Are there fem guys who like other fem guys?

  • Being

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    Feb 02, 2015 5:48 AM GMT
    I'm somewhat fem and i love to date a fem guy. But I was wondering if there are any fem guys besides me that would like to date other fem guys.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 02, 2015 6:17 AM GMT
    I think I hear crickets chirping
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  • buddycat

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    Feb 02, 2015 10:53 AM GMT
    Of course there are. Some drag queens like other drag queens and some fem guys like other fem guys. That butch/fem thing went out a vogue a very long time ago. We don't have to resemble a hetero couple.
  • woow

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    Feb 02, 2015 6:10 PM GMT
    I am sure there must be some, but they are too busy bashing against masculine gays who only date other masculine gays icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 02, 2015 9:43 PM GMT
    woow saidI am sure there must be some, but they are too busy bashing against masculine gays who only date other masculine gays icon_razz.gif

    I have seen much more bashing of fem guys online or elsewhere. I have yet to see any kind of "bashing" of masculine guys.
  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 02, 2015 11:20 PM GMT
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    woow saidI am sure there must be some, but they are too busy bashing against masculine gays who only date other masculine gays icon_razz.gif

    I have seen much more bashing of fem guys online or elsewhere. I have yet to see any kind of "bashing" of masculine guys.

    I was about to say the same thing. I see way more masculine men bashing on feminine guys than the reverse. Maybe it was like that back in the 80s/90s?

    Anyway OP, I'm sure there are. You just have to look around. Unfortunately, area will make a difference and I see you live in Alabama. You're more likely to see feminine men in metropolitan cities. With that said, don't lose the faith. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 03, 2015 12:06 AM GMT
    from what I've seen they usually only want 'masc total tops'. it makes sense, i guess. though they could buy a double dildo and go lez out. they don't seem to typically be interested in that though.
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    Feb 03, 2015 3:41 AM GMT
    Not in my experience. From the exchanges I've had on Grindr/Scruff and online, it's usually fem or self described twinks for muscular/masc (whatever masc is supposed to mean). And I've been flamed HARD by guys I reject sexually because I'm not physically attracted, I've even been called a "juicing faggot" which was odd but I guess that's what blocking is for.

    The way I see it, you should like who you like. If you'd have to rationalize yourself into liking someone to avoid being "shallow", I'd say you're going the wrong direction.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Feb 03, 2015 5:01 PM GMT
    USUALLY no because people tend to want a little bit of an opposite or a complimentary personality to date

    Doesn't just mean shy/outgoing or masc/fem but much more

    I think once 2 people are together and they compliment each other, they tend to even out and kind of come to a middle ground

    Could never see 2 control freaks or 2 passive aggressive people lasting long
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    Feb 03, 2015 6:02 PM GMT
    I think sadly femininity gets a bad rap because most fem guys ive come across are shallow and obnoxious. macho douchey men = no thanks, fem obnoxious men who talk about designer clothing all day = no thanks.

    To be honest, true authenticity which most human beings are attracted to is always a blend of both masculine and feminine. If you're attracted to men it just makes sense for them to be somewhat more masculine with some feminine qualities. If you're super turned on by femininity, date a woman.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 03, 2015 6:14 PM GMT
    woow saidI am sure there must be some, but they are too busy bashing against masculine closeted gays who only date other masculine gays icon_razz.gif

    I think you're confusing being in the closet with being masculine.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 03, 2015 6:15 PM GMT
    TO22 saidI think sadly femininity gets a bad rap because most fem guys ive come across are shallow and obnoxious. macho douchey men = no thanks, fem obnoxious men who talk about designer clothing all day = no thanks.

    To be honest, true authenticity which most human beings are attracted to is always a blend of both masculine and feminine. If you're attracted to men it just makes sense for them to be somewhat more masculine with some feminine qualities. If you're super turned on by femininity, date a woman.

    True authenticity means not hiding your face on gay site.icon_idea.gif
  • tiddlypush

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    Feb 03, 2015 6:47 PM GMT
    i had a semi fem boy friend but lost him to another fem guy. so yes.
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    Feb 03, 2015 9:38 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    TO22 saidI think sadly femininity gets a bad rap because most fem guys ive come across are shallow and obnoxious. macho douchey men = no thanks, fem obnoxious men who talk about designer clothing all day = no thanks.

