What does "discreet" mean?

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    Feb 13, 2015 7:54 PM GMT
    Is it the exact same as "DL" or does it mean non-scene/non-gossipy? I am out but I also keep my business to myself. Does that qualify as "discreet"?
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 13, 2015 8:09 PM GMT
    pazzy saidthink it means closeted or they want to keep things on the low where nobody knows.

    Ya, this, but also can mean that if you aren't out, he can keep your secret and doesn't mind that you're not out.
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    Feb 13, 2015 8:14 PM GMT
    there's a difference between being closeted and being more private, privacy vs. secrecy.

    discreet: out to some or most but not 'clockable'.

    DL: not out to anyone because they don't even consider themselves gay and usually doing things secretly or outright cheating.

    OP: youre describing discreet.
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    Feb 13, 2015 8:18 PM GMT
    It means my wife is sleeping in the next room. Be wery qwiet!
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 13, 2015 8:21 PM GMT
    CODY4U saidthere's a difference between being closeted and being more private, privacy vs. secrecy.

    discreet: out to some or most but not 'clockable'.

    DL: not out to anyone because they don't even consider themselves gay and usually doing things secretly or outright cheating.

    OP: youre describing discreet.

    Yeah, you're right. This is it.
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    Feb 13, 2015 9:15 PM GMT
    Discreet could mean anything from downlow to no flamers allowed. You'd need more info than just one word to judge that.
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    Feb 13, 2015 9:38 PM GMT
    It means "red flag".
  • mybud

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    Feb 13, 2015 9:55 PM GMT
    woodfordr saidIs it the exact same as "DL" or does it mean non-scene/non-gossipy? I am out but I also keep my business to myself. Does that qualify as "discreet"?
    Yes.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Feb 13, 2015 10:52 PM GMT
    Paranoid schizo
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    Feb 13, 2015 11:10 PM GMT
    MARRIED
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    Feb 13, 2015 11:33 PM GMT
    It means you don't broadcast your sexuality, but to those you trust you probably share more information.

    I'm curious though, LGBTQ want equal rights, but if we want that why do we shame those who are not "out" but we do not shame every heterosexual for not stating they're heterosexual? If gay people have to state their sexuality then so should the entire world. If the world does not need to confirm they're straight, you only need to confirm your preferences to others if you actually give a fuck to.

    And to all the closet and/or discreet trollers, enjoy being a sophisticated neo-bigot icon_smile.gif. Gotta love how gays piss about straights hating them, and then the same gays go hate other gays because they don't have the lifestyle they think is correct.
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  • Svnw688

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    Feb 13, 2015 11:41 PM GMT
    TO22 saidIt means you don't broadcast your sexuality, but to those you trust you probably share more information.

    I'm curious though, LGBTQ want equal rights, but if we want that why do we shame those who are not "out" but we do not shame every heterosexual for not stating they're heterosexual? If gay people have to state their sexuality then so should the entire world. If the world does not need to confirm they're straight, you only need to confirm your preferences to others if you actually give a fuck to.

    And to all the closet and/or discreet trollers, enjoy being a sophisticated neo-bigot icon_smile.gif. Gotta love how gays piss about straights hating them, and then the same gays go hate other gays because they don't have the lifestyle they think is correct.
    I choose not to hate anyone, including the trolls, because fortunately i'm not a bias hypocrite icon_smile.gif


    I don't think anyone shames an LGBT person for not being out. I think there is 'pressure' placed on that person, but that's simply because "out" people realize how (relatively speaking) much better being out is as opposed to the constant mental burden of being closeted. Believe me, I'm 'out' and I 100% recommend it to anyone who can safely come out. So perhaps you're seeing our genuine concern for the closeted person's mental well-being, in trying to persuade them to come out, as an attempt to 'shame' them?

    Next, the LGBT community DOES shame hypocritical persons, especially politicians. Look, if little Adam down the road doesn't want to come out, I'll encourage him to but I'm not going to expose him. IF, however, little Adam runs an election (or business) that glorifies the "straight" lifestyle and shuns gays, while secretly hooking up with men in hotels and doing meth, then we WILL expose the hypocrisy. See the difference?

    I think it's a distinction with a meaning. I really don't see shaming of closeted people. I don't mean to be confrontational, but where is there evidence of that? On RJ forums? There been a study done on this? Your personal experience?
  • xebec75

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    Feb 14, 2015 12:58 AM GMT
    I agree with a lot of what is being said, especially by Svnw688, I think the problem with the term is that it has many different meanings to many different people...I hope someone who uses the term to self-identify can shed more light on the subject...icon_confused.gif
  • mystery905

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    Feb 14, 2015 1:10 AM GMT
    It means don't tell my wifey on me.
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    Feb 14, 2015 1:54 AM GMT
    Svnw688 said
    TO22 saidIt means you don't broadcast your sexuality, but to those you trust you probably share more information.

    I'm curious though, LGBTQ want equal rights, but if we want that why do we shame those who are not "out" but we do not shame every heterosexual for not stating they're heterosexual? If gay people have to state their sexuality then so should the entire world. If the world does not need to confirm they're straight, you only need to confirm your preferences to others if you actually give a fuck to.

