What is your opinion of the chronically single?

  • ZakSayWhat

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    Feb 09, 2015 7:32 AM GMT
    ?
  • Franko0

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    Feb 09, 2015 1:08 PM GMT
    fear to fall in love and to split up...
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    Feb 09, 2015 1:29 PM GMT
    Speaking as a member of the "chronically single", some of us aren't single of our own accord. Example: most of the dating scene in New Orleans is in bars/clubs if you can't meet anyone through work (gay OR straight). Until this year, smoking was still legal in all bars and casinos unless banned by owner choice, and I'm asthmatic (not full-blown asthma, but very sensitive to smoke, etc.) which pretty much took all of those bars off the market for me.

    Other folks have more important things to worry about than dating. Perfect examples being hard-studiers, getting multiple undergrads or postgrad degrees like medical or legal.

    Never presume to assume something about another person: you're likely to make an arse of yourself.
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    Feb 09, 2015 1:30 PM GMT
    Sometimes opportunity plays a key part in why people are single. If there aren't people to meet and you have limited population you don't have much of a selection or opportunity.

    Those of us who are shy to approach people we might like also have more difficulty.
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    Feb 09, 2015 2:50 PM GMT
    The reasons some people are "chronically" single are as varied as the number of "chronically" single people there are.

  • Feb 09, 2015 2:59 PM GMT
    Date them then they are not, what's the problem?
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    Feb 09, 2015 3:45 PM GMT
    they give a lot of relationship advice
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    Feb 09, 2015 3:56 PM GMT
    What is your opinion of the chronically single?

    No opinion. It may be their choice to be single, and none of my business.

    Now is the DON'T wanna be single, and ask me for assistance, then maybe we can talk. Not sure I can help, but I'll give it a shot.
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    Feb 09, 2015 4:30 PM GMT
    pellaz saidthey give a lot of relationship advice


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    Feb 09, 2015 4:43 PM GMT
    usually just afraid to give up being freely promiscuous.
  • Chadzone

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    Feb 09, 2015 5:10 PM GMT
    Did you ever think some people enjoy being single? Quite the thought, isn't it?
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Feb 09, 2015 5:25 PM GMT
    Chronically happy like me..........
  • 24hourguy

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    Feb 09, 2015 5:37 PM GMT
    Some people are single (and happy) by choice. -And it's not necessarily because they're fucking everyone in town. (Who cares if they are?) Some people just like their independence.
    You make it sound like a disease.icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 09, 2015 6:25 PM GMT
    I'm chronically single...but that's mostly because I'm not the type who is willing to settle just to be with someone.
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    Feb 09, 2015 8:37 PM GMT
    It's hard to understand in the social age but I can spot them immediately when I meet one . Narcissistic ,egotistical and if it is not all about them they are married to a dog or job.
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    Feb 09, 2015 8:57 PM GMT
    I guess I'm exactly the opposite. This is the first time in my life I can remember being single. It's only been 7 months and I feel like another relationship is developing before my eyes. But I feel like I should remain single for a while just to see what it's like.
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    Feb 09, 2015 8:57 PM GMT
    We are all in charge of our own destiny. When all is said and done we reap what we sow.

    I don't think the OP is addressing the happily single people. I believe he's addressing the ones who are constantly bemoaning the fact that they can't find anyone. In this day and age where with the internet the entire world is at your doorstep there are still people saying they can't find someone. They don't realize, fail to realize, or just won't accept the fact that they are themselves the problem. They might be OCD and drive those around them crazy. They may be type A personalities. Perfectionists. Unbending. Rigid. Demanding. Clingy. Self-absorbed. Crazy. Smothering. Debbie Downers. Unpleasant.

    The list is endless as to why someone is chronically single. More often than not the problem is with themselves and not the rest of the world.
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    Feb 09, 2015 9:30 PM GMT
    It's all a matter of priorities.
  • Svnw688

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    Feb 09, 2015 9:51 PM GMT
    (1). If a person is single by choice, then I think "good for them." Some people like being single. Not me, but some do, especially in warmer months.

    (2). If a person wants a partner, but lives in a small city with a population of less than 50K, I think "aww, sad, not many opportunities."

