Valentine's Day Dilemma

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    Feb 05, 2015 3:16 PM GMT
    This is my first Valentine's Day I've ever experienced as a single man. The thing is, I've had four dates with this guy that I really like. I'm not in love with him and it's not like I think he's "the one" or anything, although I suppose he could be once I get to know him better. Who knows? I move very slowly on relationships. But I'm just wondering if I should get him anything for Valentine's Day. I mean four dates is not a lot but with the exception of one date, we've spent the night with each other each time and the passion level is like a 10. Do you think giving him a small box of nice chocolates is too much so soon or do you think it's expected? I'm really torn.
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    Feb 05, 2015 5:53 PM GMT
    You said it yourself - "I'm not in love with him."

    Valentines' Day is for 3rd graders and lovers. Doesn't sound like you fit either group.

    If you are really unsure, get a card, and hold it until (IF) he gets you one.
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 05, 2015 6:06 PM GMT
    Why not have some fun with it? Invite him out to dinner. Tell him you'll pick him up and to dress up. Show up with one flower. I know it's kind of goofy but so is Valentines Day. I bet you'd both burst out laughing.
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    Feb 05, 2015 6:11 PM GMT
    You should do something to acknowledge VD but in a very casual way ... it would be awkward otherwise.
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    Feb 05, 2015 6:20 PM GMT
    your sending conflicting signals, time for a sit down with yourself
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    Feb 05, 2015 6:26 PM GMT
    pellaz saidyour sending conflicting signals, time for a sit down with yourself


    No, I'm really not. As I said, I move very slowly with relationships. I like him very much and all of our dates have been fantastic, BUT, I know better than to rush things. When I say I'm not in love with him, it simply means it's too soon to know such a thing. All of my past relationships have lasted many years and part of the reason is that I don't jump into things.
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    Feb 06, 2015 3:31 AM GMT
    Chocolate
    CHOCOLATE!
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    to fem...save that for us old couples; something we snag up at the last minute, because we forgot.

    Barrow his truck and detail it or have it detailed.
    I'm assuming he has a big one. You know, to pull your boat...
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    Feb 06, 2015 4:56 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidChocolate
    CHOCOLATE!
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    to fem...save that for us old couples; something we snag up at the last minute, because we forgot.

    Barrow his truck and detail it or have it detailed.
    I'm assuming he has a big one. You know, to pull your boat...


    Actually I just remembered.....he doesn't eat sweets! icon_eek.gif And he drives a car. I could always buy him chocolate then pretend to forget he doesn't like sweets then be all like....."I guess I'll have to eat them."
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    Feb 06, 2015 5:21 AM GMT
    Oh just have some fun Scruffy. Valentines Day is nothing more than a celebration of the joys and gifts of the Heart.

    It doesn't have to be a huge, life-commting, romantic gesture. A good book. A small box of exquisite chocolates. A dinner in a perfectly out-of-the-way and unexpectedly odd restaurant (You ARE in NOLA for G-D's Sake). Send Him something to make Him laugh. Did He mention a favorite TV show or cartoon from childhood? Take that as a theme.

    I have never known anyone to be anything less than thrilled when acknowledged with a gift.

    Giving and receiving is perhaps the only art form that ANYone can Master!!!

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    Feb 06, 2015 5:44 AM GMT
    Cash saidOh just have some fun Scruffy. Valentines Day is nothing more than a celebration of the joys and gifts of the Heart.

    It doesn't have to be a huge, life-commting, romantic gesture. A good book. A small box of exquisite chocolates. A dinner in a perfectly out-of-the-way and unexpectedly odd restaurant (You ARE in NOLA for G-D's Sake). Send Him something to make Him laugh. Did He mention a favorite TV show or cartoon from childhood? Take that as a theme.

    I have never known anyone to be anything less than thrilled when acknowledged with a gift.

    Giving and receiving is perhaps the only art form that ANYone can Master!!!

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    I guess you're right. Besides, he's called me "baby" three times now so I guess that means he likes me a decent amount. icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 06, 2015 6:03 AM GMT
    Sort of depends ... is he the romantic type ... then he'd probably like it.

    Personally I fucking hate Valentines day. Why? Because I think chocolates and flowers for men are a stupid gifts, that's girl crap. You never see some wife giving her man flower and chocolates. And maybe that stuff went over in the 1930's and 40's, but seriously can't anyone come up with anything more creative than that?

    You're my man ... let's go out for a T-Bone and Lager and some boning after. Or how about taking him parachuting or to the car races or horse back riding or camping .... Now THAT'S romantic! icon_lol.gif

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    Feb 06, 2015 6:07 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidSort of depends ... is he the romantic type ... then he'd probably like it.

    Personally I fucking hate Valentines day. Why? Because I think chocolates and flowers for men are a stupid gifts, that's girl crap. You never see some wife giving her man flower and chocolates. And maybe that stuff went over in the 1930's and 40's, but seriously can't anyone come up with anything more creative than that?

    You're my man ... let's go out for a T-Bone and Lager and some boning after. Or how about taking him parachuting or to the car races or horse back riding or camping .... Now THAT'S romantic! icon_lol.gif



    I don't see how chocolate equals femininity. But yes he's extremely romantic but he doesn't like sweets so I'll have to think of something else.
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    Feb 07, 2015 10:36 PM GMT
    Buy him a Blue Dog. There's that little shop in the heart of NOLA where the artist sells his works. And the smaller prints actually are affordable. If somebody did that for me, it would just friggin' melt my heart. And if the relationship works out, you get it back (sorta). If not, he gets a memento of the very best times with you. If you don't do mush, then don't wrap it. Just hand it to him: "Here, Dude--I gotcha this."

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    Feb 08, 2015 8:55 PM GMT
    Well, if you are not sure about it then make it as a usual day. What can I advice more?