    And to all the closet and/or discreet trollers, enjoy being a sophisticated neo-bigot icon_smile.gif. Gotta love how gays piss about straights hating them, and then the same gays go hate other gays because they don't have the lifestyle they think is correct.
    I choose not to hate anyone, including the trolls, because fortunately i'm not a bias hypocrite icon_smile.gif


    I don't think anyone shames an LGBT person for not being out. I think there is 'pressure' placed on that person, but that's simply because "out" people realize how (relatively speaking) much better being out is as opposed to the constant mental burden of being closeted. Believe me, I'm 'out' and I 100% recommend it to anyone who can safely come out. So perhaps you're seeing our genuine concern for the closeted person's mental well-being, in trying to persuade them to come out, as an attempt to 'shame' them?

    Next, the LGBT community DOES shame hypocritical persons, especially politicians. Look, if little Adam down the road doesn't want to come out, I'll encourage him to but I'm not going to expose him. IF, however, little Adam runs an election (or business) that glorifies the "straight" lifestyle and shuns gays, while secretly hooking up with men in hotels and doing meth, then we WILL expose the hypocrisy. See the difference?

    I think it's a distinction with a meaning. I really don't see shaming of closeted people. I don't mean to be confrontational, but where is there evidence of that? On RJ forums? There been a study done on this? Your personal experience?


    if hypocrisy is the real issue, maybe the gay community needs to check itself next because i've seen plenty of what TO22 is referring to on this site and irl. maybe you don't do it, but lots of gay people LOVE to criticize and bark demands at guys who aren't '100% out'. it's not coming from a place of concern when it's insulting. it's much more of a 'this is why i'm better than him' tone.
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    Feb 14, 2015 2:14 AM GMT
    TO22 saidIt means you don't broadcast your sexuality, but to those you trust you probably share more information.

    I'm curious though, LGBTQ want equal rights, but if we want that why do we shame those who are not "out" but we do not shame every heterosexual for not stating they're heterosexual? If gay people have to state their sexuality then so should the entire world. If the world does not need to confirm they're straight, you only need to confirm your preferences to others if you actually give a fuck to.

    And to all the closet and/or discreet trollers, enjoy being a sophisticated neo-bigot icon_smile.gif. Gotta love how gays piss about straights hating them, and then the same gays go hate other gays because they don't have the lifestyle they think is correct.
    I choose not to hate anyone, including the trolls, because fortunately i'm not a bias hypocrite icon_smile.gif

    Problem with being discreet is you won't even bother to utter a word even when someone is degrading a gay guy. Basically, you won't stand for anything where even a hint of homosexuality comes into the picture because you fear your secret won't be a secret anymore. I know this because this is how I behaved when I was inside the closet. Go ahead make up some lie where you voiced your concern about some issues related with gays publically. So many guys are out without broadcasting it. There is no "lifestyle" associated with being out.
  • spyoyo93

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    Feb 14, 2015 4:48 AM GMT
    Discreet = closet gay
  • Eli_jah

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    Feb 14, 2015 5:16 AM GMT
    It means, "Don't tell my wife I suck dick."

    Most "discreet" guys are married. Cheating fucks.
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    Feb 14, 2015 10:03 AM GMT
    My ex Filipino fb said: ``boo, come over i need some lol. Then leave at 9 am, i want to be discreet.`` I was like really, a text like this at 3 am???
  • jeep334

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    Feb 14, 2015 12:04 PM GMT
    TO22 saidIt means you don't broadcast your sexuality, but to those you trust you probably share more information.

    I'm curious though, LGBTQ want equal rights, but if we want that why do we shame those who are not "out" but we do not shame every heterosexual for not stating they're heterosexual? If gay people have to state their sexuality then so should the entire world. If the world does not need to confirm they're straight, you only need to confirm your preferences to others if you actually give a fuck to.

    And to all the closet and/or discreet trollers, enjoy being a sophisticated neo-bigot icon_smile.gif. Gotta love how gays piss about straights hating them, and then the same gays go hate other gays because they don't have the lifestyle they think is correct.
    I choose not to hate anyone, including the trolls, because fortunately i'm not a bias hypocrite icon_smile.gif



    You've stated such a great approach to life and how I have felt my entire life. Thank you. icon_biggrin.gif
  • flahotstuff

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    Feb 14, 2015 6:40 PM GMT
    It means I'm hiding something or mentally challenged!
  • tj85016

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    Feb 14, 2015 6:42 PM GMT
    it means you don't tell your wife you're sucking off dudes in the men's room at the mall
  • Apparition

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    Feb 14, 2015 7:07 PM GMT
    it means he is too embarrassed to be seen with you, but you have a nice dick.
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    Feb 14, 2015 8:28 PM GMT
    Discreet = run away from.

    Life is way too short to deal with the drama of a person of that caliber.
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    Feb 14, 2015 8:35 PM GMT
    I have a similar question: in online profiles, i see a lot of "Open-Minded" as if it were a code for something. what does it mean?