Can Pornography and other factors during sexual development influence sexual preferences?

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    Feb 15, 2015 7:53 AM GMT
    Bear with me and keep an open mind. I know the mainstream (and current accepted scientific view) on the causes of homosexuality(or any other kind than heterosexuality) is that a combination of both genetic and environmental factors influence us very early on.

    Please don't speculate on my credibility or my sincerity in the ideas I'm about to put forth.. I merely want others' opinions on it. This is my personal story that I DO believe had something to do with me being gay.

    I have always been a mama's boy. I grew up extremely attached to my mom (not breastfed though), and definitely was always closer to her than my dad. She was always extremely loving and understand of virtually anything about me. Don't judge, but I did sleep in the bed with her probably to a later age that I should have... haha. But nevertheless I was always the emotional and sensitive kid growing up. Kids from elementary and middle school told me later on that they sensed something different about me.

    I get to age 11 or 12 and I get my first girlfriend. I specifically
    remember getting boners around her and wanted to do sexual things with her. We never ended up even kissing thought because I was too shy and afraid to try. I also remember turning to the softcore HBO porn back then, and even though we didn't have the channel, I would always masturbate if I could even catch a glimpse of a boob through the static.

    I didn't even know what gay was. Then dial up internet comes around and I remember stumbling upon a gay porn site, and becoming sexually obsessed with dicks. I struggled with leading a Southern Baptist lifestyle while looking at gay porn and other deviant sexual websites from ages 12-19..going to youth groups that preached against homosexuality and dating girls (but never having sex with them). At 19, I started thinking that maybe I was truly gay and I wanted to prove it to myself. I called up a female friend and basically told her I wanted to have sex. Picked up a condom, went to her house and fucked her for an hour..all while only having a semi-boner and not really being turned on at all.

    After my failed sexual encounter, I became a bit more open minded and decided to date my first guy. It was like when we made out and messed around I felt that "spark" that told me that it was the right thing to do...in contrast to my failed experience with a girl.

    The thing I don't understand is why I used to get erections for girls, watch straight porn, etc.. then all of a sudden I started noticing guys. There was no specific event that I remember changing from. I also wonder if my mothers parenting style and my dad's "softness" towards me in my first few years of life could have triggered something to express certain genes that influenced my sexuality later on. Or if maybe the concept of bisexuality could arise from exactly which or how many of certain genes were turned on by biological and environmental factors at a young age

    Please don't flame me and tell me I'm nuts...all of this really happened and I really would like some insight into whether this sounds plausible or not.

    -M
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 15, 2015 8:27 AM GMT
    No ... some of the first porn books I ever saw as a kid (I'm talking really young, like maybe 8 or 9) were Penthouse and Playboys by cousins showed me ... I had no interest in them
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    Feb 15, 2015 8:45 AM GMT
    Nope. It never happened to me. Even in straight porn, I was only looking at the guy, not the girl. I don't ever remember getting any erection looking at naked girls.
    On the other hand, there are certain aspects of watching porn which may influence your sexual fantasies and preferences. I have yet to hear that someone's preference of man or woman was governed by the kind of porn they watched during their sexual development.
    In your case, you might be a bisexual.
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    Feb 15, 2015 9:25 AM GMT
    __morphic__ saidNope. It never happened to me. Even in straight porn, I was only looking at the guy, not the girl. I don't ever remember getting any erection looking at naked girls.
    On the other hand, there are certain aspects of watching porn which may influence your sexual fantasies and preferences. I have yet to hear that someone's preference of man or woman was governed by the kind of porn they watched during their sexual development.
    In your case, you might be a bisexual.



    I think there is no one cause of homosexuality. It's one of those things that is complicated. I like to think that sexuality and personality are more like weaving. Weaving in the way that you have certain kinds of fibers and looms(biological), but the weaver (environment) affects what type of fabric would be produced.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 16, 2015 6:55 AM GMT
    This is an interesting topic.

    Yet, you seem to be convinced that you are gay, attracted to other males.

    Why would the background story really matter?

    SC
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    Feb 17, 2015 2:38 AM GMT
    SilverRRCloud saidThis is an interesting topic.

    Yet, you seem to be convinced that you are gay, attracted to other males.

    Why would the background story really matter?

    SC


    That's kind of like asking "where do we come from?" Because I'm curious and would like to know. Studying Psychology in college, I learned that all kinds of research has been done on the causes of types of sexuality... In women their sexual seems to be more dynamic..they can change between bisexual, straight, lesbian, etc at different points in their life and be emotionally happy. With men, we seems to be set in stone at an early age as either heterosexual or homosexual. It was just a topic out of curiosity... I wanted to relay my personal experience and see others' thoughts on it.
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    Feb 17, 2015 4:07 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidNo ... some of the first porn books I ever saw as a kid (I'm talking really young, like maybe 8 or 9) were Penthouse and Playboys by cousins showed me ... I had no interest in them



    ^This, around the same age, my dad had stacks of them hidden in our garage, I remember sneaking out of the house and looking at them, I had never seen naked men with boners though up until that point, only Sears or JC Penny male underwear models. My first real look at naked men with boners was a Playgirl magazine in my teens, when I finally hit puberty at 15. I think I had found it in some trash barrel. Two years later, I had my first male-male sexual experience with a high school friend which lasted four years with him.

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    Mar 02, 2015 4:01 AM GMT
    When I first started masturbating, I would try to imagine women, because I just assumed that that is what it would take get aroused. I thought it worked, but really all that was working was touching myself or even just the thought of touching myself. It doesn't take much to arouse an adolescent boy. It wasn't until later that I discovered that men actually turn me on. Then it was so obvious that I was actually attracted to men. So, was I straight at first? No, I was just ignorant that I could even be attracted to men and able to get erect just at thought of touching myself.

    I feel for you, buddy. It sounds like you've been around people who've tried to convince that you can't be gay through the course of your life. Time to let some of that crap go.