Had Anal sex a nit worried

  • Matthew56

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    Feb 05, 2015 8:34 AM GMT
    Ok last night for the first time in months I had anal sax even though I of course used a condom I still have this nagging fear that I will get HIV for some reason
  • bmikesell2012

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    Feb 05, 2015 8:40 AM GMT
    why do you think the condom was broke?
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    Feb 05, 2015 1:43 PM GMT
    bmikesell2012 saidwhy do you think the condom was broke?



    Wow. By far the worst grammatical sentence I've seen in months!


    I hope you were trying to say "Why, do you think the condom was broke?" or did you mean to imply that the condom was out of money, i.e. 'broke'?
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  • bmikesell2012

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    Feb 05, 2015 2:09 PM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said
    bmikesell2012 saidwhy do you think the condom was broke?



    Wow. By far the worst grammatical sentence I've seen in months!


    I hope you were trying to say "Why, do you think the condom was broke?" or did you mean to imply that the condom was out of money, i.e. 'broke'?
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    Feb 05, 2015 5:56 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidOk last night for the first time in months I had anal sax even though I of course used a condom I still have this nagging fear that I will get HIV for some reason

    It's an irrational fear - but then most fears are.
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    Feb 05, 2015 7:32 PM GMT
    Yep, and dyslexia mostly causes you to switch the first letters of words or read words backwards, not mangle the sentence structure.

    Keep hiding behind that crutch, though.

    You want sympathy, look in Websters dictionary between 'shit' and 'syphilis'.

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  • Svnw688

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    Feb 05, 2015 11:06 PM GMT
    Relax. Calm down. If you used a condom, as you say and imply you did, then you are most likely fine.

    To have caught HIV or another viral/bacterial STI:
    (1). The condom would need to fail.
    (2). Your partner would have to be infected.
    (3). Your partner would have to pass along enough pathogen to cause infection in you.
    (4). Your immune system would need to fail (or in the case of HIV, ironically, overreact).

    I think it's unlikely, statistically speaking, that 1 condom encounter could sweep through those 4 barriers and result in your infection. Just keep in mind how you feel now, and seriously consider whether or not you want to have sex in the future before you deal with whatever emotional issues or qualms you may have with similar encounters to what you just had.

    I'm not for or against sex, I just want you to feel comfortable with your decisions. In my opinion, I wouldn't worry one bit if I'd used a condom.
  • Matthew56

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    Feb 06, 2015 9:28 AM GMT
    Svnw688 saidRelax. Calm down. If you used a condom, as you say and imply you did, then you are most likely fine.

    To have caught HIV or another viral/bacterial STI:
    (1). The condom would need to fail.
    (2). Your partner would have to be infected.
    (3). Your partner would have to pass along enough pathogen to cause infection in you.
    (4). Your immune system would need to fail (or in the case of HIV, ironically, overreact).

    I think it's unlikely, statistically speaking, that 1 condom encounter could sweep through those 4 barriers and result in your infection. Just keep in mind how you feel now, and seriously consider whether or not you want to have sex in the future before you deal with whatever emotional issues or qualms you may have with similar encounters to what you just had.

    I'm not for or against sex, I just want you to feel comfortable with your decisions. In my opinion, I wouldn't worry one bit if I'd used a condom.


    It didn't fail I took the condom off
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    Feb 06, 2015 10:57 AM GMT
    Matthew56 said
    Svnw688 saidRelax. Calm down. If you used a condom, as you say and imply you did, then you are most likely fine.


    It didn't fail I took the condom off

    And continued fucking?

    Then you didn't "use" a condom, after all.

    So, get tested every couple weeks for a few months.

    And to relieve your worrying, ask your partner if he is positive or negative. Not the best situation to be in, having to rely on the veracity of a hookup, but most guys won't lie.

    If he says he is positive, you still have good odds - HIV is not as easy to catch as gonorrhea or syphilis - but ask a doctor what you should do.

    Hopefully, you have just had a learning experience on HIV prevention.
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    Feb 06, 2015 1:04 PM GMT
    Matthew56 said
    It didn't fail I took the condom off

    So you were the top? Being the top greatly reduces your chances of contracting HIV from anal, but still possible.

    And when was the last time you were tested? Because if not very recently then the bottom has more to fear from you than you from him.

    Removing your condom is a very selfish act, that you shouldn't do again. If the condom causes you to have a loss of sensation, perhaps from being too tight, there are solutions to that.
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    Feb 06, 2015 6:27 PM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said Yep, and dyslexia mostly causes you to switch the first letters of words or read words backwards, not mangle the sentence structure.

    Keep hiding behind that crutch, though.

    You want sympathy, look in Websters dictionary between 'shit' and 'syphilis'.

    ---signed, a former stutterer.
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    I'm also a former slutterer.
  • Matthew56

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    Feb 09, 2015 6:56 AM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    Matthew56 said
    Svnw688 saidRelax. Calm down. If you used a condom, as you say and imply you did, then you are most likely fine.


    It didn't fail I took the condom off

    And continued fucking?

    Then you didn't "use" a condom, after all.

    So, get tested every couple weeks for a few months.

    And to relieve your worrying, ask your partner if he is positive or negative. Not the best situation to be in, having to rely on the veracity of a hookup, but most guys won't lie.

    If he says he is positive, you still have good odds - HIV is not as easy to catch as gonorrhea or syphilis - but ask a doctor what you should do.

    Hopefully, you have just had a learning experience on HIV prevention.


    After I had intercourse I meant