Feb 01, 2015 4:26 PM GMT
I can't figure it out, frustrating! Hi, I'm a 24yr old private gay and I'm crushing hard on a new friend, he's a 18yr old hottie. Me: not out to most people, private, haven't told my new friend I'm gay and that I like him. Him: works at my gym, likes dance music and 420. We have been talking in the coed hot tub at the gym twice a week the last 4 months. We currently text each other (I seem to text him first all the time though) and we did go out one night last week. It was awesome to hang and at the end of the night I felt I could have made a move on him. Thing is though I can't tell if he likes me or is completely straight! Since day one we both stare at each other while he works at the gym. Really some heavy staring! I love it. When we talk and when we went out there seems to be a good vibe between us but we both say/do nothing about it. He talks about having no girlfriend and hasn't for 5 years but did have sex recently with a crazy girl. Said he has trouble getting it up when time comes. He tells me all about his life and crazy girls that snapchat him nudes. He also said he met a new 25yr old girl at the mall recently and she was hot. But seems these girls go no where and he doesn't speak of them again. He once told me a girl and her boyfriend asked him to be in a three way and the dude wanted him to do him. My friend then said loudly that no way he would because he is straight, like he wanted me and others to hear him say that at the gym. The night we went out he opened a snapchat and quickly shut it off when I saw it, it was a shirtless dude. He said it was a crazy girl wanting to send nude snaps. I was so nervous all night and couldn't seem to just talk or tease him, flirt, etc. Also we briefly talked that night about gay/bi guys and he said quietly "it's really hard to tell who is gay sometimes". I again kept quiet, I hate myself sometimes. During our night out I was able to crack his back, compare our hands sizes, and you know little touching here and there. He just seems like such a tease though, because he seems into me and interested when we are in person. But while texting and stuff he seems not interested really. He also talks about things we should do together but he never then makes it happen, like play tennis or hang out again. Recently he told me he really likes butts as the main body part he fancies. Lastly, he always fixes his hair, looks in mirror at self and on Facebook seems to support gays. Sorry for just throwing my story down, hope it's not too confusing to follow. I'm looking for any advice on what I should do, if anything. Do you think he is a closet gay? Is my new friend hot for me like I'm for him? Or is he just a new friend who's straight and hot and friendly. If he is straight, why does he keep deep staring at me and say so many "closet" like comments/stories. HELP! What I want is to date/hook up with him or at least stay friends. Should I tell him I'm gay? Thanks for reading.