    (3). If a person wants a partner and lives in a sizeable city of more than 50K, but is single longer than a few months, I think "damaged goods." Sometimes guys are in love with the idea of love, and therefore all relationships fail. Sometimes guys want a perfect match, and therefore all relationships fail. Sometimes guys have a 'deal breaker' (non-functional alcoholic, drug user, chronically unemployed, etc.), and therefore all relationships fail. Sometimes a guy is just a loser (straights don't have a lock on that market), and therefore all relationships fail.

    It's kind of like dancing. Some people can naturally do it, some can be taught, and others will never dance.
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    Feb 09, 2015 10:01 PM GMT
    Why does one even care about this? Sorry but wondering why someone is single, why there are so many single people out there, and whatever else is a thought that doesn't concern me at all.

    There are literally too many variables and not one of them bothers me at all.
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    Feb 09, 2015 10:02 PM GMT
    I think some of us are just meant to be on our own
  • charrismd

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    Feb 09, 2015 10:20 PM GMT
    belovedpath saidI'm chronically single...but that's mostly because I'm not the type who is willing to settle just to be with someone.


    HERE HERE!!

  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 09, 2015 10:33 PM GMT
    sf_swimmer saidIt's all a matter of priorities.

    This^^^.

    If you're in a position to have a relationship, you'll at least find serial monogamy. Or whatever it is you're looking for. If you stand back and deign that you haven't found a guy good enough yet, you never will. Because you're a dick. The other guy will unlikely be just what you thought you wanted. That isn't compromise. That's understanding that we all are complex with strengths and weaknesses and surprising, interesting qualities. If you take the time to get to know someone well, you may find some of your original list just falls away because you just got to know someone you really, really like.

    That said, I don't know anyone in a good relationship that doesn't also say (and truly mean) that they were just very lucky to meet this great guy.
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    Feb 09, 2015 10:39 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Radd said[/cite]I guess I'm exactly the opposite. This is the first time in my life I can remember being single. It's only been 7 months and I feel like another relationship is developing before my eyes. But I feel like I should remain single for a while just to see what it's like. [/quote/]

    Knowing how to be content with being with yourself is a big part of emotional health. And emotionally healthy people have healthier relationships.
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    Feb 09, 2015 11:50 PM GMT
    We would have to look at the person's:

    Chinese Astrology information

    Locational Astrology information

    Natal Astrological information, especially the north node

    The chessboard of his family politics: is the king or queen (father or mother) Baptists, etc.

    Are their political constraints (Does he live in Louisiana, or Texas or New York or California?)

    Does he believe sodomy is too much trouble (and exclusive tops and exclusive bottoms sexually unbalanced power roles) but affection, hand jobs, blow jobs, and 69 are okay?

    Does he know how to judge men by the 8 penis types:

    3" x 7", short and very thick - many sexual partners

    4" x 3", short and thin - a nurturer, very giving and quick to become involved

    5" x 5", medium and medium - seeks quick stimulation and resolution and may make promises in the heat of passion that he later has trouble fulfilling

    6" x 3", long and thin - seeks to be in close physical proximity but may consider relationships closer than they really are

    6" x 4", long and medium - seeks to listen which is how he is endearing

    7" x 5", very long and medium - gazes at potential partners with intensity and sensuality

    8" x 5", extremely long and medium - Its owner is helpful, impassioned, and enmeshed with his lover.

    8+" x 7", extremely long with greatest thickness - smiling charmer used to seduce

    . . .

    In the Eastern tradition, sex for the purpose of generating a new body for a soul to inhabit is regarded as a creative, sacred act.

    = = =

    Personally, I like

    4 x 3
    6 x 4
    8 x 5

    It may be difficult to tell the difference between a flaccid 3 x 7 and a 4 x 3.

    5 x 5 can be unfortunates and people reject them because they are not man enough to pull off a relationship; so, in the politics of partnership, they would get ruled / henpecked and must find a fair, kind, and compassionate partner

    7 x 5 and 8 x 5 are difficult to decipher as well. Is that a 7 or an 8? That's why it's important to fill out your profile, participate in forums, spend time interacting with potential partners so their characteristics can approximate their penis size

    will post this as a separate forum thread