Guy Shakes My Hand in Weird Way. What Does This Mean?

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    Feb 09, 2015 4:31 AM GMT
    There's this guy that always does something strange when he shakes my hand. As we're shaking he takes his middle finger, curls it inward and repeatedly scratches the inside of my palm. Sometimes he winks at me as he does this like I'm supposed to know what the fuck this means. I've asked several friends but no one knows what it means. I'm sure he's straight so I don't think it means anything gay. Anyone here know?
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    Radd saidThere's this guy that always does something strange when he shakes my hand. As we're shaking he takes his middle finger, curls it inward and repeatedly scratches the inside of my palm. Sometimes he winks at me as he does this like I'm supposed to know what the fuck this means. I've asked several friends but no one knows what it means. I'm sure he's straight so I don't think it means anything gay. Anyone here know?

    He wants to bone you.
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:33 AM GMT
    I heard about this handshake before. It happened to my friend too. It's supposed to mean he is hitting on you.
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:34 AM GMT
    I found it on urbandictionary.com too. icon_lol.gif
    http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=gay+handshake
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:38 AM GMT
    I had a guy do this one time and he was definitely straight. I think it is an acknowledgment that he knows you are gay. There could be more meaning attached to this gesture however that I am not aware of.
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:42 AM GMT
    Jeez, nobody has taught me a secret handshake since the boy scouts. icon_cry.gif
    I've had a few handshakes from guys that probably verged on assault...icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:45 AM GMT
    polfsky saidI heard about this handshake before. It happened to my friend too. It's supposed to mean he is hitting on you.


    But he's straight. (At least he's supposed to be.)
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:49 AM GMT
    It means he wants sex.

    Some Guys who like to occasionally mess around with other Guys but identify as Straight will do this. It's been around forever.
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:50 AM GMT
    Radd said

    But he's straight. (At least he's supposed to be.)


    If he knows that you're gay, then maybe he's just kidding/messing around with you. Do it back to him next time and see what happens. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:51 AM GMT
    Cash saidI t means he wants sex.

    Some Guys who like to occasionally mess around with other Guys but identify as Straight will do this. It's been around forever.


    Interesting. icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 09, 2015 6:41 AM GMT
    Is he like a really old guy ... because that was the signal back in like the early 50's to pick up other gay men
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    Feb 09, 2015 10:31 AM GMT
    He just has a twitch.
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    Feb 09, 2015 1:57 PM GMT
    http://www.landoverbaptist.org/news0101/shake.html

    zomg they were right! lol
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    Feb 09, 2015 2:16 PM GMT
    He's collecting DNA evidence.
  • Farmboy8

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    Feb 09, 2015 2:31 PM GMT
    We use to do that handshake as kids, just as a joke because it catches the "receiver" off guard. The guy either needs to grow up or explain what message he's trying to send.
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    Feb 09, 2015 2:38 PM GMT
    either it means he wants sex or he's making fun of you cause you're gay.
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    Feb 09, 2015 2:46 PM GMT
    calime61 said either it means he wants sex or he's making fun of you cause you're gay.


    He's definitely not making fun of me. He's not like that in the least. I may have to reconsider his being straight after all. He's supposed to have an enormous dick although I'm not super attracted to him. I would do him but wouldn't go out of my way to do him. Although I am curious about this "two-hander" dick he's supposed to have. icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 09, 2015 3:02 PM GMT
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    calime61 said either it means he wants sex or he's making fun of you cause you're gay.


    He's definitely not making fun of me. He's not like that in the least. I may have to reconsider his being straight after all. He's supposed to have an enormous dick although I'm not super attracted to him. I would do him but wouldn't go out of my way to do him. Although I am curious about this "two-hander" dick he's supposed to have. icon_redface.gif


    At most he is looking for some NSA fun.

    Long weekend at most, probably no kissing...
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    Feb 09, 2015 3:07 PM GMT
    willular saidhttp://www.landoverbaptist.org/news0101/shake.html

    zomg they were right! lol

    How come homophobes know about these "homo" things, even charting them, and we gays don't? (Is that site like the "Onion" for Baptists?)

    I've never experienced a "weird" handshake in my life. The more frequent complaint I get is that my own handshake is too firm, I guess from my motorcycling. I grab a guy's hand like it's a handlebar at 70 mph, and he often yelps in pain.
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    Feb 09, 2015 3:16 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIs he like a really old guy ... because that was the signal back in like the early 50's to pick up other gay men


    My high school journalism teacher did the handshake to me when I returned for my first class reunion. Yes, he would have been around in the 50s.
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    Feb 09, 2015 3:20 PM GMT
    Bi maybe? but right now, he seems to be hitting on you
  • magicjake

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    Feb 09, 2015 4:56 PM GMT
    Yeah, thats happened to me a few times. Worst case was after I interviewed a guy for a job. At the end of the interview when I shook his hand he sorta jabbed his index finger into my palm, too hard not be intentional. The guy is in his 50s and never been married. It annoyed me more than anything, but I didn't react to it.

    All it meant to me was that he wasn't getting the job.
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 09, 2015 4:59 PM GMT
    Damn! I never knew that. I've had it happen a few times. Now I'm going to spend all day trying to remember who and when....
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    Feb 09, 2015 7:29 PM GMT
    Okay, where do I mail back my Gay Card to? icon_neutral.gif

    Clearly, I'm not gay enough for today.icon_rolleyes.gif


    We, as children, used to do something like that with the phrase "pardon my wart"...at least it was funny to kids. Just not the kind of 'funny' it is today.icon_wink.gif
  • madsexy

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    Feb 09, 2015 7:45 PM GMT
    The first time this happened to me I was a teenager still living at home in The Netherlands. I asked my oldest brother and my dad - the two men who'd "taught me" how to shake hands what it meant and asked if he had a deformed hand or something like our great-grandfather whose fingers were gnarled up from arthritis. My brother and my dad both told me that doing that to someone means you want to fuck (my dad said it more politely). My dad added that it was an old-time way for one person to let the other know when there was much more tightness and conformance as far as how people interacted with each other even in private. It seems to be making a comeback - or is that CUMback? icon_razz.gif