    To be honest, true authenticity which most human beings are attracted to is always a blend of both masculine and feminine. If you're attracted to men it just makes sense for them to be somewhat more masculine with some feminine qualities. If you're super turned on by femininity, date a woman.

    True authenticity means not hiding your face on gay site.icon_idea.gif



    Zing!
  • Svnw688

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    Feb 03, 2015 10:24 PM GMT
    Sure, but I think it's the exception and not the rule.

    Let's be frank. When we say "fem," we're not necessarily talking about a person's innate qualities. Sometimes a bottom affirmatively "feminizes" himself, by adopting gesticulations, mannerisms, styles of dress, and linguistic patterns TO PRESENT himself as a bottom.

    Just like many men "masculinize" themselves TO PRESENT themselves as tops.

    Look, I have naturally masculine and feminine qualities to my perosnality and mannerism, but I subconsciously and consciously exaggerate certain elements, depending on the group dynamic I'm in, then I want to express something subtly and do a "soft sell." So instead of saying "I'm gay," to a group of new people, I might casually drop a line about my former boyfriend, or I might pepper some phrases with the word "fabulous." There I'm communicating "I'm gay" without being so ham-handed. The same with guys who are with other guys. If I'm talking to a group of guys, and I want them to know I'm a bottom without being crude and saying it explicitly, I might start acting more "sassy" or "feminine." That doesn't mean that I'm always feminine, it simply means that I'm trying to put myself out there as a bottom.

    So frankly, your question is largely asking "do bottoms like other bottoms." The answer is, generally, no.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Feb 04, 2015 12:06 AM GMT
    The best way to find out is to put it out there that that's what you're looking for -- in this case, a fem guy who's into other fem guys. Put it in your profile. (Put anything in your profile.)

    I'm into what many/most gay guys would consider a pretty weird scene, but I never go long without getting hit on by someone who's either into the same stuff or up for trying it because I make it clear in my various online or app profiles what I'm looking for.

    Put it in your profile. Also, put a public picture in your profile. If you're fem, you're probably not fooling anybody about your sexuality -- except fem guys who think other fem guys are only into "masculine" guys.
  • Sunny_x9

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    Feb 04, 2015 6:34 AM GMT
    Being saidI'm somewhat fem and i love to date a fem guy. But I was wondering if there are any fem guys besides me that would like to date other fem guys.


    I m not fem guy
    But yes I do like fem guys
  • Being

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    Feb 05, 2015 1:15 AM GMT
    Svnw688 saidSure, but I think it's the exception and not the rule.

    Let's be frank. When we say "fem," we're not necessarily talking about a person's innate qualities. Sometimes a bottom affirmatively "feminizes" himself, by adopting gesticulations, mannerisms, styles of dress, and linguistic patterns TO PRESENT himself as a bottom.

    Just like many men "masculinize" themselves TO PRESENT themselves as tops.

    Look, I have naturally masculine and feminine qualities to my perosnality and mannerism, but I subconsciously and consciously exaggerate certain elements, depending on the group dynamic I'm in, then I want to express something subtly and do a "soft sell." So instead of saying "I'm gay," to a group of new people, I might casually drop a line about my former boyfriend, or I might pepper some phrases with the word "fabulous." There I'm communicating "I'm gay" without being so ham-handed. The same with guys who are with other guys. If I'm talking to a group of guys, and I want them to know I'm a bottom without being crude and saying it explicitly, I might start acting more "sassy" or "feminine." That doesn't mean that I'm always feminine, it simply means that I'm trying to put myself out there as a bottom.

    So frankly, your question is largely asking "do bottoms like other bottoms." The answer is, generally, no.



    Why does fem have to mean bottom?
  • buddycat

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    Feb 05, 2015 4:56 AM GMT
    __morphic__ said
    woow saidI am sure there must be some, but they are too busy bashing against masculine gays who only date other masculine gays icon_razz.gif

    I have seen much more bashing of fem guys online or elsewhere. I have yet to see any kind of "bashing" of masculine guys.


    I agree, I see much more bashing of fem guys even though most of the rights you have are the results of them. I am doubtful masculine seeking same guys would riot at Stonewall. What is annoying about masculine seeking same guys is I wonder what they are like when they open there mouth and proving your masculinity or if you are masculine enough is too much work so I would not bother with anyone who says "masculine seeking same".