Finding a guy my own age.

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    Feb 11, 2015 5:11 AM GMT
    My last two relationships were with guys 10 and 15 years younger. I have always attracted younger guys it seems, but I also like mature men who I can relate to and who may be a little more like me and understand my need for some freedom and space. I find that the young men I see are hot and lots of fun but generally get very possessive very fast. I'm an affectionate and loving guy but I get claustrophobic before too long with someone who is overly jealous. Most of the guys my age that I talk to are really looking for younger twinks. Where are guys my age or older who want guys my age?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 11, 2015 6:21 AM GMT
    Well, the big problem is that older guys always seem to be looking for younger guys ... so just be satisfied with who ever you can get and keep. And consider yourself lucky if they are a little possessive and jealous (within reason).
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    Feb 11, 2015 6:32 AM GMT
    I just don't worry about age too much. The last guy I went out with was 57 years old and he acted like a 15 year old jerk. So much so I even created a thread about it. He was licking my hand in public and all kinds of crazy shit. The guy I'm seeing now is 27 and is incredible mature. He likes classic rock from the 70's and I like new music, so go figure. Just because you're the same age doesn't mean you'll have the same interests. Just date who you click with and forget about the rest.
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    Feb 11, 2015 7:03 AM GMT
    Radd saidI just don't worry about age too much. The last guy I went out with was 57 years old and he acted like a 15 year old jerk. So much so I even created a thread about it. He was licking my hand in public and all kinds of crazy shit. The guy I'm seeing now is 27 and is incredible mature. He likes classic rock from the 70's and I like new music, so go figure. Just because you're the same age doesn't mean you'll have the same interests. Just date who you click with and forget about the rest.

    This!
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    Feb 11, 2015 2:44 PM GMT
    Lol. I had a thread about this a few weeks back
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    Feb 11, 2015 2:57 PM GMT
    strongbull said... guys my age that I talk to are really looking for younger twinks...


    hmmm:
    wonder how that has been working out for them (not?).


    even for the >50year old guys, call it for what it is:
    If they can remember that far back. the relationships they have should be no less important that that what their parents aspired to have.

    if it is not a relationship, only a grinder thing, just have fun and leave it at that
  • tiddlypush

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    Feb 11, 2015 6:38 PM GMT
    i am 63....almost 64. my boy friends were always younger....but i would not mind one closer to my age
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    Feb 11, 2015 6:43 PM GMT
    hello ;)
  • Svnw688

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    Feb 11, 2015 7:23 PM GMT
    Newsflash, it's not only gay men who seek younger...straight men crave young women too.

    It's just a male issue--obsessing about youth. Men, apparently, are wired to like young. Curiously, I've always liked guys my age or older. I suppose my wiring is not the norm, perhaps I'm "defective" in that sense, or perhaps it's just evolutions way to changing things up to maximize opportunities to further the species (i.e., it might become evolutionarily advantageous for young guys to covet older men in the future, perhaps stability?).

    At any rate, there have to be at least a few "defective" guys like me whose wiring prefers someone the same or older in terms of age. Keep looking!

    And enjoying the young guys along the way!
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    Feb 11, 2015 7:40 PM GMT
    a gay man almost 70 is ready to die alone. you got to be emotionally challenged
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    Feb 11, 2015 8:07 PM GMT
    I completely understand what you mean. I don't really relate well to guys around my age. I like history, traveling, cooking, and people my age just want to party, sleep around, vain, and do stupid shit. Guys who are similar in character to me tend to be 35 and older...finding someone my age who is mature is, kinda hard. icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 11, 2015 9:00 PM GMT
    I always seem to like guys around my age but yeah most of them are just like weird, not into guys their own age or something. Lol, I dated younger guys in their 20s and guys in their late 30s. My ideal man is someone who's a little older than me around 36-37. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 12, 2015 2:31 AM GMT
    Sounds like you're already spoiled. Why should we risk it?
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    Feb 12, 2015 2:50 AM GMT
    I would second the opinions that you should date whoever you are attracted to and like. I don't think very many guys ages 41 and 36 (10 and 15 years younger than you) are "very possessive." If that's what you are finding, you are dating the wrong guys.
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    Feb 12, 2015 3:46 AM GMT
    Radd saidI just don't worry about age too much. The last guy I went out with was 57 years old and he acted like a 15 year old jerk. So much so I even created a thread about it. He was licking my hand in public and all kinds of crazy shit. The guy I'm seeing now is 27 and is incredible mature. He likes classic rock from the 70's and I like new music, so go figure. Just because you're the same age doesn't mean you'll have the same interests. Just date who you click with and forget about the rest.



    Nicely said, just do wha makes you happy. Life is too short icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 12, 2015 4:08 AM GMT
    I dated older in my 20s. The 40+ could be me immature than the young ones. Today's meat market can be just as exciting for the 50+ crowd add it is for a newly minted 20 year old. Both like kids in a candy store.

    Remember the 50+ crowd didn't have access to sex at the click of a button when they were younger. It's exciting for them to see what they missed out on.
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    Feb 12, 2015 4:55 AM GMT
    It's just kind of a creepy feeling... thinking back, the three oldest guys I ever dated were... the age I am now! icon_eek.gif


    What happens next year?
  • wellwell

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    Feb 12, 2015 6:32 AM GMT
    I have the opposite challenge ahead.

    Seems I've not been attracted to my immediate peers in several decades; and at that, only the finer specimens of masculinity.
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    Feb 12, 2015 7:15 AM GMT
    HikerSkier saidI would second the opinions that you should date whoever you are attracted to and like. I don't think very many guys ages 41 and 36 (10 and 15 years younger than you) are "very possessive." If that's what you are finding, you are dating the wrong guys.


    Well during the times I was with them they were also younger than 41 and 36. We got older together, LOL. But it could be the same qualities that attract me also end up annoying me later. Good point!
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    Feb 12, 2015 8:49 AM GMT
    pellaz saida gay man almost 70 is ready to die alone. you got to be emotionally challenged


    Well, aren't you a barrel full of monkeys.
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    Feb 12, 2015 8:50 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidIt's just kind of a creepy feeling... thinking back, the three oldest guys I ever dated were... the age I am now! icon_eek.gif


    What happens next year?


    Younger. MUCH younger.
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    Feb 12, 2015 3:52 PM GMT
    Y'all too old.....
    No offence..
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    Feb 12, 2015 4:48 PM GMT
    May you could do some volunteering at "Shady Pines".

    I could show you how to give a happy bed bath.
  • Tig3r

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    Feb 12, 2015 5:25 PM GMT
    Chase646 saidI completely understand what you mean. I don't really relate well to guys around my age. I like history, traveling, cooking, and people my age just want to party, sleep around, vain, and do stupid shit. Guys who are similar in character to me tend to be 35 and older...finding someone my age who is mature is, kinda hard. icon_sad.gif

    Haha that sounds like the gays that I know, shame. Maybe you should look for a bit younger icon_twisted.gificon_wink.gif
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    Feb 13, 2015 12:52 AM GMT
    I think of relationships as science experiments - a combination of two sets of ingredients. Sometimes you don't know what you're going to get until you mix them.

    Don't get stuck in questions. Go forward, for the experience and see what happens.