophobic shit in my area recently which hasn't helped, but likewise wanna be able to defend myself cause I got beaten up by 3 lads a while back too. Also I was a small kid who was crap at sports in school, which of course is made very clear to you by everyone in front of everyone at any attempt!
    So everything I do is by myself, like gym, run and snowboard. I Might see if anyone else wants to go too to ease the pressure! haha
  • johnnyqhomo7

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    Jan 27, 2015 4:27 PM GMT
    If you go in and don't act all effemminate and such, you should be ok icon_smile.gif
  • NCLnewlad

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    Jan 27, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
    Haha yeah they'd love that lol
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 27, 2015 5:52 PM GMT
    I've done Shotokan Karate forever and have never had a problem. I will get a bit interested in some guy with a great chest but the minute we start working, all that goes away as the sensei drills us to exhaustion. Or combat begins. The Gi is a very sexy look on a hot guy... Fun!
  • FRE0

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    Jan 27, 2015 7:03 PM GMT
    NCLnewlad saidCan anyone tell me what the marshall arts is like if your gay? Also a beginner, or would like to be! I know officially there should be no homophobia in sport but when all is said and done it just comes down to the individuals In the group right?


    Do you also wonder what studying physics or accounting is like if you're gay?
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    Jan 27, 2015 10:05 PM GMT
    It's no big deal in my experience. Do check out the gym or class before signing up, if only just to gauge the atmosphere.
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    Jan 28, 2015 11:52 PM GMT
    I've been out since I was 14. I've trained in several martial arts for many years. I'm always totally out. I've never had a problem as far as I know.
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    Jan 29, 2015 1:36 AM GMT
    NCLnewlad saidCan anyone tell me what the marshall arts is like if your gay? Also a beginner, or would like to be! I know officially there should be no homophobia in sport but when all is said and done it just comes down to the individuals In the group right?


    True story: while I was competing as a second-degree black belt in TKD, a kid joined our studio named--get this--Marshall Arts. George Arts, his father, thought it would be cute if his son actually learned martial arts.

    Hopefully the kid didn't kill himself and instead grew up to change his name. Some parents are fucking idiots.
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    Feb 03, 2015 9:53 PM GMT
    I train in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, which is intimate, at a gym that specializes in BJJ, Muay Thai, and MMA. I kept my sexuality to myself just to gauge the environment at first. I never hid who I was though, and I know the girls picked up on it. People at the gym then became my friends on Facebook, and, if they already didn't know, they found out I was gay through my post. They're supportive, especially my coach. They know I'm there to train.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Feb 05, 2015 12:36 PM GMT
    IRFire66 saidIt shouldn't matter, and if it does just find a different one. Especially with something like karate which is more striking than ground/grappling. Also...martial arts*


    I agree with IRF. It souldnt matter!
    When I was 12 I was shorter than most kids my age. My Dad signed me up for karate and I have done it ever since. Thank god I grew til I was 21 late bloomer here.
    It helped me about six years ago my b/f and I were out really late one night. A younger guy came up to us and asked for money. He said his girl friend just broke up with him and his friends left him and he needed bus fare. It sounded like BS to me and it was, my b/ f took out his wallet to give him money and the kid took it and ran. I ran after him and caught up to him and when i did there were two other guys with him and he told me to fuck off. My boyfriend is bigger than me but def not as quick. He has also never been in a fight in his life. One of the guys said you think you can take us? My boyfriend was winded and I told him to sit on the curb. He said just forget about his wallet and ask them to leave his ID on the ground. They started laughing. I said do you have a fucking gun. The young guy said we don't need one. I went up to him and he took a swing at me and missed. I kicked him in his ribs hard and he went down. The other two rushed me and I was able to take them both out. I walked up to to younger guy on the ground and he had the wallet. I took it. Then I grabbed my boyfriends hand and pulled him up from the curb and we went home. He told me he was scared but he knew I could protect myself, but he said he wanted me to let it go. He told me later on he was happy I was there. He got ice for my hand. He is too trusting and kind, but it's just one of the reasons I love him.
    Plus he keeps way too much stuff in that wallet!!!
  • Rush_

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    Feb 23, 2015 7:45 AM GMT
    Scout627 saidI train in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, which is intimate, at a gym that specializes in BJJ, Muay Thai, and MMA. I kept my sexuality to myself just to gauge the environment at first. I never hid who I was though, and I know the girls picked up on it. People at the gym then became my friends on Facebook, and, if they already didn't know, they found out I was gay through my post. They're supportive, especially my coach. They know I'm there to train.


    Same for me. The ladies figured it out fast and my coach did too. He was the first to really bring it up, asking about why a guy and I had ended...conversation went from there. It's pretty much just approached as a facet, as it should be, that sometimes I get asked about. Everyone has been super supportive and it's pretty awesome.
    My coach even let me just do a noh8 photo in my team gi. Can't wait to see how it turned out!
  • mjlikeaboss

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    Jan 26, 2016 1:39 AM GMT
    Yeah, echo what everyone else has said: give it a shot, and if you don't find the right group/dojo on your first try, try a different one. It does totally depend on the people in the group, but there's a dojo out there for you. And it might not just be homophobia that would make you change dojos. Teaching styles vary a great deal, from extremely militant and intense to super relaxed and "just for fun."
  • FRE0

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    Jan 27, 2016 8:47 PM GMT
    jimib saidI've been out since I was 14. I've trained in several martial arts for many years. I'm always totally out. I've never had a problem as far as I know.


    I'm not closeted and never hide anything, but still I'm not quite certain what it means to be "always totally out".
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    Jan 28, 2016 2:29 AM GMT
    Yeah it shouldn't matter at all. I kind of wanted to do krav maga. But I just never did it.
  • giodude

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    Feb 02, 2016 3:31 PM GMT
    NCLnewlad saidCan anyone tell me what the marshall arts is like if your gay? Also a beginner, or would like to be! I know officially there should be no homophobia in sport but when all is said and done it just comes down to the individuals In the group right?
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    Who's marshall?
    I kid I kid

    It shouldn't matter. In my capoeia class there are four non heterosexual guys and one guy dressed up in drag with my master's gf.

    In kickboxing nobody really cared either. Martial artists are far more respectful and disciplined than in other sports
  • FRE0

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    Feb 02, 2016 9:26 PM GMT
    jimib saidI've been out since I was 14. I've trained in several martial arts for many years. I'm always totally out. I've never had a problem as far as I know.


    From the way you look, I'm sure that people would think at least twice before causing problems for you.

  • Feb 10, 2016 7:33 PM GMT
    I'm as fem as they come, and I wouldn't be worried, so you shouldn't feel worried either. To hell with what they think. It makes it all the more sweeter when they get pummeled during sparring practice. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif