Was I just lead on?

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    Feb 13, 2015 10:13 PM GMT
    Met this guy on a dating app. Took it to Skype it was going so well and he was flirting alot skyped a few more days. Then he wanted me to text him. We text for a bit and talk on the phone and skyped once more then he asked to make me dinner on a Friday I had to visit family that day so I said Saturday and then plans changed so the same day I said Friday will work but he was asleep at that point and didnt respond until 8 or 9 pm that Friday I said oh you must have not saw that message and he says I must have read it half asleep and forgot about it. i wish I saw it it would have been nice to see you is what he said after that. So I said I was going for a drive and it led to me going to hang out over there meeting for the first time late at night (hour drive). So its late asks me to spend the night. Nothing happens but cuddling, play fighting, kiss and we talk all night until 4 am its great and fall asleep together. Next day spend the whole day together he carries me to the bed and couch and says he likes me multiple times asks multiple times whats on my mind stares at me, tells me personal thingsI tell him whats on my mind which is I hope we dont stop talking he says we wont it was very sincere and honest I usually dont believe people but I believed it. He makes me lunch and keeps holding me throughout the day cuddled watching shows on the couch. Later he has to leave for a family members birthday. I got a little sad, he notices and he asks if I want to go and I say no because that would be too soon. He says you'll meet them eventually implying ill meet the family eventually. He talked about kids and who I could see myself with and stuff also. It sounds like its moving fast but I didnt mind. So he starts getting ready and he cant stop talking to me as he gets ready so he had to close the bathroom door because i was distracting even though I was just sitting there not saying much. He gets ready and then walks me to my car gives me a kiss and smiles and waves bye smiling. Great night right? Okay so I hear from him after the weekend and he says it would be nice to hear my voice for a minute so we talk it goes well. We talk on the phone the next few days. Wednesday comes and I don't talk to him until 11 pm because work got out late and he says when can he see me again so he says next Wednesday maybe Tuesday and he's doing laundry and eating and talking to me and then has to take a shower so we end the call but he says he'll call me after because he has to wait for the laundry, but I don't hear anything. I figure okay its late probably fell asleep but I wish I didn't wait to hear back. The next day is his birthday so I sent him a birthday e card of a koala because he kept asking what to name his stuffed koala bear so the talking koala birthday card was perfect he was excited to see it. I sent it at midnight. I didn't expect to hear from him Thursday on through the weekend because he was going to visit family and friends and party. I haven't heard a word from him since the day he made plans to see eachother which was Wednesday. So it's been 9 days since ive heard from him when we were talking most days and he seemed to be so genuine and it was going well. I wasn't clingy and kept distance and everything so that's not a problem. I got excited and made a valentine for him and I also bought a little birthday gift for him which he knew and I got. So now I have no use for that and I just don't understand what I did or why this happens to me every time I talk to someone. I know when its going to end always, but this time I didn't. He made me feel things ive never felt before goosebumps and butterflies and all which has never happened to me before. Thats why this one is getting to me so much.
    I usually just shrug it off, but this was different and I all I really want is a response as to why? even if it's I didn't like you. What should I do? I was thinking about sending the gift with a note to him, but then that would look bad so I probably wont. I really can't stop thinking about him. Am I just crazy for thinking someone that could made me feel things could like me? Should I give it more time to hear a response? I just don't know what to do anymore.
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    Feb 13, 2015 10:33 PM GMT
    dude...thats a wall of text. paragraphs are your friend...
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 13, 2015 11:25 PM GMT
    Have you tried to reach him?
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 16, 2015 6:48 AM GMT
    Dude,

    Bring some sense of order and discipline into your life, so that you can project it into the lives of the possibly significant others.

    Yup. Starting to write in paragraphs would be a very cool idea!

    If it is of any consolation, yours is a story that we all get to hear pretty often these days.

    Apps are for free. Skype is for free. WhatsApp & Co. are for free. We live in a world of perfectly free toys.We are kids in a toy store, and all the toys we want are for free. So, no one really attaches any significance to all of this. This is not about the people using the toys. It is about the fact that the toys are for free and that people using them are perfectly interchangeable. Hence, this rather infantile toying with other people and their emotions has become a mainstream.

    Nope, you cannot change any of the above. That's how the things are.

    But you can change the way other people perceive you.

    You have to develop your own sense of personal identity that would make it very clear to all the prospective BFs right from the onset that you are NOT just one guy among thousands of other guys hanging out on the Grindr.

    Some dudes sport a ripped sixpack. For whatever it is worth, some guys find this irresistible. Other dudes are loaded, and probably more generous than your average guy. Again, some people find this to be very attractive. Some guys have awesome social lives, and there are folks who wish to hang out around them.

    I won't go into judging any of the above. But unless you define your specific identity more of the similar is likely to be on its way for you!

    SC

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    Feb 16, 2015 5:38 PM GMT
    pandorasbox tried to sayMet this guy on a dating app.

    Took it to Skype it was going so well and he was flirting alot skyped a few more days. Then he wanted me to text him.

    We text for a bit and talk on the phone and Skyped once more then he asked to make me dinner on a Friday I had to visit family that day, so I said Saturday.

    And then plans changed, so the same day, I said, "Friday will work," but he was asleep at that point and didn't respond until 8 or 9 pm that Friday.

    I said, "Oh, you must have not seen that message. And he says, "I must have read it half asleep and forgot about it."

    "I wish I saw it, it would have been nice to see you," is what he said after that. So I said I was going for a drive and it led to me going to hang out over there meeting for the first time late at night (hour drive).

    It's late and he asks me to spend the night. Nothing happens but cuddling, play fighting, kissing and talking all night until 4 am. It's great and we fall asleep together.

    The next day, we spend the whole day together. He carries me to the bed and couch and says he likes me multiple times. He asks multiple times whats on my mind. He also stares at me, while telling me personal things.

    I tell him what's on my mind which is, "I hope we don't stop talking." He says we won't. It was very sincere and honest. I usually dont believe people but I believed it.

    He makes me lunch and keeps holding me throughout the day cuddled watching shows on the couch.

    Later, he has to leave for a family member's birthday. I got a little sad, he notices and he asks if I want to go. I say no because that would be too soon.

    He says, "you'll meet them eventually," implying i'll meet the family eventually. He talked about kids and who I could see myself with and stuff also.

    It sounds like it's moving fast, but I didn't mind. So he starts getting ready. He can't stop talking to me as he gets ready, so he had to close the bathroom door because i was distracting, even though I was just sitting there not saying much.

    He gets ready and then walks me to my car, gives me a kiss, smiles, and waves bye. Great night right?

    I hear from him after the weekend and he says, "It would be nice to hear my voice for a minute," so we talk and it goes well. We talk on the phone the next few days. Wednesday comes and I don't talk to him until 11 pm because work got out late.

    He asks when can he see me again. He says, "next Wednesday, maybe Tuesday." He's doing laundry and eating and talking to me and then has to take a shower so we end the call but he says he'll call me after because he has to wait for the laundry.

    But I don't hear anything. I figure, "Okay, its late." I probably fell asleep but I wish I didn't wait to hear back.

    The next day is his birthday, so I sent him a birthday e-card of a koala because he kept asking what to name his stuffed koala bear, so the talking koala birthday card was perfect, he was excited to see it. I sent it at midnight.

    I didn't expect to hear from him Thursday on through the weekend because he was going to visit family and friends and party.

    I haven't heard a word from him since the day we made plans to see each other, which was Wednesday. So it's been 9 days since I've heard from him when we were talking most days. He seemed to be so genuine and it was going well. I wasn't clingy and kept distance and everything, so that's not a problem.

    I got excited and made a valentine for him. I also bought a little birthday gift for him, which he knew. So now I have no use for that. I just don't understand what I did, or why this happens to me every time I talk to someone.

    I know when it's going to end always, but this time I didn't. He made me feel things I've never felt before: goosebumps and butterflies and all, which has never happened to me before. That's why this one is getting to me so much.

    I usually just shrug it off, but this was different. All I really want is a response as to why? Even if it's, "I didn't like you."

    What should I do? I was thinking about sending the gift with a note to him, but then that would look bad so I probably won't. I really can't stop thinking about him.

    Am I just crazy for thinking someone that could made me feel things could like me? Should I give it more time to hear a response? I just don't know what to do anymore.


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  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 16, 2015 6:21 PM GMT
    Call him. If he doesn't answer, leave him a message that you miss him and would like to take some vacation time and go some where alone together. ... If he answers, tell him you have missed him and see where it goes form there.

    If you had to leave a message and he doesn't respond, then he is DOA or MIA, look for someone else.
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    Feb 21, 2015 11:11 PM GMT
    Actions speak louder than words.
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    Feb 21, 2015 11:28 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidCall him. If he doesn't answer, leave him a message that you miss him and would like to take some vacation time and go some where alone together. ... If he answers, tell him you have missed him and see where it goes form there.

    If you had to leave a message and he doesn't respond, then he is DOA or MIA, look for someone else.


    This is good advise, you should try to contact him and tell him that you miss him. He could have been really busy and have no time to talk?
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    Feb 22, 2015 4:03 AM GMT
    It's very easy to "chase" a guy and not even realize it. This can put a lot of pressure on him and cause him to pull away. It's best to let him do his fair share of initiating contact. This of course is easier said than done when you're crazy about someone.

    And I agree about the text wall. And punctuation is your friend. How did you get through school?