What do you think is the real # of sex partners...

  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 28, 2015 9:25 PM GMT
    the average gay man has yearly?

    Someone on another board estimated the average gay man has 30 partners yearly, which seems like an exaggeration to me

    The highest number I've ever had in a year was 6. I have had about 20 partners by the age of 27, which may seem like a lot or a little depending on the person.

    So what do you think the real estimate is? What is an "acceptable" number to you? Does it really matter either way, as long as men protect themselves and their partners?
  • Noeton

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    Jan 29, 2015 2:20 AM GMT
    http://www.emis-project.eu/final-report
    7.5 Sex with non-steady male
    partners in the past 12 months
    Non-steady partners were defined as partners other than
    steady partners. Overall, 67% of respondents reported
    sex with non-steady sex partners in the past 12 months
    (median 74%; range 63–83%). Eleven per cent reported one
    non-steady partner, 40% 2–5 partners, 19% 6–10 partners
    and 30% 11 or more non-steady partners.
    The proportion of men reporting 11 or more non-steady
    partners in the past 12 months varied widely by country,
    from 7% to 43% (median 23%). Seventeen per cent of the
    respondents who had had sex with non-steady partners
    did not have anal intercourse (AI), 44% had AI and used
    condoms consistently and 39% reported UAI with at least
    one partner (median 40%; range 29–62%). The associa-
    tions between non-steady UAI, age group and settlement
    size were marginal. Men with lower levels of education
    were more likely to report UAI with non-steady partners
    than men with higher levels of education (42% vs. 36%;
    AOR=1.37; 95%-CI: 1.33–1.40). Men diagnosed with HIV
    infection were more likely to report UAI with non-steady
    partners than men who had not tested HIV positive (65% vs.
    36%; AOR=3.53; 95%-CI: 3.38–3.69). Finally, non-steady
    UAI was more common in South-East Europe (both EU and
    non-EU) and less common in Central-East and Central-West
    Europe (sub-region range 37–50%; Figure 7.7).
    Similar to the analyses with steady partners, a new vari-
    able was constructed that distinguished HIV-concordant
    UAI from non-concordant UAI (ncUAI). Twenty-five per cent
    of men who had a non-steady partner had had ncUAI with
    a non-steady partner in the previous year (median 25%;
    range 16–47%). Age group, educational level and settle-
    ment size were not associated with this measure, but HIV
    positive men were more likely to report non-steady ncUAI
    than men who had not tested HIV positive (45% vs. 23%;
    AOR=3.03; 95%-CI: 2.91–3.17). The highest levels of ncUAI
    were reported in South-East Europe (EU and non-EU) and
    the lowest in Central-East and Central-West Europe (sub-
    region range 21–35%; Figure 7.icon_cool.gif.
    Respondents were asked which sexual practices they had
    engaged in with non-steady partners in the past 12 months.
    Mutual masturbation and oral sex were very common (≥90%)
    with non-steady partners. Sixty-five per cent of respondents
    reported licking a man’s anus and 76% reported having
    had their anus licked by a man. Regarding anal intercourse,
    74% reported insertive anal intercourse and 73% recep-
    tive anal intercourse. Fist-fucking was less common: 17%
    reported fist-fucking another man, while 11% reported
    being fist-fucked by another man.
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    Jan 29, 2015 6:29 AM GMT
    Dunno... Hard to figure out what is average.

    Lots of guys getting none at all.

    Some guys are way over the top... I visited that scene once or twice when i was wurking in the city. Friday and Saturday nights, they would get on Manhunt or Gay.com (previous version) and dial up two or three different guys each night. Then go out clubbing. Then hit the baths. Nice fantasy world, but hard to imagine all those guys are still alive. Probably just as well I live too far out to be regularly tempted by that... (Of course, I don't know if within that, they repeat the same guys every week.)

    Even more guys are probably in between.
  • Zigs_01

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    Jan 29, 2015 7:29 AM GMT
    There was a study showing that girls who slept more than 20 guys by the time they were twenty year olds in college were excluded by other females. Guys were judge just as harshly.
    However, there are grey areas in everything. Maybe one or two guys for experimenting.

    People who live promiscuous lives are breaking social norms. However, it's a social construct. There are tribes who lives their lives sleeping with other people and it's not frown upon. I,myself wouldn't promiscuous because I wouldn't be taken seriously for long-term dating.
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    Jan 29, 2015 7:54 AM GMT
    Zigs_01 saidThere was a study showing that girls who slept more than 20 guys by the time they were twenty year olds in college were excluded by other females. Guys were judge just as harshly.
    However, there are grey areas in everything. Maybe one or two guys for experimenting.

    People who live promiscuous lives are breaking social norms. However, it's a social construct. There are tribes who lives their lives sleeping with other people and it's not frown upon. I,myself wouldn't promiscuous because I wouldn't be taken seriously for long-term dating.


    Most of the guys I knew who were hot enough to get laid regularly as freshmen flunked out. icon_rolleyes.gif not many people really have the will power to chose between sex and studying. This is the secret behind the real revenge of the nerds.

    And "within a tribe", promiscuity shouldn't really matter because everyone would already carry all the same microbes. Our problem is how to rationally arrange our own little tribes.