Told my girlfriend that I am bi-sexual.

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    Feb 07, 2015 7:36 PM GMT
    I am 50 years old and emotionally and physically attracted to woman, but also very physically attracted to men. Just finally opened up about my attraction to men. All my life I have been secretly attracted to men and hidden it. Brought up in a very traditional Catholic family. Hid it and never acted on it

    Got married at 29yrs old and continued to hide and not act on my urges. Finally, very secretly hooked up with a guy from c/l at around 40 and loved it. Have had probably a dozen more hook ups since then.

    Divorced and 3 kids latter and still keeping it very d/l. My gf had disclosed to me her desire to explore another woman sexually. She has never, but is very bi-curious. I decided, now was the time to disclose my feelings.

    She is very accepting and appreciative that I loved her and respected her enough to tell her. She is very comfortable and encouraging me to continue my m2m experiences.

    PHEW what a relief!!!!

    Any others with similar experiences?
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Feb 07, 2015 9:34 PM GMT
    yay.

    more for us.
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    Feb 07, 2015 9:48 PM GMT
    congrats to you and your GF on being honest and sexually open! a lot of people can't do this. a good friend of mine is 1/2 of a bi couple kinda like yours. they both have same-sex interaction on the side. it's probably way more common than we think. anyway, glad you found what works for YOU.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Feb 08, 2015 1:15 AM GMT
    SO happy for you two! Very few couples can reach that level of comfort and trust with each other. Just mind you both protect yourselves if you're actively exploring icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 08, 2015 1:15 PM GMT
    Congrats dude.
  • steve2steeve

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    Feb 08, 2015 2:28 PM GMT
    Congratulations..
    Sounds like Eutopia does exist after all..!!
  • Peterluke

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    Feb 08, 2015 3:54 PM GMT
    I hope everything works out for you. At least she seems ok with it for now.
  • budri7

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    Feb 08, 2015 4:58 PM GMT
    double the holes....yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh

  • Feb 08, 2015 4:59 PM GMT
    I have 3 exes who are now straight. Patriarchy is a motherfucker
  • tiddlypush

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    Feb 08, 2015 6:54 PM GMT
    wonderful news for you. stay happy
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    Feb 08, 2015 7:59 PM GMT
    budri7 saiddouble the holes....yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh


    LOL! I will share that with her. Well maybe give it a few months and see. icon_lol.gif
  • Svnw688

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    Feb 08, 2015 8:35 PM GMT
    That's cool, honesty is an excellent policy. And it takes strength to be honest sometimes, as here.

    Having said that, I'd imagine you and the g/f are splitsville. It sounds like she's into exploring women, and you're into exploring men. While affection and the general love between you two will likely keep you two together for a while, really, what's the point? Humans are naturally jealous. Couple that with the fact that you BOTH prefer the other sex, and I wonder what glue is left to keep the relationship alive?

    I simply see a pattern of subverting yourself your entire life, and I wonder if keeping the current g/f is the latest iteration thereof. I recommend a clean break while you explore.

    Best of luck.
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    Feb 08, 2015 10:17 PM GMT
    Great to know everything's going well. Congratulations!!
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    Feb 08, 2015 10:26 PM GMT
    Good your girlfriend accepted that you're bi-curious like her. If this happened to me, I'd be pretty happy and relieved too. But, I would be worried about the future. You or her could maybe fall deeply in love with the other partner and it might ruin your current relationship.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Feb 08, 2015 11:58 PM GMT
    Wow you've ruined a lot of lives, good job
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    Feb 09, 2015 2:15 AM GMT
    Wait.... you're 50?!??
    I'll help you explore. ;-)
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:20 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Svnw688 said[/cite]That's cool, honesty is an excellent policy. And it takes strength to be honest sometimes, as here.

    Having said that, I'd imagine you and the g/f are splitsville. It sounds like she's into exploring women, and you're into exploring men. While affection and the general love between you two will likely keep you two together for a while, really, what's the point? Humans are naturally jealous. Couple that with the fact that you BOTH prefer the other sex, and I wonder what glue is left to keep the relationship alive?

    I simply see a pattern of subverting yourself your entire life, and I wonder if keeping the current g/f is the latest iteration thereof. I recommend a clean break while you explore.

    Best of luck.[/quote
    Well my friend I do respect your opinion and thoughts. I will have to tell you that I have never felt more love and respect for anyone else than her after her support and understanding. I will also have to tell you that in my previous relationships with woman I have continued to seek and fantasize about other woman, as well as men. However my fantasies have greatly diminished now, especially with her support.

    Only taken me 50 yrs but I do believe I have finally discovered what love is really about. Real love is not jealous, it is finding joy in the fact that the person you are in love with is happy and content with themselves.
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:34 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidWow you've ruined a lot of lives, good job

    well my friend. Truly wished I was perfect, however I am not. I didn't get to this point in my life without hurting others. Truly not as simple as the post may make it sound. A lot of work still to do. But I believe I may be moving in a positive direction.

    Please don't think I believe that I underestimate the shit I have caused others. But it is what it is, and will have to continue to move forward. Finding a loving and understanding person helps put things in perspective, which helps clear the shit, so I can work towards rebuilding those relationships I have damaged.
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    Feb 09, 2015 7:47 AM GMT
    Integrity, self acceptance, and being open is very good, and, it helps others know they're not alone.

    If you're a faceless, you are nothing less than a coward. It's 2015. Time to put on your big boy pants and lead your life.

    Noone gives a rat's behind what you're into.

    No decent person should live a dual life; a life without an identity; or self hate.

    Time to grow up, get pictured, profiled, and have a life.
  • msw1978

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    Feb 09, 2015 11:03 AM GMT
    I want to come out to wife that I am bi,I have been wrestling men for 13 years she is all for it and has watched me in nude submission matches,I would like to do a stakes match while she watches maybe do a three some after I think she would like it
  • Franko0

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    Feb 09, 2015 1:06 PM GMT
    Great. Happy for you. Enjoy icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 09, 2015 5:37 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidIntegrity, self acceptance, and being open is very good, and, it helps others know they're not alone.

    If you're a faceless, you are nothing less than a coward. It's 2015. Time to put on your big boy pants and lead your life.

    Noone gives a rat's behind what you're into.

    No decent person should live a dual life; a life without an identity; or self hate.

    Time to grow up, get pictured, profiled, and have a life.

    Dude, how about giving me a break. Just came out to my gf. Got to crawl before walking. A lot of other stuff going on. Should give a little leeway to others and let them live the way they decide to live.
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    Feb 09, 2015 7:23 PM GMT
    massey said... Got to crawl before walking. A lot of other stuff going on. Should give a little leeway to others and let them live the way they decide to live.


    congratulations
    its good to be honest to your self and the people you love. At lease some of them some of the time. at the age of 50 you came out after your GF told you.

    i detect a lot of delayed maintenance in your life style. Please be careful as we dont get very many chances to mess up the big life decisions twice.
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    Feb 10, 2015 3:57 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidWait.... you're 50?!??
    I'll help you explore. ;-)

    It's a deal my man icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 10, 2015 11:59 PM GMT
    JockPunkBohemian saidI have 3 exes who went back into the closet, because they wanted white picket fences and to keep up with the Joneses, because being gay was too hard for them to accept



    Fixed that for you.