NeuralShock saidI am very worried about this, I haven't had sex in a very.... very.... very long time (ever.). I am sure I creak ... But point is I'm not sure what I should do or say if I get into a relationship with someone. Or if they ask my sexual history I am not sure what to say, if I tell them "I'm basically a virgin" that'll be a massive turnoff for many guys.
So should I start lying about it? I don't want to lose potential relationships because of my virginity. I know a lot of guys don't want to put in the "work" so yeah........
Also I am worried about the first time hurting or me being bad and yeah
I'm just concerned about it.
You may want to lean back, take a deep breath, and plan for the better future.
If you look around, you'll come across a surprising number of young dudes who either have not had sex, want to have sex but are not getting any, or even do not feel like taking a step into the uncharted territory.
A dude in his late teens and early 20's sometimes lacks a lot of experience. Frankly, a number of guys at that age do not know where to go, what to do, how to start...
So, like pretty much everyone else, you go to the market of ideas and buy into the loosely wrapped package of ideology that you happen to like most. What else could you do? Why start inventing the wheel all over again?
Recently, a heteronormative notion that men should have sex ONLY and ONLY if it is a result of a very deep emotional bond, within the framework of a completely monogamous relationship has become very popular among a number of guys in their late teens and early 20's.
If this is how you (impersonal 'you') really feel about it, and if this is how you wish to organize your life, go for it. More power to you! Your life - you are calling the shots.
If you are not so sure about all of this, do some research, and try to figure out what is so good, wise and productive about the aforementioned heteronorm.
A little reading will show that societal subjugation of the male sexual drive really started with the introduction of Christianity as both religion and ideology. Classical, pre-Christian societies imposed very few societal limitations on the male sexual drive, and showed great tolerance towards m2m sexual relationships. Christianity significantly augmented the societal role of women, banned m2m sexual relations and imposed serious limitations on the male sexual drive in general.
Some people call this "civilization". It is difficult to adopt this notion because it is very obvious that great classical civilizations existed and blossomed without such limitations.
Once you are done with your analysis, the only possible conclusion you can reach is that the notions of premarital celibacy, monogamy, frowning down upon recreational sex, and a complete ban on m2m sex all had a significant political importance in spreading Christianity in its time and day. An expanding, officially banned religion needed large families to grow and conquer, and not men frolicking around with other men, and having a good ole' time.
Once you have educated yourself on the subject, you can make an educated decision on what role your sex drive should play in your life. If you still want to buy into the popular Christian model, by all means, do so, and be prepared to bear the consequences of your decision.
The other option is to understand male sexuality as being very different from its female counterpart. The evolutionary cost of any male sexual intercourse is negligible. Once the sexual intercourse is over, a male is ready to go and do whatever he wants to do. In a very short time, a healthy male will be able to get sexually active again. In evolutionary terms, a female is likely to be saddled with a huge expense of being pregnant for a relatively long time, and having to care for her offspring for many years to come. This huge asymmetry in the evolutionary cost of human sexual intercourse explains a lot about the most fundamental aspects of human sexuality.
A step further in thinking will bring you to the conclusion that you MAY choose to view your sexuality as one of your basic needs which can be easily satisfied with willing and available partners, at a very low evolutionary cost to you. Unlike women, who have every reason to promote the notion that sex should only be a consequence of a very deep and very binding emotional relationship which will help her to go through her pregnancy and facilitate the raising of her children over a long and costly period of time, you have a complete freedom of choice here.
Hence, consider redefining the place your sexuality plays in your, personal life. Consider the fact that your sexual drive happens to be one of your basic needs that you can satisfy easily, and without much ado, if this is what you want to do. Celibacy and heteronormative sex may not be the best solution for everybody despite the huge ideological value attached to it.